🍋THE HATE 'THIS MAN' GAVE: MY STORY

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🍋When life gives you lemons, make lemonade - ELBERT HUBBARD [1915]

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📱picture of me


When I first had my interview for a dream job, it was in 2018. I performed so well that the chairman and two other members of the governing board recommended me for immediate employment. Days turned into weeks, weeks into months, and months into a year. I left and resumed my freelancing and contract work after not receiving a call to collect my official appointment letter.

On December 3rd, 2021, I received a call from the Personal Assistant (PA) to the states minister congratulating me on my appointment and informing me that my resumption of duty would begin on that date. It was inconvenient because I only had the weekend to pack and travel. My family and friends called and texted to congratulate me shortly after.

I arrived on December 6th, 2021, and completed some paperwork. The next day, I was told, there would be a mandatory exercise, identity verification, and ranking.

I arrived home exhausted from my paper-related activities. My father called me shortly after he got home from work and inquired about my day and other details. I then told him about it and showed him a printout that I was supposed to bring to the verification.

He began reading with a smile on his face because this time I had a higher ranking. For the first time, my credentials and work experience were taken into consideration. But, all of a sudden, the smile faded and I sensed anxiety.
He sighed and asked me to take a seat before telling me something shocking. He said that one of the signatories on this slip was the HR director from 2018 and that the reason I never received my appointment letter was that 'THIS MAN [censored]' tore it up, calling me a "kafiri" (en: infidel/non-believer) and claiming that I'd never get a job because I didn't share his religious beliefs and my Middle name [censored] was an insult to his religion. That's when I became concerned but reasoned to myself that his viewpoints must have evolved over time.

I'm at the verification venue and have submitted my file so that the board can review it before calling me. Two hours later, I was called in. Three elderly men were spread out from right to left, with a young man setting up his computer by the far end. One of them was an elderly man in white Arewa attire seated in the middle, glasses dropped below his eyes, who had been watching me from the door until I was asked to sit. I ignored it because it made me uncomfortable.

Questions about the authenticity of my documents started to flood in. Then I noticed the elderly man with glasses staring at me with a hateful expression on his face. Then he whispered something into the other board chairman's ear. "Oh, Damn!" as I realized what had happened. This is the then HR Director to whom my father was referring, THIS MAN.

I was called to the side a few moments later and told that there was a problem with my appointment letter and that I didn't qualify for the job. What, exactly, are you talking about?

I was speechless, and THIS MAN demanded that my verification be stopped and that I go to the HR department to be demoted to a matching position.

I couldn't say anything because I was confused. I was unable to think clearly. Something was preventing me from speaking and inquiring.

I was then assigned to an attendant. My position was changed from L2 to AS after I went to HR. He signed and cleared me to have my data captured when I returned. I was still feeling numb.

When I returned home, my mother greeted me with a huge smile. I burst into tears right then. When my father and brother returned from seeing the mechanic, I told them everything that had happened. I was demoted from a position for which I was qualified simply because a man felt I didn't deserve it, and no one could do anything about it.

My mother called me to the living room later that night, before I went to bed, and asked me to kneel. I obeyed, unsure what she was up to, and she placed her hands on my head, said a prayer, and then asked me, "What is your name?" [I was thinking to myself, "Oh Mum, please not now, I'm a grown-up"] I replied to Starr, and she asked me to go sleep.

I went to my room, and every time I thought about what had happened, I would cry and pray until I fell asleep.

On December 8th, 2021, I received a phone call that woke me up from my sleep, and it was the P.A who had previously called me for my appointment. He sounded very urgent and told me I needed to go to the verification venue right away with my documents.

When I arrived, THIS MAN was sitting there, looking as if he had no idea what I was doing there. I politely greeted him and inquired about his well-being. The minister then abruptly enters and requests my presence.

I approached him with my file as he sat down. I could see already that THIS MAN was trembling. THIS MAN then claimed that I lacked the required three years of work experience and a professional membership certificate for engineers [COREN]. The minister flipped through my file and inquired about my age, qualifications, and graduation year. "How did you finish school so early and achieve everything listed on your resume?" he asked. Because it was rhetorical and a huge compliment, I blushed. The next thing I knew, he had THIS MAN'S attention and was asking why I had been demoted when I had over 5 years work experience and my field was Architecture, not Engineering, hence I have no business with COREN. He, the Minister, personally reviewed my application and determined that I was a good fit for the position.

