LOVE IS NO LONGER BLIND
Love is a very beautiful feeling and love conquers all, love permits offence and holds no grudge. There is also a popular saying that resonates with this statement, "Love is blind". This means that love endures and over look some certain things, could be actions, words, or character traits of a person.
As much as that statement is true and very understandable, it is beginning to exceed proportion.
It worries me when people see red flags in relationships and expect that their
partner or intended spouse would change when they get married or worse they say “when he
becomes a father or holds his child in his hands, he’d change”. Isn’t that the most
ridiculous thing you’ve heard? Well it is for me.
Personally I feel like people know what they're doing, we are all grown ups for crying out loud, no body need to be taught like a child at this stage.
The absolute truth is that Marriage doesn’t change anyone. It’s the values and flaws and strengths and
weakness you have built over time that you bring to marriage. If you were an
horrible person when you're single, you’ll remain an horrible person when you get
married or even worse.
If you’re a stupid person when you're single, you’ll remain a stupid person or even extremely stupid when
you become a parent.
Look at it this way.
You were single yesterday.
Today you’re married.
Nothing changed in your character.
Your character is still the same.
Your beliefs do not change, your core values and convictions don’t change, your flaws are still there, your doctrines are same, your ideologies are still same, your church doctrines are still there, you still have the same horrible work ethics.
For instance , it is completely impossible for a baby chick to grow into an eagle even if it lives in the same environment with an eagle. It doesn't change even when the environments change because the characteristics are in built.
Marriage is only a change of status. Only your name changed from Miss to Mrs or
Miss to Ms. and for some people, this doesn’t even change.
So why would you think that a person would change then they get married or when
they hold their babies in their hands?
This is completely absurd, honestly.
Unfortunately many see red flags and just assume that the person would change.
Do you think “change” is easy? If there are worrying concerns about a person’s values and
convictions that don’t align with yours, quit the damn relationship and have your
rest or peace.
A relationship that doesn’t lead to marriage is still as successful as the one that
led to marriage. There’s no rule on earth that says you must date to be married.
Neither are you a failure or have you failed in dating because your relationship
didn’t end in marriage.
People don’t change in marriage . Marriage would rather expose other flaws and
magnify them, because you’re now living with this person and the patterns this
person lives by are now more visible to you.
Marriage isn’t some correctional center. Agreed there may be some adjustments
and compromising but people’s core beliefs, doctrine and precepts DO NOT
CHANGE.
This is why you should get married to a person whose core values and convictions aligns with yours. This is why you should never get married to a person believing their core beliefs would change for you. If he cheats, lies and even beats you, he will continue to do more in marriage and if you can't live with that, please let them go.
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Your words sound so taught and strong. Nice writeup for everyone in a relationship or about to enter one.
Thank you 😊
I really like your story and the words you write here. You said right, married changes the status not changing the character. Your post is so convincing my soul.
Thank you 😊 😍
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😂. My pastor would say, "You say you're going to change him or he's going to change, are you the Holy Spirit?"
But this jsyso true. I don't see why people would settle for less than they are worth with useless beliefs that'll get better with time. If only they knew...
Smiles 🙂
It's well.
I agree with you, common values and principles. A common goal is the decision to love.
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having the determination to change does not depend on the couple but on the person himself because nobody changes overnight. Thanks for sharing 😊
Yeah,
Thank you too 😍☺
I don't believe in the Idea that "he will change when we get married' that's a big fat lies. But I believe in change Andi believe some situation or condition can promote that change.
Marriage is like an empty container it's what you put in that makes it either useful,happy or sad.
Nice write up
Smiles,
Thank you 😊