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You’ve worded the value of experience and the value of an important form of respect in an absolute great way! I try and not judge others, but sometimes it is quite difficult - even impossible - to do so. When that happens, I don’t let the opportunity pass to learn. Hopefully one day I’ll be able to respect everything and everyone.

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All of us connected, every ONE a bit of the one, a good friend of mine wrote me tonight. So to judge the other is to judge ones self. Xo
I've had many tears today too. Perhaps, you haven't tonight, but saw that you had a few posts back. Also, read something this morning about not letting anything--future thoughts, etc--take you out of the body. A kind of psycho/Buddhist combo approach, just being in the feeling, letting it come and watching the story. Holding and rocking our own inner baby.
BTW, I'm still doing the HD approach of uh-huh and unt-uh and friends aren't too keen on that. What are the chances ;) And, then, I have to face those feelings of not pleasing which means making others uncomfortalbe or angry and then I might be all alone....but, my friend just reminded me we aren't and so I'll tell you that too and maybe we can all be buoyed?

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Not sure what you mean by the ‘buoyed’ bit.

Re: making others uncomfortable or angry...

I suppose it’s a matter of boundaries.

We’ve probably all made decisions to please others... but if ’re arranging your life based on trying to make others happy, how’s that working out for us?

Meanwhile, if we’re making decisions to prioritize our own well-being - the only space from which we can truly offer an authentic vibe that’s actually serving everyone, what does that say if people can’t respect that? Probably not the types we’d want to be giving our best to, if they aren’t unwilling to honor the boundaries we set for preserving our own wellbeing.

Of course, if there’s been the habit of sacrificing/compromising ourselves to please, then there’s a pattern there that can seem shocking to abruptly disrupt with the new path - their anger/discomfort coming from having their expectations of the norm rattled. Thus, perhaps necessary for some diplomacy in navigating the shift, given we do have some degree of responsibility for the response given it was our previous patterns which set up the expectations, and a maturity required to program the relationship field with the coding for the new boundary structures.

Or some shit. 😋

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Buoyed, just meaning to be lifted--I'll share what lifted me and perhaps it will do the same for you?
Yes, always boundaries and also reaching out and trying new so we're not stuck in what we think is the right fence, or we may limit our growth. Such a balancing act as everything always is.
Yes, I think so: the only space from which we can truly offer an authentic vibe that’s actually serving everyone, what does that say if people can’t respect that? Probably not the types we’d want to be giving our best to, if they aren’t unwilling to honor the boundaries we set for preserving our own wellbeing.
And, as I get more firm in prioritizing my well-being I am surprised, not entirely, but a bit, at the speed of this moving. How fast what is around you, people and/or situations change.
And, EXACTLY that, taking responsibility for having set-up the situation by our previous patterns. Just had some hardcore practice with that last night and not so easy because if the other wants to stay status quo, they will do what they can to bring you back to the old pattern. We either love and grow together, because both peoples patterns must change, or we break apart.

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There you go again...with your post almost speaking to me....

After a couple of bants in paragraphs in my post yesterday, I concluded with these lines, thinking my growth is very slowly

Though I'm getting older and these finances are extremely slowly catching up, or maybe that's what I think, lol, I didn't have what I have now a year ago. So...growth eh?

Reading your post now, I can relate so much...and its kind of encouraging again.

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Beautifully written! Each thought we nurture is capable of growing into something incredible!

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Totally unrelated, but I have been feeling this way too in terms of my fitness. About two months ago I started making an effort to get up and exercise every weekday. My wife has been doing it for over a year now and even she gets into these funks where she feels like no results are showing. I know that inside the changes are happening that will eventually impact the outside, but why can't it happen quicker or more dramatically? I am guessing the reality is our bodies couldn't handle it if the growth happened too quickly or too unnaturally. Perhaps it is true as well for you that your mind wouldn't be able to handle it if the growth or change happened too quickly. I can attest to the fact that you never know what life is going to throw at you and I need to do a better job of existing in the hear and now. I love the line from the Michael Jackson song "Heal the World"... "we stop existing and start living".

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