I will say something

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'Not a rant, or complain; just flipping something on my mind.'

I guess I'm a little homesick and feeling nostalgic.

I've accepted a long time ago that I'm from a big family, just not a close one. I do have a favourite uncle though; one who I wished was my dad when growing up.
He stepped in, and took me under his wings when I was a teenager.

When I turned 14 years old, he visited my home and had a nice conversation with me. He was the only person who could relate and communicate well with me.


Summer break was approaching which meant that for two months, I'd be out of school. He offered me a summer job as a filing clerk at his company; A massive room filled with files for almost every tire shop in Jamaica; it was the Goodyear Distribution Centre.

I remember it like it was yesterday.

Everyone had gathered, and the room went silent.

"Camille, we know you like your independence, and thought that since you'll be off from school for 2 months, maybe you'd be happy to earn your own money." said my uncle.

"Why me, I'm the youngest; Why not my sisters." I asked.

"Yeah, I could ask them, but I figured it's something you'd like to do." my uncle replied.

Ecstatic, I said yes, and started packing my bag right away. I was ready to leave for the big city, Kingston (Jamaica).

I later realised that they had out-smarted me, for my own good.
My parents knew my uncle would say all the right words, the right way, to me.

Those summer jobs continued every summer break till I was 18 years old.


Years later, I had another important conversation with my uncle when he came to visit me at my work place.
We were having lunch at a restaurant at the hotel where I worked, and he happened to mention that he was not happy with my sister, who was in a relationship that was not good for her.
I turned to him and asked him what about me, as I was in a similar kind of relationship.
He said, "I'm not concerned about you Camille, I know you'll do the right thing at the right time."

It's good when someone has faith in you.


Years go by, and I'll not speak to my uncle or see him, but we are always happy to see each other when we do.

I've always admired the connection between him and his wife, and their close family unit.


Last week I got the sad news that his wife succumbed to the dreaded virus. This has saddened me beyond belief. I feel his pain. I cannot imagine the sense of loss he feels.

I am an emotional person, and process things in my own time, and I needed to get myself together before I reach out to him. I told my dad I need to give my uncle some time too.

What do you say, really?

Does what you say really matter?

I don't know what I'm gonna say, but I will say something.


I admired his wife because she was grounded, confident, and accepting of people for who they are, unlike most of my family members.

She was a guidance counsellor and a great role model at a high school.

She was a happy person.
As a kid, I learned the term cesarean when she gave birth for the first time.

I also knew she was my uncles best friend.

We all mourn losing her, but take solace knowing that her suffering is over.

Rest in peace☮️


Death is the one thing is life that's certain, but never easy to deal with.

Life is fragile, and we never know when, when it's the last time we'll speak or see someone.
We tend to think more about this when we lose someone close or dear to us in some way or another.

We get caught up in our busy schedules and put things off. I have been there.
Sometimes in the midst of doing something, if someone pops to mind, I try to send a quick message. I'm not as good as I used to be at doing this, but I will improve.

Still, I don't know what I'm gonna say; but we always find something to say, don't we?



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Our condolences to you and your favorite uncle during this time Camille.
I pray when you reach out to him the words will flow.

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Yes, I've got to! I hope I find the words. I'm not good at things like these, but it will be nice to chat with him anyway. I guess the circumstance can be a shock on the system, and maybe he needs time anyhow, but I'll make the call.
I appreciate your reply:)

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What a fabulous uncle! Sorry to hear of your aunt's passing, though. I hope your reconnection with your uncle can be heartfelt and meaningful. Blessings to you! 💜

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Hello @thekittygirl, my uncle has a beautiful soul. I have many uncles but this one is special and I'm sorry he lost his life partner this way. Thanks for your encouragement. I'll feel better when I speak to him and believe he'll appreciate hearing from me too:)

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It's the worst part of getting older that we need to say goodbye to people who were so important in our lives and then have to rely on our memories of them. The pain is compounded when you're so far from home.

Grieve in peace and hold the memories close

Best wishes and my condolences to you and your family.

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Hello @nathen007, yes, very true. Growing old and we face the inevitable more often. It's not easy, but I guess things will get better with time.
Thank you for your kind words.🙏

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I'm sorry for your loss. Like you said, death is the most certain part of life. When it comes for us, we can only hope it's peaceful and we are with loved ones. <3

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I couldn't agree with you more @adetorrent.
Thanks for your kind words and best wishes to you and your loved ones too:)

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That's a difficult thing indeed. I'm glad you had an uncle and support person like that though, so many don't have that! Very unfortunate that your aunt passed, she will certainly be missed. Hopefully the time and conversation between your uncle happens appropriately as it seems it will. Those are really difficult conversations to have, so it's certainly a time where we don't really know what to say but we can talk about so much. The suffering is over though, that's the important part!

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it's certainly a time where we don't really know what to say but we can talk about so much.

I keep trying to convince myself of this, and I think it's true. I just never been good at dealing with others pain when I can't do anything to help.
Thanks for your kind words, I appreciate them:)

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@millycf1976

Like a page from my #thoughtfuldailypost mindset... Not that there is a specific "manual" but certainly what I had in mind when I created this initiative. I am, of course, sorry to hear of the passing of your uncle's wife. Prayers for comfort and strength... condolences as well. I grew up being raised by elderly grandparents. Grandparents that had gone through the "Great Depression" and knew how to not only work hard but also, love just as hard. However, they were my grandparents... and with that, came the understanding of poor health. I knew at an early age, what it meant to be in hospitals, retirement homes, and yes... funeral homes.


What do you say, really?

Does what you say really matter?

I don't know what I'm gonna say, but I will say something.


All I know, are words from the heart. It is never easy to be in this type of situation, but when we talk from the heart, we know we have said, and done, the best we can. Thank you for such a heartfelt and wonderful post, my friend...

Wes...

!LUV @tipu curate !WINE

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Hello @wesphilbin, this is a very touching reply.

I like that: "to not only work hard, but to love just as hard 🙏

I'm sure you gained unmatched wisdom and strength from your elderly grandparents that you must have applied throughout your years.

Speaking from the heart... I totally agree with you; that's all I ever do, and think I should approach this the same way🙂

I am touched by your story!

Thank you very much for your inspirational words:)

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@millycf1976

Thank you for deciding to use my TAG! There are certainly many to choose from... I thank you for mine being one of them...

Love and light ✌️

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Sorry for your loss and I truly hope that time helps your family to heal fully following this tragedy especially your uncle, it is well.

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