Cutting Ties; Burning Bridges

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In 2015, I met my best friend. She introduced me to her mother, Betty, and I was immediately welcomed into the family 🙏❤️ And, despite the fact my friendship resided with her daughter, I could not help but form a close relationship with her mom as well.

I really admired Betty: the things she endured, the strength it took to raise two children single-handedly, the love that she has for said children, the quiet faith that kept her going...

I was privileged enough to have experienced that love for myself. We often referred to Betty as my "other mother," for I had no relationship with my own at that time.

We used to joke, that with her father's affair, and if my grandmother had perhaps given into temptation just one time, that my mother and Betty could secretly be sisters, and I, her niece! 😂 But, of course, that was just a silly inside joke; nothing more.

Then one day, her daughter and I had a falling out... For a very stupid reason: chicks before 🍆s (I confess and repent for it primarily being my fault). And so, with our falling out came the termination of my relationship with Betty...

I cannot be friends with my exy bestie anymore, but to her mother I tried apologizing twice. To no avail; I received Left On Read (but thankfully, I'm already used to family treating me in such a way 😅).

After 6 years, I see that Betty has just now interacted with my content, and it breaks my heart... I used to believe in the red string of fate, for no matter how much time or distance passed between us, this family has continuously crossed my mind. They could have been apart of my daughters' lives...

But no, I doubt that anything can amount from it now... So I'll take solace in the fact that at least Noah and Elijah have met in another life 🪽💛

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Thank you so much for checking out this week's post! This is a topic near and dear to my heart. Again, as much as I would love to be in contact with Betty, I do not get to control her decisions. I can only pray that she finds it in her heart to forgive me... In the meantime, I am going to attempt reaching out one last time. Please wish me luck!

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This sounds like the damage has gone so much deeper than thought.
I hope one day your friendship with Betty will find a common ground once again.

!LADY

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Yes, I have been thinking about it a lot, and the fact that she interacted shows that she has too (we do not Follow each other, so she had to search for my username).

I appreciate your support 🙏 Thank you so much, lovely lady!

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Thank you for your post. I'd never heard of the red string of fate, what a beautiful metaphor.

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I appreciate this, thank you 😃🙇‍♀️ Yes, I first learned about the red string from Japanese culture, I thought it was very interesting. The tie can only be cut by cutting off your finger, I believe 😬

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That’s a sad scenario but one that may have left you better than had it not been. People come into our lives for specific reasons and they can exit once that is fulfilled. It seems Betty may have exited yours but she did give you the love of another child when you didn’t have any at the time.

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Absolutely -- her daughter was my twin, and her mother my own 😄 I'm very grateful for the moments we were all able to share together... Plus, our falling out helped correct the path that I was on.

The fact that she interacted when we don't Follow one another gives me hope; she must be thinking about it as well

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