Forgiveness: A Way To Peaceful Living

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When I came across this prompt, series of questions started flooding my heart. The word forgiveness as simple as it may sound, it's really a huge one. There are lot of times we experience hurt from people and the most painful part is hurt from close friends and family. There are countless of times we trust people and at the later end they end up betraying our trust. How we handle situation like this really matters.

I have been hurt by people at severe times. The pain from hurt is second to none and most times, it's always difficult to forgive. How did you explain a situation where a close friends betray his fellow friends or a situation where someone endanger someone else life all because of money. It is true that the heart of men is desperately wicked and it's only God that can preserve an individual from wicked souls that come close as friends.

I remember how a close friend betrayed my trust few years ago, we've being friends for years and we always do things in common. Whenever I come across any information that could be of benefit, I do share with her. That was the extent I trusted her, but at end she went ahead to deceived me and also betrayed my trust.

She brought a business idea and informed me about the benefits of the business. I decided to believe her not knowing that she wanted to dubiously collect money from me.we both agreed to put resources together. I had to empty my savings so as to gather enough money for the business. Unknown to me that she had an ulterior motive in mind. It took me long before I later discovered. After I discovered, I reached out to her but she insulted me and ended the call on me.Ever since then, we both separated. But after few years, she reached out to me and was asking me to forgive her, that she's now a change person.

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Truth be told, it will be a foolish decision to become friends with her again after all she did to me. Even though I have forgiven her but it will be unwise of me to let off my guard and trust her again. There is this popular saying that says "forgive and forget". Even though, I have forgiven her but yet I can't forget that awful incidence that happened between us. Even though I have forgiven her, yet I set boundaries just to prevent any future re-occurence.

Now the question is, Have i ever been hurt and sworn never to forgive? My answer is No. Are there time I wish never to forgive? Of course, Yes. But for the sake of peace and my personal sanity, I always choose to forgive. Not forgiving is giving root for bitterness in once heart and I won't want anything to steal my joy and also lose my peace that's why I always forgive anyone that hurt me.

Even though I have forgiven the person, I do give room to analyze the incident and set boundaries right away so as to prevent re-occurence of such incident in the future.