Words: It can either heal or destroy...Choose and say yours wisely

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One thing I have come to realise in life is that words can build us and so can it kill us. Daily words of affirmation can gear one onto positive things while negative one can destroy and kill one self esteem.There is a thin line between this two and its action depends on how genuinely those who say it means to us.Positive words from family and friends can help restore ones hope, while if its the other way round it may lead to total destruction.

Yesterday I had a run in with my immediate boss at work and he said a lot of negative things to me. I was so hurt that I was thinking of resigning and to start hunting for another job.I did a mistake that wasn't meant to occur but then it wasn't a deadly one and in a minute it can be reversed but my boss took it upon himself to dress me down and then continuously took a jab at me throughout the work day.

He has always been like that though and I always try to avoid his ranting session because I feel he is battling with some invisible forces.Even though, taking out your aggression on people will lead to a sour end for you.People will term you to be an eccentric person, which is what they call this particular boss at work.Nothing is always right and he always feel everyone is out to get his position.

Well I couldn't talk back nor did I try to defend myself that would be a wasted effort anyway.In the middle of his ranting, I walked out without his notice and returned with the corrected file and he shouted at me again that I was trying to make him look like a bad guy.Lol....I apologised and left his office and I also made sure I had no run in with him for the rest of yesterday.

Well I woke up this morning to a message from him in the departmental chat group, apologising on how he went too far just because of a silly mistake.Well I am here thinking of how to reply him because a 90% of me wants to ignore while the 10% part would like to reply out of respect and courtesy.On the real though, he deserves nothing from me and I have made up my mind to avoid him throughout my stay at that company and to also start seeking for other job openings.

Toxic environment kills the moral and makes you continuously second guess yourself.Everything you do will be critically viewed by the person dishing out this blame and the more the pressure mounts, the more afraid the victim will be and the less productive they become.

Life is truly a learning platform and someone told me if I leave the job, whom do I know I will be working with again that I should focus on myself and always cross check my work before submitting so as to avoid days like yesterday.Sense or nonsense I couldn't see any until I slept it off and woke up to ruminate on yesterday's happening.Then I realised he said the truth and that should be my primary assignment henceforth.Not everyone is in your corner, and some people just like dressing people down for no apparent reason, they thrive in negativity and they feel that dressing you down might bring out the best in you.

If you are one, kindly desist today and always put people in your shoes, a warning here and there might do a lot than your shouting and insultive / vulgar words.I would appreciate someone who lets me down gently because that would make me sit my ass up than someone who derives pleasure in ranting.The difference would be that I would respect the first more and would have a 'don't care' attitude for the later.

Let your words heal and not damage...Life is too short to have lots of enemies...............