And then it happened - MY TEENAGER HAS A GIRLFRIEND

in #palnetlast year (edited)

For those of you that have been following my tales, you may remember some of the anxiety I was feeling when my teens started dating. I even wrote a cracker of a post about it; Help! I have teens who have started dating. Now I am a little more relaxed about the whole dating situation and have gained a little experience in the field I thought I would give you all a little update.


A few weeks ago my son bounded through the door in the afternoon smiling from ear to ear, a smile so bright that I hadn't seen in such a long time.

I looked at him and said, "You look like you have had a good day, mate!"

"Oh, I have!! I met a girl and she is just perfect! Smart, kind and so beautiful."

Perfect for what??? I thought to myself.


And then the next day it hit me..... Not the fact that my son had been suggesting to me that he had found "the one" but his cologne.

As I could hear him making his way downstairs this intensifying whoof of cologne jabs me right in the throat, shortly after my son stood before me dressed in his best, hair washed, body showered, teeth all shiny, smelling good.....a little too good if you know what I mean.


"I'm meeting Polika to go to the coffee shop," he stated.

I looked him up and down again and like what I saw. I had been bugging the lazy little bugger to have a shower for what felt like weeks and this girl gave him motivation enough to delve into a little self-care without being prompted....interesting!


He returned later that evening stated he was the happiest young man this side of South East Asia and declared how we will all love her when we meet her, listing off all his favorite things about her. With that smile....that smile that was like no other and gave that little warm and fuzzy love vibes one gets. It took me straight back to those feels when I was a young lady #younglovefeels.

A few weeks passed and we noticed other changes in him.

"Have you got your helmet, mate?" my husband called out to my son, who regularly would "forget" his helmet on a frequent basis no matter how many times he had had his bike taken off him as a punishment.

"Yeah, of course, Dad. Polika would be really upset if she saw I didn't use my helmet. She pulled me up on it the other night when I forgot it."

Well, I will be damned! How could she have him do all the things I have been nagging him about for so long, (all resulting in me getting an ever-increasing growth of frown lines) without her even being here?

I had to know her secret! I loved this young lady and had not even met her yet.


And then it happened.......

"Mum, I would like the whole family to meet Polika. We could go out for dinner to save you cooking." How considerate of the little fella, HA!

As we were planning which restaurant we would go to I too was planning how I was going to play this one out....after all, first impressions last and I have been known to be a little "extra" sometimes so I thought I needed to work at toning it down and play it cool......but not too cool!


Our big meet and greet night had arrived and it turns out, unlike my usual outgoing self I was a little awkward and happy to let the young lovers take the lead in hosting the evening, and boy am I glad I did because his girlfriend is so sweet and softly spoken I may have missed out on hearing this magic moment over my own non stop babbling.

"oh, Kurt, you have been biting your fingernails again. We spoke about this and you said you would stop!"


I was loving it! I had to refrain myself and keep my composure as I was dying with laughter on the inside. Part because again I had witnessed another look on my sons face that I had never seen before and partly because my inner voice was cheering "Yes! You tell him, I have been on at him forever about biting his nails!!".

After calming myself down and observing for a little while my own heart got a blast of the warm and fuzzies...She laughs at his jokes! My son not falling far from his mothers apple tree loves to think of himself as the comedian although unlike his mum he misses the target. He has his own cheerleader and it's beautiful!

The rest of the evening went off without a hitch and everybody got along so well. So now I ask myself how can I not get too attached to my sons girlfriend?? Because she can make my son do things nobody else can do lol.

Mum's of stinky teenage boys find your son a partner STAT!!

Not more moping about the house. No time spent requesting them to shower, brush their teeth and self-care, and no more wondering where your son has taken off to because if he is not with her she knows where he is and when he is returning! A sure win if you ask me!


Of course, I have insisted they take things slowly. Lord knows I am in no way ready to give my son the updated "talk" since my last writings where I showed him every google image of every penis that has a deformity from an STD confirming my "it will fall off if not protected" talk.

But I am working on that now ;)

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This was worth reading all the way to the end! How old is your son? He's got to be blessed to have a mom like you. You're awesome!

Thank you for complimenting the mamas! We looooooooove recognition (lol) and Mumma sure is one of the best ones <3

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That is really such a kind thing of you to say.

He is almost 17 but sometimes still acts 8 lol.

You are just as awesome!

This is hilarious :) I am still a long ways off from this with my two boys (5 and 3) but my eldest did just say to me the other day, thoughtfully, "I think I want to chase some girls around the field" (we have a big pasture out back of our house) LOL BTW the correct tag for CCC is #creativecoin

Heya Proud papa. Is your partner in making babies a part of the steemitmamas yet?

