The Act of Stubbornness That Transformed My Life.
There are time in life one have to stand on his or her feet and fight for his or her life. I have realized that if you keep on waiting for people to speak on your behalf before you rise up for yourself, thing will have gone worst beyond repair.
Being the firstborn of the family, everyone sees me as being quiet and obedient. I always yield to instructions even when my younger siblings choose to disobey my parents instructions . I have always been peaceful with everyone.
But there comes a time in my life that I needed to stand up for myself, I no longer wanted to be controlled like a puppet. I needed to take life decisions without being controlled or being subjected to follow anyone instructions.
My parent are the best parents anyone can pray for. They are both loving and caring, their desire for us is to have the best of life. But issues began to arise when they wanted me to follow every of their advice without seeking my opinion, if I'm pleased with it or not.
That's why as parent, there must be a balance. You don't try to force your opinion on a child, most especially a grown up child. Be ready to hear them out and give advice when needed, not forcing them to do things just because you are the parents.
Being a female and as well the first born of the family. They are quite overprotective. I understand their fears of me not going wayward, but for me, I think the level they are taking it is getting too extreme for me.
I remember after I completed my National youth Service corps (NYSC), I returned back home. My plan was to stay back in the state where I served but due to security issues, I have to return back. I actually served in the North and we all know that a lot of crisis are happening in the North so I went back home.
On getting home, I stayed at home assisting them with house chores. So I woke up one morning and thought to myself, Is this how I will continue living my life in the comfort of my parent house? So I decided to reach out to a friend in the city and she promised to accommodate me till I get a job. I needed a change of environment.
When I discussed it with my parents, it does not sit well with them. They disagreed. At that point, I changed from being the obedient child to a stubborn child. To avoid further argument. I told them I will be leaving in a week time. When it was time to leave, I left without considering their opinion.
Guess what? That act of stubbornness changed my life till date. I got a good job in less than a month after relocating. I'm so grateful to God for taking such bold step. That act of stubbornness earn me more respect before my parents and siblings. They now respect my decisions more than ever before.
Sometimes, life decisions are made in firmness and stubbornness especially when people around are not seeing things from your own perspective.
There are times when stubbornness has cost me pain especially when I invested on a wrong investing platform. In the midst of the good and bad events, I have learned to evaluate myself and ensure there is a balance in the level at which I act stubbornly, so as to prevent situations that can lead to regret.
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