Have you ever been caught in a yes or no situation?
What do I mean?
A situation whereby you are caught in accepting a request from a friend, relative, or loved one which is not in line with your goal. You then have to say a yes (and they regard you as a good person) or a no (and be regarded as a rude, arrogant, and unhelpful person.)
We most often agree to some responsibilities to impress someone, become overwhelmed by such responsibilities. Sometimes, we also do this hoping we could get help from such people later in the future. But a wise man once said; ‘the ultimate productive hack is saying no!”
Some responsibilities are distractions. When you say yes to distractions, you waste your most valuable asset, TIME. The time you spend on such distraction could do something productive.
Anytime you say yes to responsibility, it is like committing, owing to debt, and making an obligation you must fulfill. Saying no is like saving time; you still can spend your time the way you want to.
You need to weigh your options:
How much of my productive time will this responsibility take?
What benefits will I make from this request?
Can I do another productive activity within this period?
Why do we always say yes, even when it’s difficult to?
Many times, the people we say yes to in inconvenience are people whom we love or admire.
We say yes to these people basically because we don’t want to be rude or arrogant. Also, because we would also need their help in return in the future. And you are correct.
But sometimes, say no to these people. By saying no, I don’t mean being directly mean in doing so; I mean saying no warmly and kindly so we don’t find ourselves over-committed and overworked.
When to say yes or no?
If an opportunity is exciting enough for you to drop every other thing, then it’s a big yes. If it is not exciting, think twice about it.
It may be difficult but weigh your chances before going into a responsibility. It will be very painful for you when you do things so effectively and then realize how useless it is to you.
Peter Drucker once said;
“There is nothing so useless as doing efficiently that which should not be done at all”