If not, we would LOVE to have her.

We mostly read each others posts and give women a safe space to learn about crypto on discord. Have her click on any of our banners and she will surely be welcome with open arms.

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@dillemma is on Steem but is unlikely to post again anytime soon. In any event, I am the housewife LOL I am the full time stay at home dad while she brings home the bacon. I do all the housecleaning, laundry, dishes, shopping, take care of the kids and have a hot meal on the table when she gets home from work.

Oh dear! That's how it all starts....wanting to chase the girls around the field!! GOOD LUCK!! Hahah.

Thanks for the heads up, the first time I have tried to use the tag.

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Nice perspective on the situation. We have a 10 year old daughter, so will be dealing with similar issues soon enough. I just realized you live in Cambodia. I have a Khmer wife (can't legally marry her in Cambodia) and her two kids from a previous marriage with me, now living in Suriname after the Cambodian government denied my work permit and visa after 10 years of no problems. We had a small restaurant in Kampot. I worked as a preschool and kindergarten teacher for years over there, even had my own Kindergarten in Kep once upon a time. I teach Khmer online to non-native speakers, most of my students live in PP and Siem Reap. How long have you lived there? Speak any Khmer?

Heya @justinparke if your wife is ever interested in joining the STEEM blockchain, we have a group of mamas that would welcome her with open arms.

We like to read each other's posts and give a safe space to learn about crypto on the blockchain.

Thanks for commenting on a mama post.

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@steemitmamas, I'm Sreypov , I has steemit already.I am sorry my English is not good! I know English very little bit.

You are welcome to join us. All languages welcome.

Click on the banner, see you on discord.

Thank you for responding and hope to see you soon.

hey @sreypov, I have many Khmer friends who post here :) There is also another blockchain almost identical to steemit that posts only in khmer!

So great to connect with you and your husband!

Thank you. Where can I find Khmer blockchain? <3 <3

Thanks you so much

That is @sreypov, my wife, but her English is limited and computer skills not up to par yet for making her first post, but we are working on it. For now I run a blog detailing our family adventures, but hope to get @sreypov to make her #introduceyourself post very soon.

She will do great. There is actually quite a large Khmer community here :) also another site I mentioned to your wife. My husband @philippe has the details for that. We will shot them through :)

hey @justinparke! So cool to connect with you. We have been living in Siem Reap for the past almost 8 years. I am a teacher and my husband and I own a little wine and tapas bar Picasso Bar, here.

My children speak Khmer well with on eldest daughter speaking fluently even in her sleep lol. She herself has been going on a few soup dates with young boys who dont speak any English so I have realized I most certainly need to work on my language skills which are great but only really enough for day to day business. My husband @philiippekiene speaks a little but not as much as the rest of us.

Who do you teach online for? My husband is working majority online as we have staff and a management team holding the fort for our business. He is always looking into new things to sink his teeth into.

Visas are becoming a little trickier now but thankfully for us, my school takes care of that for my family. I had a quick read and it looks like you guys are on a magical adventure.

SO fab to connect with you and your wife!!

Very interesting, I spent my first 4 years in Siem Reap, on Taphul Road mostly, worked at Western International School, Khmer Star and Federal International School. Wow! Your kiddos speak Khmer, bravo!

My online teaching is just private one-on-one lessons via messenger video. All my students are by word-of-mouth, as I have a good reputation in the towns I once lived. Otherwise, without a word-of-mouth recommendation, most foreigners are hesitant to learn Khmer from a non-native speaker. If you or your husband are ever interested in learning Khmer online, let me know. The time zone difference makes the window a bit small, but doable. So interesting to meet someone on STEEM with a similar Cambodian story.

I'm teaching @sreypov typing, and hope she will make an intro post someday very soon.

Awww, your son takes showers without having to be prompted by his mama! He must really be in love.

Here's to wishing him a great dating experience.

And wishing you lots of love and peace.

Also, just wondering, who paid for dinner? LOL. What a nosy, I know!

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I paid of course!!! Hahahahah!!

The smell of a freshly teen boy is refreshing.....hopefully she can keep him on his toes lol.

Last night we went to dinner and she looked at me and said, "Mum, has he always been this lazy?"
As I almost choked on my ice coffee laughing inside because 1. she called me Mum and 2. It was hilarious, I looked at her with the utmost sympathetic eyes and said "yes, sweetheart, he always has!" HAHAHAHA

Well, that was really funny. When I have boyfriends, they seem to do what I asked them to do but, this is the first time that I have heard of it on this extent- doing self care thing without being prompted! Funny what love can do!

Sending you strenght dear in these hard times I am here in Discord if you wanna talk 😘

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