Back to Jersey, The Other Side of the Coin.

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Heading back to NJ is always a good thing. This is where we have our roots and heading home is usually filled with fun and family. Just recently we were on cloud nine as our 7th grandchild was born.

This trip back would be to celebrate the passing of a good man.
For the past 44 years, on the 2nd or 3rd Saturday in December, the group of young men in this picture has gotten together to celebrate the coming holidays.
The coach's soiree is what we call this gathering. These are many of the boys I started working with back in 1974.

Most of us were born in 1952, and most of us were still wet behind the ears as far as teaching went. We worked with some of the roughest kids in Bergen County. Many of our students had rap sheets by the time they were 12 years old. Always having each other's back was the glue that has kept us in touch ever since.

Before everything had to be so politically correct, the students we taught were labeled Socially Maladjusted, and that tag really fit.
Today these students are classified as students with nonspecific learning disorders. I guess that sounds a little better.

As time passed many of the guys I worked with moved onto different school districts and became principles, vice principles, Learning Disabilities Specialists, athletic directors, guidance counselors, with some even leaving education altogether.
But despite the fact that many of us headed in different directions, as the years past, our bond never weakened.

Back in the day, these soirees gave us a chance to blow off some steam.
Recent gatherings, give us a chance to reminisce and see how each other are doing.

This past December 14, 2019 Coach Keenan didn't attend. In this group picture, he is the gentleman indicated by the arrow. Now, when someone doesn't show up to the soiree, they can expect a call that involves a little testicle busting. They had better have a good excuse for not being there.
When we gave Coach K a call we didn't get an answer, but being that this was the very first one he had ever missed we figured we would give him a little slack.

This past Monday morning I learned that he had passed away in his sleep sometime Sunday night.
Why really doesn't matter, what mattered was that the big guy was gone.

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For Pete, missing the 2019 Coache's Soiree was an anomaly, at least that was what we all thought at the time.

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As we attended the services and laid PK to rest, many eyes filled with tears as the Irish Bagpipes played Going Home.



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RIP, coach. Insert whatever you wished I typed right here. I’m a few decades behind you and have buried well... you know. So, I’m very well aware of the formalities that are typically said at these times and I also understand the reason they’re said—the person saying it doesn’t know what to say.

“I have a vague idea what you’re going through my man.” That’s the one I’m going with.

Thanks for sharing this with us, @thebigsweed, God bless Coach Keenan’s family.

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Thanks for caring @dandays. I also feel lost for words in situations like this.
Pete died too young, but not as young as some of our friends that just couldn't control their demons. That's when death is a real tragedy.

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My man. After burying the only parent I ever knew at age 37 to losing friends as you described, you’re very welcome for caring (v.e.r.y) and I know in my heart you believe I do. I’m not as seasoned as you are, @thebigsweed, but being so familiar with death isn’t a quality I wish on anyone.

I hope you’re having a great Friday despite this event with an even better weekend on the horizon. Let me know if you need a good laugh or something man.

Cheers, Coach Keenan! Please say hello to my friends, my grandparents, all of my uncles and my mother.

“Somber Day.”

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Good morning @dandays. When it comes to @farm-mom and me, you have shown us how much you care since we first met. Both @puravidaville and yourself have been in our corner since we started on this platform. For a couple that we have never met in person, we feel lucky to be able to refer to you as our good friends.
I can't imagine never knowing my dad and losing my mom at such a young age.
to be able to overcome that alone speaks volumes of your character. I know that it has not been an easy road for you, but you persevered. Your mom would be very proud of the man you turned out to be.

God bless both of you. I've been preoccupied since this went down, and I'm looking to get back into a routine.

Peace!

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A lovely tribute to your friend @thebigsweed, although a shock to family and friends, that's the best way to go! Sounds like you're a really special group!

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To pass peacefully in your sleep, I'll sign up for that right now @lizelle. In my eyes, this group only plays 2nd fiddle to my family.
Thanks for caring enough to reply!

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Omg...love all those guys. So loyal to each other. @thebigsweed you are one lucky man to have such wonderful and fun loving friends. Great drinking buddies too!
R.I.P. Pete 💕

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Having met these guys back in 1974 was a stroke of luck for sure. When we look back at how I ended up working for Bergen County Special Services, luck was definitely on my side. the only time I was luckier was the day we met.
Not only were all of these gentlemen my friends, but they were also yours as well, they all loved @farm-mom.

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I'm sure you guys gave Coach Keenan a fitting send-off and now he can travel around with you all in your memories - And so he's gone, but not. Nice post.

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Thanks for stopping by @galenkp. Pete was a great friend and a better teacher. He was the kind of guy that would give you the shirt off of his back. He had some health issues the past couple of years, and I guess those issues finally caught up with him. Fond memories for sure. Anyone who met this guy was better off for it!

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Nice words about the fellow...I'm sure he deserved them.

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So sorry for the loss of what sounds like a wonderful man! That fills my heart with joy to see such a loyal group of friends, and that is some small consolation I'm sure having that group to lift each other up with the loss of a dear comrade. Virtual hugs coming your way from this former Jersey girl!

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Thanks, @plantstoplanks for caring enough to reply. He was indeed a good guy, one that will be sorely missed. You are so right, having a network of friends that all felt the same way about Coach Keenan sure lightened the blows. We sat around for awhile recalling moments with him that we will cherish forever.
Hugs from another Jersey girl, I'll take as many as I can get.

God bless you and all of those you love.

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