SAY NO BULLYING!!!!

"BULLYING means you have completely lost the game of life, given up, and you think of hurting others to make yourself happy because you think life is unfair to you and no one should enjoy the things you lack"....

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The sentence above was quoted to me by my choirmaster when there was a bit of misunderstanding amongst my friends and i....
The use of force, coercion, hurtful words, threat and aggressive behavior is the first step to being a BULLY..
When you pick on the weak ones, deprive them of certain things, hurting them not just physically but also verbally it is considered an act of BULLYING....

Through out my childhood, school days, even as a teenager, i always been on my own, i don't keep much friends, i mind my business all the time and i try to make peace with everyone i know and when it comes to the strong ones bullying me, i don't allow it, i fight back because that was what i have been taught by my elder brother...

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He went to a public school and there he was taught MARTIAL ART(KARATE)..so whenever he practices at home, i do it with him and he taught me self-defense and that was how i got to know how to defend myself and in exchange he made me promise him not to become a bully to others because of this and i promised him...
He had black belt when he was still in school until he graduated high school and he practices it from time to time..

Through out my childhood up until this stage, i have never been bullied before, because whenever my brother and i practices this, we go to the field where his master teaches other people and a lot of people including myself witnessed the training, therefore i was never bullied because they were aware of my ability and i don't cross other peoples part, i was not feared because i didn't show it to them that i can defend myself, i just play and mingle with everyone...

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I have never been bullied but my best friend has been bullied and that caused him a lot of emotional trauma...
He was bullied both in his school and in their neighborhood...When he was in jss1, there were these set of huge, tall guys in jss2, they always eat his food, abuse him, steal his money, at some point fight him all because he reported them for doing something like this to other kid and they made him a new target and since then he has always been tortured and those guys also stay in the same street, so they bully him a lot that he started staying indoor after school and that was how my best friend became an INTROVERT...

                           MY VIEWS ON BULLYING

To me bullying is not about you been strong and mighty, i see bullying as big sign of WEAKNESS...
If all you can do to make yourself happy and better is by picking on a person or making life unbearable for others then you are WEAK..

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I despise bullying and a bully, they are just a coward trying to hurt people to make themselves happy, i have heard in most cases when bullying becomes unbearable, the victims tend to commit suicide but in most cases that i have seen, it lead to psychological and mental traumas which can last forever...

It pains me to see other people been bullied, it makes me really furious when i see such act and that why when i see them get punished, i don't really enjoy it because i want them to feel how much pain they have inflicted on others...
Getting punished won't solve any issue until they share the same experience of been bullied..

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Lives of many will be affected if this goes on, we need to put an alt to BULLYING....so that there can be freedom of expression among all...

                  WAYS OF ERADICATING BULLYING

There are some certain steps that needs to be taken to reduce the spread of bullying in schools and other places, they include:

                ACCESSIBILITY

Parents who talk to their children freely about their friends from an early age help establish good communication with them. It’s will be very helpful for them to know you are interested in their doings and that you always have their back at all times..

Make them free with you to talk openly about their day. Ask them open-ended questions which will make them know you care about them.. The questions shouldn’t only be about you trying to have conversations with them, you should listen to them and pay close attention to them,their fears, doubts, happiness to make sure they are safe at all times...

         EDUCATION ON BULLYING AND BEEN A BULLY..

parents should always talk to their children regarding bullying , things they ought not to do to their friends or others, teach them how to behave with others, they should be educated on the things that makes one a bully and when they are been taught this at an early stage, they walk by it and never derail at all times....

Therefore, let there be early education on bullying and how it affects others lives and beings..

        BOOST YOUR KID'S CONFIDENCE

You can do this by teaching your children how to stand up for themselves and other people been bullied.. be their role model and when they see your steps, they will always walk in your path of justice and uprightness...

     GOOD COMMUNICATION SKILLS

let there be a good communication between you and your children, for them to share their secret with you, you have to make them feel like they are your friends and they will be happy having difficult secret with you when they feel safe...

   INSTILLING KINDNESS AND EMOTIONS IN THEM..

You have to teach your kids to be kind and touchy towards others, let them feel and see the good in others and let them find their friends in a bad state and be willing to help them at all times...

They should always be willing to help others and not criticise them, they should encourage others to be good and cheerful...

In conclusion, let bullying be a thing of the past and love lead at all times.. the end result of a bully doesn't turn out well.. love your neighbor as your self...

engage with others and always learn how to smile..