THIS MAN still trembling then apologized, and the minister stood up and asked for me to follow him. He requested and signed my first appointment letter with L2. He then went on to raise my salary above the standard, collected the demoted letter, and tore it up. I was speechless until he looked at me and said, "He doesn't know me, but he was troubled, restless, and couldn't sleep last night." That he kept seeing me and immediately called his P.A to see if I was finished with my verification and everything. The P.A informed him of what had occurred, which is why he came himself.

He then turned to THIS MAN and said, "He doesn't want me to have any problems working here, and he wants my office to be ready and the keys handed over to me."

"Well, it was dancing and singing with everyone crying [we cry a lot in my house], tears of joy and laughter," when I told my family I was reinstated back.

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📱picture of me with office colleague

The hate he gave me? The lemons he served me? turned to sweet lemonade.

I BELIEVE IT IS ACCEPTABLE TO HOLD DIFFERING RELIGIOUS BELIEFS. THAT IS WHAT DISTINGUISHES US. WHAT IS WRONG IS USING RELIGION, GENDER, OR RACE TO DETERMINE AN INDIVIDUAL'S WORTH.

I've been at work for about two months now, and it's been wonderful. What keeps coming up in my head is;

Should I have spoken up and demanded my rights from THIS MAN?

Was keeping quiet the right thing to do, and was it the right response that led to my reinstatement?

This experience has shaped my mindset in such a way that I can now double-check my reaction to situations. Plus, as always, my faith in humanity is being restored as I see more and more goodness.

Good news! We had a send-off party for THIS MAN today because he was transferred to another state office. I'm still new, learning a lot on the job and figuring things out, but I'm confident everything will work out.

WHATEVER IS MEANT FOR YOU, WILL BE YOURS.
SOME YOU HAVE TO FIGHT FOR AND OTHERS YOU HAVE TO REMAIN SILENT, TRUST YOUR GUT FEELING AND LET A HIGHER POWER THROUGH OTHERS FIGHT FOR YOU.

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What a trying time, but a great story with a wonderful ending! This is perfect for InnerBlocks, LadiesOfHive, and ThoughtfulDailyPost, all three! Bravo! Love that first pic of you, pretty lady! You look so professional there and in a setting where you belong!
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Thank you Ms kitty, it is a story i was being careful about and at same time looking forward to share. I'm glad you read it and thank you so much for seeing it worthy of curating and the sweet compliment, I'm blushing🤩😊
Love you this big🤗🌺

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@queenstarr

This turned out to be a wonderful post... yes, such a trying situation. But I feel you handled it with tact.

It's not the situation, it's how you handle it...

Your continued journey to enlighten us with your stories that tell us of trying situations, that you handle with positive energy and thoughtfulness... priceless. Thank you for using my TAG.

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You're so kind Wes Sir, I'm so grateful you read my post and for the guidance. It's a privilege to share my story and inspire people however I can. Love you this big❤️🤗

!PIZZA

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You're most welcome... and !hivebits

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As always, my friend, you leave me speechless. You have a great road ahead of you always, and from what you say it is so wherever you go. Don't ever change. Life gives us lessons, it's up to us if we learn them. You are a warrior and you have excellent qualities and capabilities in many ways and that does not go unnoticed. Everyone who gets to know you, even a little, like me, realizes that. You also have wise parents, especially your mother. There is someone who in silence fights for you, trust in that is called faith. I am proud of you @queenstarr, congratulations 😘.

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You're so sweet, your words so kind, speaks alot about you too Marbrym. I Love you alot Sis, thank you for the encouragement, damn you caught me off guard with your sweet comment.😘🤗

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Wow, @queenstarr! I'm so sorry that THIS MAN treated you so badly and so unjustly! I don't know if you had kept quiet how this would have turned out. In this world in which we live, it isn't always an easy thing to do. I do know that we are instructed to turn the other cheek and forgive 70 time 7.

Good things come to those who wait, and if it's meant to be, it usually turns out. Sometimes, it's faster than others.

