Your Glazed Donut

He was walking towards the hallway of the hospital, his tests result would be revealed. Although, he was quite hopeful about it, he believed that he was perfectly alright. Nothing major hadn't happened, he was being optimistic. He was taking small steps as if he had all the time in the world. Soon the doctor would give him the good news and he could go about his life the way it was. But back in his min, he had this nagging feeling that something isn't right. Shoving away all that negative thoughts he sat on the chair outside, waiting for the doctor to call him.

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The doctor was going through the patient's file, she wasn't sure how to deliver the news. The results weren't good and she had no idea how to break the news to him. She was informed that he was waiting outside; taking a deep breath, she called him in. He came in through the door and greeted her with a bright smile; they exchanged pleasantries. She was fidgeting with her hands; he could see the sings of worry over her brow. She couldn't form the words to tell him; she tried buffering it with scientific analysis and possible treatment. He could feel it; the horrible news that she so tried to declare with indication of hopeful recovery.

"Just tell me the truth" he raised his voice. "Tell me. No buffering no going around about the words. Give it to me plain and simple"

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Sugarcoat

Even the word is too sweet, isn't it? Do you think I sugarcoat when I write or talk? NO, I don't gloss over when I talk or text; maybe perhaps while writing, I restrain myself. That doesn't mean I use profanities a lot. I don't prefer sugary stuff, it gives me a bitter aftertaste; so imagine what I think of sugarcoated words. I know there is no good way to speak about a bad news. The severity of the news cannot be abated by comforting words. These words do help to make believe that others understand what that person is going through but the pain remains.

It's not a bad thing to have a humble nature and use mild and gentle vocabulary; these type of people are often soft spoken and easily likeable to others. Their mild manners gives them a certain doormat personality and you'll hear them taken advantage of their good nature often. Some often don't say things frankly thinking about other people's feelings; being considerate that is. And there are also people who have the same humble demeanor with poison in their hearts and mouth; they have the ability to make you accept the venomous words rather willingly and I'm sure most of us either have been or have met people such as this.

Truth, no matter how harsh, it beholds. I wonder if it is wise to just hand over the facts as it is or add some puffs to lessen the blow. Imagine someone is about to get fired from their job and they say "Hey, guess what!! You're getting a farewell gift." Okay that may make you feel better for a second or two but for how long that will last! The fact remains you just lost your job and that is quite harsh. It's often perceived as people have low tolerance towards frankness; somehow if they're fed the words as they are, they'll choke and die. I don't believe that; I'm not against being humble. I don't appreciate standoffish behavior; they frequently appear as lies. But when while stating facts, it's unnecessary to make them over-sweeten it or present them more abrasive than they already are. I guess I'm trying to say that the middle way, that is, the actual truth maybe the best to deliver.

Perhaps the best example could be the way we talk to the people close to us and how we talk to strangers. Yes, we never talk to the strangers the way we talk to our friends and family; even we try to appear as pleasant as possible to make a good impression upon them. With our loved ones, we talk however we feel like; even expect them to understand our eccentricities. They do understand us and we understand them back; no sugarcoated words, no beating around the bush.