A BROKEN PROMISE THAT SHAPED MY LIFE

Have I ever violated a promise? Yes, I do recall that last year I made a promise to my cousin's sister Lizzy that I would attend her convocation. Don't hold it against me; instead, allow me to explain what happened.

Last year, Lizzy called me to talk to me about her convocation and said she would be delighted if I could be there.

I committed to her that I would be there for her convocation. She gave her all to make her family proud, and now that she has accomplished that goal, she is graduating as her department's top overall student.

Being a good sister, I assured her that I would attend her special day. We were looking forward to it together.

As the days went by, my life got busier and busier. My commitments grew more and heavier as my work obligations increased. Even though I was aware that I had promised my cousin I would attend her convocation, I kept juggling obligations and began to feel gradually overwhelmed by the growing pressure.

IMG_20230723_141330_944.jpg
My cousin and I

But I ignored my concerns and told myself I would manage to solve the problem. I firmly believed in the force of commitment and was aware that betraying my promise would be extremely painful for Lizzy.

Unfortunately, Lizzy's graduation day finally came.
I was already in trouble when I unintentionally found myself involved in a professional emergency. As the hours passed, I felt the pressure of keeping my vow weigh heavily on me.

I allowed myself to give in to the overwhelming tension in a moment of weakness. I reasoned that Lizzy wouldn't notice if I wasn't there, and I convinced myself that she would understand. I thought, trying to calm my anxious conscience, "It's just one event.

My heart became heavy and remorse knocked on my door as evening drew closer. As I struggled with my guilt, I realized that I had betrayed Lizzy's confidence by not keeping my word.

Finally, I had the bright idea to contact her and apologize for being so busy that day while also offering to send her some tokens as a sign of my sincere regret. In a desperate attempt to get Lizzy to accept my choice, I persuaded myself that it was only a necessary sacrifice.

Unfortunately, Lizzy was devastated when she learned of my absence and my broken promise. When I phoned her, I could hear the hurt and disappointment in her voice. Lizzy, who had always been there for me through good times and bad, suddenly felt betrayed by me as the person she trusted the most.

One of my closest cousins is Lizzy; we arranged the convocation together, and she spends most of her time with me. We are always together and never keep anything from one another.

Then I understood how much more it had cost me than I could have ever thought to breach my commitment. It caused a serious wound to our bond and damaged my reputation as a responsible sister. I concluded that I had let Lizzy down, but also myself.

I went to Lizzy's house and apologized profusely for what I had done, explaining the difficult circumstances that had caused me to err. Knowing how deeply I had wronged Lizzy and the price my broken commitment had cost me, I longed for her forgiveness.

Despite being upset, Lizzy could see the regret in my eyes. She slowly accepted me after recognizing my sincere guilt and remorse. The road to forgiveness was a long one, but our intimacy held strong, and we gradually restored the once-firmly formed trust.

I cherished the significance of trust and loyalty in my relationships and vowed from that day on to never break another promise. I understood that promises were of the highest worth and should always be honored, as violating them may result in unimaginable suffering and harm.

This is my response to this episode of #hivelearners community of #hl-w82e2 which is tagged "A BROKEN PROMISE"

20231004_082714_0000.png



0
0
0.000
25 comments
avatar

It is sad to know you not attended the convocation of your cousin although you did best for it. Sometimes, we have pressing work pressure and we can't hold on our promise. It was good to visit her home and made apologize. You can invite her on home for another good event to celebrate some moments together.

0
0
0.000
avatar

Hmmm I felt her pains but sometimes work pressure can't be predicted. We just need to be careful how we make promises so that people won't tagged one a promise breaker

0
0
0.000
avatar

My dear, I learned from it, I can't just promise anyhow again

0
0
0.000
avatar

You could have scheduled your activities, it meant alot to her but anyways I wouldn't blame you, sh*t happens sometimes.

But am glad lizzy has a forgiving heart, promise is more than a spoken word

0
0
0.000
avatar

When village people arrive you can't argue with them, I literally avoid such to happen but who am I

0
0
0.000
avatar

I understand how your cousin felt. Again, we are planning as humans but God is the master planner.

0
0
0.000
avatar

Sure but the way I disappointed her was out of it, we planned all the movement together and how we were going to slay on that day but an emergency came up that day that made me not attend her big day.

0
0
0.000
avatar

Heya, lizzy should not be offended oo tell her to send account number so I can send some funds on your behalf. 😃

I understand her though, she must have put it in mind seriously that you'll be in attendance as a big sister, but then we aren't the Almighty who does not fail.

0
0
0.000
avatar

Let me send my account number instead of that

0
0
0.000
avatar

See Eunice oo 🤣🤣
You too like money.

0
0
0.000
avatar

Yes the right thing was to call her and that's absolutely what you did
Its sometimes sad that we go ahead doing things that would brake the edge of our promise and regret at the end, sometimes I wish I could turn the time back, while breaking the promise, we would not see the effects until after
Nice piece of work, thanks for sharing

0
0
0.000
avatar

Many things happens in life that sometimes is beyond our control.
I am sure Lizzy will understand with you

0
0
0.000
avatar
(Edited)

Being there for our loved ones on their special days means a whole lot to them. I can understand that you were tied between two commitments. Your cousin must have been really sad. I hope you tried to make it up to her.

!luv.

0
0
0.000
avatar

I was so disappointed in myself because we made all the preparations together but I am happy I sought her out and asked for forgiveness

0
0
0.000
avatar

That was really nice of you to do.

0
0
0.000
avatar

Sometimes we get overwhelmed with life's events that we forget some of the promises we have made.
Seeking forgiveness after breaking a promise is a good thing to do and thank goodness Lizzy forgave.

#dreemerforlife

0
0
0.000
avatar

It is good your willingness to try to keep your promises, sometimes we fail because of major causes, it has also happened to me in the family, I have been wrong, so I do not hurry to confirm my attendance to a place.

0
0
0.000
avatar

That is true, I learned from my previous mistake, it is better to say maybe than to give 100% assurance because anything can come up at any time. Thank you for your support

0
0
0.000
avatar

Well that's why I don't make promises not that they are wrong but in such situations like you and Lizzy. What if she wasn't the understanding type...that sees through situations like you did. Well in my opinion I just tell you I would see what I can do, I'm not promising anything yet. From #dreemport

0
0
0.000
avatar

Aww she really respected and wished you were there to celebrate her day, but life happens sha, don't beat yourself too much, I'm sure Lizzy will understand with time.

#dreemerforlife

0
0
0.000
avatar

Sometimes, I feel like trust is like money, so hard to earn and so easy to lose. Promising is like spending.

Cheers to fulfilling every promise we made.😊

💛Made my way here through #dreemport. #Dreemerforlife

0
0
0.000