I am happy for you and pray for your continued success!💜🤗😘

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Your words is so kind and warm as always, I thank God daily i met you. Thank you for the encouragement, prayer and love😍🤗

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You are most welcome my sister! I am so glad we met as well! Take care and have a lovely Friday!🤗🤗🌻💜😘

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You finally wrote about this, I'm glad things turned out to be good in the end. 🎉

As much as there are hateful people, the good and loving ones will always outweigh them.

Many things I wanted to say about THAT MAN, but I better not do that here. 😁

WHATEVER IS MEANT FOR YOU, WILL BE YOURS
For sure.
!PIZZA
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Yeah let's not do that here😂
You've been here for me Yaz, You and @pravesh0 I wouldn't trade for anything except 1milllion starbits, and when i earn it back, I'll buy you both back cause you're both worth it😂❤️

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It's sad to see people using religion, gender and race to still discriminate us. But you did very well. I am so proud of you. ❤️
You'll do great in life.

Stay the same always and you will be a Super Starr in no time. 😉

!LUV and !PIZZA for being a super cool friend.🙃

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I am so glad that we always find ourselves surrounded by awesome people irrespective of the bad.
You'll do great too and you have no idea how much I believe in you. How much i believe in You and @yaziris
when you become a whale (which you will), throw us a gateway party in India and sponsor us in full our coming...I'll eat alot of street food so bare that in mind😉🤗❤️

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I'm glad it all turned out right for you. As for keeping quiet or speaking out, we'll never know. Life turns out the way it wants to. All you can do is pick yourself up and continue going on. What doesn't kill you makes you stronger doesn't it? :)

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>What doesn't kill you makes you stronger doesn't it? :)
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Thank you for such kind and thoughtful words🤗❤️

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What a beautiful story and inspiration, confirming my intuition that you are going places, Starr. Following our gut can be hard yet so worth it in the end. Much Love!

!LUV

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Awe my darling Lisablove,
thank you so much for reading and the encouragement, you're so sweet truly.
I love you this big🤗💕
!PIZZA

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Excelente así se hace 🙏
Debemos ser valientes y hacer valer nuestros derechos fundamentales

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Estoy de acuerdo contigo querida hermana. Mucho amor para ti💕🤗

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🙏💞🙏unidad somos más .
Te invito a visitar mis publicaciones 🥰

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Waoh! Such an inspiring story! This only proves one thing, there are greater things ahead of you! God's got you girl 💪

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🤗Thank you Dammy, God's got all of us and i believe it's same love and mercy he shows us all cause he loves us alot. WE ONLY NEED TO BELIEVE💕

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Wow what a story, but not surprised of the ending. You're OMEMMA for sure. And btw... "Office Colleague" 😉 - What a lucky guy just to stand so close to you. Big hug Sis!

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What a story! you really handled the situation with a great mind and positivity, very inspiring, thank God you got the job,thank God there are still good people out there, similar thing happen to my brother but in his case he was never called, its been three years now and i keep wondering what went wrong.

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Thank you so much. My Darling, it will work out and there's something greater ahead of him.
Tell to Believe! Keep the faith alive.

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Hello lovely lady! 😊

Congratulations on your promotion and pay raise. God is good and has turned "That Man's" hate into something good for you, you're blessed with a beautiful family to support you through this whole situation. 😊

God bless you and your wonderful family. Have an awesome day! 😊

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Thank you so much for your sweet words. I appreciate you taking time out to read. God bless you too and much love🌸🤗

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You're most welcome. I really love your virtual hug, very cool and appreciated my friend. 😊

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Congratulations Starr. It is obvious your light shines so bright and can't be hidden.

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Don't know if you believe in miracles, because that's all I see here.

Nothing and no one can put off your light, they can only try but God has got your back...

And Like I do tell you, keep shinning coz you're a Starr 😎

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How can a name be an insult to a religion? This is so ridiculous! Anyway, I'm glad you got the spot you deserve sooner or later. Better late than never 😊

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Yes Darling, i do appreciate your kind words. Love you alot❤️🤗

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The point where your mum prayed and asked what your name was .. That was the turning point.
What would we do if mothers dont pray.
Congrats, it may have been in the past but its a testimoney of GOD's greatness triumphing over man.

I get to see your real face too☺️

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indeed, I totally appreciate your words.
Asin what would we do without them, God bless our mothers.

HAHAHAHA nothing to see😅💕

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