RE: Gifts Are Supposed To Be For The Recipient
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My ex mother in law was like this, burying us constantly in baby clothes and toys. There is still crap lingering in the corners of this house. Unfortunately my ex was also a bit like her, getting me gifts and then getting mad when I wasn't "appreciative" of an object I literally had no use for which was just going to take up more space in an already cluttered house. They both had the nerve to us the "love language" excuse.... "My love language is gifts (receiving and giving apparently). Why can't you accept that?" 🙄
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Yeah, that's the type - but like someone's love language being gifts means they want to receive gifts, and if they really want to give gifts then they should give gifts that are appropriate to the recipient. For instance, if you wanted an experience (like, tickets to a concert) instead of stuff.
In my case, the conversation often goes: "what do you want for (holiday)?"
Me: "cat food."
Them: "no really"
Me: "I'm poor and stress about getting what we need and it ratchets down my anxiety exponentially if I have a cupboard full of cat food, that's really what makes me happy"
Them: "but that's practical and boring, I want to give a fun gift"
Me: "it's really what I want, but if you insist, I keep a wish list on amazon with other things on it"
Sometimes they will then buy me something off the list, but other times they still argue "oh but that's mostly books, boring" or whatever and I'm like ...I would rather you not burden me with random chotchkes I don't want, please.