Can't You Just Let Me Be Selfish!

in naturalmedicine •  2 months ago 

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It's funny how some words, more than other, can cause some people to over react. Generally when you label some one as being selfish, you see it as a bad thing. Someone who is so self-centred that they can't see past their own nose.

Yet in today's society, the majority of us don't take the time to look after ourselves. Practising very little, if any, acts of self-care /self-love.

Having this mentality that we need to strive for greatness at any expense to our own well being. Praising those who work long hours, who put in the time to improve their career's. But at what expense. '

I am not saying we should not honour those who work hard, but why are we not working that hard on ourselves. Instead putting ourselves under so much pressure to meet our own and at times, others expectations of us.

Why is it far more socially accepted to run ourselves into the ground, rather that take that same amount of time to connect with ourselves. To embrace and honour ourselves. To actually check in with how we are doing each day. Because a little TLC goes a long way.

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Earlier today I read @samstonehill latest post. Everyday he shares the teaching's of Abraham Hicks and today it was about teaching selfishness.

Entertaining Yourself, pleasing Yourself, connecting with Yourself, being Yourself, enjoying Yourself, loving Yourself. Some say, “Well, Abraham you teach selfishness.” And we say, yes we do, yes we do, yes we do, because unless you are selfish enough to reach for that connection, you don’t have anything to give anyone, anyway. And when you are selfish enough to make that connection—you have an enormous gift that you give everywhere you are.

That quote is what inspired me to write this post.

Because it made me want to go out and reclaim the term selfish and remove the negativity that goes with it. Of course there are times when we need to be selfless, to put others first so that we can support them.

But how can we ever support them fully, if we are not firstly supporting ourselves. Being selfish is part of becoming selfless.

I think what it really boils down to, is that I don't really believe that we should have any negative innuendo attached to the word self.
We should be only using the term in a positive way, so that we can promote more self awareness, more self growth.

That the idea of focusing on Self is only seen in a positive light. Words are powerful, mainly because we give them power, by the intentions that we set with them. It is up to use how we use them.

We are living in a time, where there is quiet an unhealthy obsession with self, with the main focus being on our appearance. Where what you look like on the surface, is deemed more important that how you feel on the inside. Wearing masks to cover the pain that some of us carry within, trying so hard to fit into these crazy times.

We need now, more than ever to build a more healthy relationship with ourselves. So that we can start to really love ourselves and build strong foundations that will carry us forward, Connecting with who we are. So that instead of looking to others for acceptance and love, we find it within ourselves.

Self love, means putting ourselves first, so that we can access our inner power. When we stand in our power, then we can be of more value to others. Becoming selfless through our act of selfishness.


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Self love, means putting ourselves first, so that we can access our inner power. When we stand in our power, then we can be of more value to others. Becoming selfless through our act of selfishness.

Your words of wisdom nourish my soul today as I intentionally close my bedroom door to keep my family on the other side for awhile. Thank you for saying what needs to be said. Only by speaking new truth can the old be silenced 🌱

thank you @bia.birch, we all have a voice and we should use it, I quite like how you use yours as well xxx

Perfect! One of my personal pet peeves. Being selfish doesn't have to mean being a jerk. In fact, being a jerk is anything but selfish. If anything, it's stupid since jerks are never liked and most people try to stay away from them. Someone truly selfish (and smart) would actually be generous and care about people, because what goes around comes around.

exactly, you can not have one without the other, it is a natural evolution xx

It's so important to find a balance between the striving and the discovering. In a perfect life I think that you find a way to make what sustains you also nourish the soul without sapping the energy.

Having this mentality that we need to strive for greatness at any expense to our own well being. Praising those who work long hours, who put in the time to improve their career's. But at what expense.

Couldn't agree with this more.

I know that I'll write what I'm destined to write once I get my health fully on track. It's about doing something that will have some positive effect on the world... but that I enjoy. Something that excites me, and so that will come through in the writing.

This is the what many call 'the dream'... but that dream is only the difference between a whisper and shout.

What you say about self awarenes is true as well. From the perspective of creativity, without knowing how to nourish yourself, really knowing yourself, the flow gets damned.

Interesting post @trucklife-family, it really made me reflect :)

I glad it did my friend, reflection is so important, and what you are going through now is deepening your well. I look forward to reading your masterpiece xxxxx

I love how you eloquently put everything about self-love in this post. Some people misunderstood self-love/self care with being selfish. If only I self love myself too much then it becomes negative. When we feel good about ourself then people around us can feel that and isn't it good for them if we offer our selfless service in this state? I appreciate you for putting this beautifully in words. ❤

the best thing we can do as mothers is show our children the importance of self care, so that they see it as just another part of life. Once we are practising it , they will do it without question, we do best to lead by example xxx

I should have see it that way, doing what I am doing as a mother for my children, not for other mother to evaluate whether I am good/bad mother in their eyes. I always question myself sometimes, what will other mother think of me when I do this? Will they see me as a bad/selfish mother?