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Happy and Blessed day, I wish you are super well, healthy, shining, growing and learning every day to be a better human being, Children should come into this world with a true manual, this is a very hackneyed phrase, or we have heard it so much that it can even make us laugh, although Let's go!!! let's be honest, this parenting thing is like trial and error, and even more so when it comes to a teenager... I am a single mother of 2 children, in my eyes my children are spectacular, I am grateful every day of my life for having them, Adrian is my blessing and my Luz is 18 years old and is already in the 4th semester of electronics, he is calm, noble and grateful but addicted to the computer, he does not go out with anyone, he does not have friendships as they say personal, only through the computer, the more I try to get him away from the computer the more his character changes sometimes it seems that he hates me and I have no idea what to do... and well Ana the apple of my eye, I live to take her, bring her and wait for her, she studies 6th grade, she is in the music conservatory and she is literally in everything, she plays violin, piano and cuatro, she is in musical language and in 2 different choirs, in the afternoons that we go to the conservatory I stay there waiting for her since without a car or cash to come go return is almost impossible, in addition to the expense of Every day I would far exceed my weekly budgets, well I was always in the proud mom mode, I felt at my best, I was happy and proud of myself, she told me that you are doing well even though they don't know her father; That's another story, in the novel style between Garcia Marquez, Isabel Allende, and a touch of fantasy from Morgan Rice.

I thought everything was fine, until my daughter told me a few days ago "Mom. You're suffocating me" it was something like, OH MY GOD!!! How bad I felt at that moment, I didn't know what to say, it turns out that it bothers her that I wait for her in the conservatory, I thought and now what do I do?? I have to walk around for almost 5 hours while she goes out, but why am I doing wrong if I felt so sure that I was doing it right, ahh but that's not all, noooo, it bothers her that I take her hand when crossing a street, it bothers him that his friends know me or I'm around when they're together, among other little things, but at least this was what marked me the most, I tried to be strong, talk to him, try to understand him, and it was worse.

After a few days, I understood that it hurts like this, I'M NOT HIS FRIEND, I'M HIS MOTHER! I should care more about your well-being, your health than everything else and that's it. at first I was so upset with her that we didn't even talk, on the way home I was always attentive, I asked how it went? What did she do? She took the Violin to her so that she wouldn't carry her weight? but why??? If she tells me that she is big, then she is big to carry her things, then she is big to balance her schedules, she is big to be responsible but even so, she knew that at that moment she was angry, take a breath and wait a few days...

Even today I don't know what is the healthiest, what is the most correct, or if this situation is normal in adolescents, I have thought that it must be that something is wrong, but I am sure that it is not That's how it is, talking to the other moms at the conservatory, I understood that at this age most are like that, one of the conservatory moms (That's what they call those of us who are there for hours every day waiting for their children) is a psychologist and tells me: leave her alone And if she becomes too rebellious, send her to eat... that is if you take away her phone, wii, tablet, everything she likes the most and that way she learns that you are the boss! I listened to her and thought this is not correct, I was not educated like that and look, I came out well, graduated with postgraduate degrees and everything hahaha but times change and today I only wish from my heart that children were born with a manual, just as they come new toys, it's so complicated.

For now, we hardly talk to each other, I try not to help her so much to let her be more independent without being too permissive, for me she will always be my girl but I know that if I really love her I should let her grow independent strong and sure of herself. Because as they say, children come to this world to be free, they are not from their parents.

Today I understand my mother, and I appreciate her unconditional love every day, I hope my daughter and I improve, I will respect her space, avoiding those silly details as she says they are holding her hand when crossing, I will look for the positive side guiding her to be more independent and sure of herself. I hope this week everything gets better, I will seek to learn from it and find a way to reconnect.

Nos leemos en unos días, Animo. Ser Madre es hermoso pero a veces duele. NO SE SI LO ESTOY HACIENDO BIEN O NO?

We'll see each other in a few days, Cheer up. Being a mother is beautiful but sometimes it hurts.I DON'T KNOW IF I'M DOING IT RIGHT OR NOT?

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Mi trabajo es mi pasión y cuando tu trabajo es tu pasión nada es imposible / My work is my passion and when your work is your passion nothing is impossible