RE: Let's Talk About Racism - & What Happened Last Night
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It's hard enough to have conversations like this with most people, the added element of high adrenaline, violence, potentially shock makes it near impossible for most to be calm & collected. In short, I think that may have just been a no-win scenario.
There's a great book by the guys who did the Grievance Studies Hoax, called "How To Have Impossible Conversations" that is one tool we can add to our tool-belt, I'll shoot you the ebook. NVC, reflective listening, and various other schools & practices can help us with these situations as well.
PS: Audio got real rough for a while when you started playing with your keys around the 10 minute mark.
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I wouldn't assume anything about your room-mate's experience in that moment, any more than you would about his experience as a whole. Racism, other -ism (anti-hippies for example, if I know who you're talking about), walking into a violent situation unknowingly, pre-existing relationship with the other person, something specific that erupted in their exchange, childhood trauma, societal normalization and praise for violence... Some combination.
Well whatever the case, violent and continuous verbal lashings filled with hate are not welcome here. Disrespect is not welcome here. I have been pushed to my brink on a few occasions with a few different people that have come to this house. Now one of those people has returned (ironically) on the same day that this happened. He hasn't caused any new trouble yet - but with him its only a matter of time. Also the guy mentioned in this video has been kicked out bc of his behavior. I absolutely must make my exit from this place before next year, all I want is happiness and love, I feel these are so hard to acquire in my life. I would love to read the ebook How to Have Impossible Conversations - sounds like just the text I need right now.