“Thanks For Being A Great Neighbor”

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“Thanks for being a great neighbor” were the last words I heard when Stephanie ( my neighbor for the past 6 months from Australia left Japan to return home). Well those weren’t the exact last words. She actually said “I left my dying plant” 🪴 but I heard, “I left a dime bag.” 😂 I was actually looking for one but then I saw the plant and realized what she actually said.

Living in Japan I have gotten used to goodbyes from foreigners passing through the long dragon 🐉 shaped island. But I’m really gonna miss Stephanie. Not just because she’s good looking, but she had a real charm to her. She knew what she wanted and didn’t settle for less. She is also a fitness freak, something I am trying to get into. And the whip cream on the french toast, she is a lesbian so I got to ask her all those questions I never had the chance to ask other lady loving ladies.

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A few days before she left we went out to a Korean bar near our place. Now, I wasn’t a big fan of Korean food until I came accros NyamNyum Chicken recently. I can’t believe I hadn’t heard of it before, it’s fried chicken with spicy sweet Korean bbq sauce and it is a flavor you cannot forget. It’s a bit pricey by Japan standards but well worth it. Now I can finally have an image of Korean food besides kimchi.

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I thought of good present for Stephanie that could fit easily in her luggage 🧳 and I decided the best thing would be these Japanese good luck charms. The small blue one is said to push negative vibes away and bring the good vibes in. The larger wooden one is for making a wish come true by writing on the back of it and hanging it high in your house. The character on it is know as Daruma and is form the area.

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Stephanie came to Japan to coach softball as she is a professional player and was the first to do so in this program the city is piloting. She worked at an all girls high school and taught a bit of English and then coached the girls in the evenings. She also played on club teams on the weekends. But like many foreigners here, she went through a stage of loneliness and being “lost in translation”. I wish she would have stayed the full year as she was supposed to but I think she made the right choice to leave. She said there may be two girls coming on the program next time and more than likely they will live next to me.
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From right: Me, @naoki81 and Stephanie.

One thing I’ve realized with people that pass through my life that I made a good connection with is they always left me in a better state of mind, in Stephanie’s case, she left me with a more fitness oriented mindset as she taught things like her running interval routine. Run 5 minutes, walk 2-3 and by seeing her actually running many times in the early morning sun. Now stuff like this is all over the net, but when you actually learn form someone it kinda sticks more. And another thing these people usually leave with me is an inspirational book. The day Stephanie was leaving, she finished reading “the Shoe Dog” and handed it to me as I asked if she needed help with her luggage. Being the strong independent woman she is, she refused, but I would not take no for an answer.

I’ll miss Stephanie but at the same time, living in Japan I have gotten used to these kinda of goodbyes. And now I have a reason to want to visit Australia as I really had a kind of hatred for the country as they didn’t grant me a visa for a trip I was suppose to take with some friends ( third world people problems) a few years ago.

Cheers to the contentions we make in the digital and physical and now, I look forward to reading this book I’ve been wanting to get my hands on.

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Each individual we meet on life's path leaves us richer in knowledge, a place, new talent, we benefit in knowing from cultures and the people themselves.

Nice gifts you bought for her to take whilst she travels into a new life, she will treasure them.

@tipu curate

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Yes indeed! A long the way there may be a few ass 🕳s but we can learn from them also 😂.

"Nice gift"
You should have seen what her work place got her, a square box 📦 gift set with fake flowers 😂 no one in their right mind is gonna travel with that.

Ps: Thanks for the tip! #grateful

!WINE !BEER !LOL

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Meaningful, easy to pack, some have no clue!

Meeting neighbours who effect you in positive ways always a bonus.

Have an amazing day.

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passing through the long dragon 🐉 shaped island.

Wow! How comes I've never heard it referred to as that before...I'll take a look at the map:)

That's the thing about traveling and living as an expat - goodbyes happen often, you meet people from so many different walks of life, and it makes you wonder about destiny, then you realize that we all are one and connected in some way or the other.

I bet it was interesting chatting with a rug muncher lesbian. I've only ever met a few but I tend to only talk about the weather, or a leaf, or paper 🤣, or light convo...🤣

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You know I was trying to be "a creative writer" with that one 😆 but I really think the map does resemble a dragon/ serpent.

Yup, so many people come in and out of your life but then there are the ones that leave a real impact. And indeed it makes us wonder about our own destiny and also realizing that we all have the same concerns about life and the future and yes the connection. There was a time when I didn’t really want to get too close to people who came and went because I knew they would soon leave but that is life right? Enjoy the moment.

It was really interesting 😆 made me realize how not so different those relationships are. Also had a good number of jokes. The night at a the bar another group was at the counter and they were asking about the Australian Olympic swimmer that happened to be gay. They seemed kinda disappointed. And I asked Stephanie if I could tell them that she was also, then I did.

“Yeah well, she has a wife in Australia”

Their faces went blank 😂 ( especially the 70 year old man)

“Oh Australian joke” they said

“Nope, her wife is actually cute.”

They had no clue how to respond 😂

“Well it is 2022”

😂

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i'm glad you had great time with your friends!! we always need those tiimes!

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You are right. “Good-byes” are common here especially with foreigners. Great that you had such a lovely neighbor. It reminds me of two lovely Australian neighbors I said bye to a few years ago. They were always there for my family and never missed our birthdays. We tried hard to keep up with theirs. Luckily they were able to visit just before CO-VID. We miss them.
Just last Friday too, our neighbors moved to America. They had two children who were like my kids’ siblings. They went to school together and came home together. We get used to saying bye but this one was really sad. One of the kids was my younger son’s classmate. They had their little fights but got along well. He really misses her. Hoping this week will go well for them at school. We’ll do our best to keep in touch. Childhood friendships are special.
Now I need a good friend whose into fitness to get me up and running. 😂😂

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Trust me. Makes you wonder wah me a do here so long" 😂 Most Australians I meet tend to be really nice people.

Oh man that must be rough on your youngest. But now he has a reason to want to visit America. It is cool that he had a “girl friend” at that age.

You know I’ve been trying to keep it up and been doing well but the hardest part now is overcoming the morning coldness. 😂

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Yes man. Time getting cold. Went for a walk Sunday evening with the fam but we ended up buying crepes. That wasn’t a part of the original plan. 😂😂

Yeah man, it’s tough on the little one but I’m happy he’s able to express it. I felt it too to be honest. Talking bout "girl friend", I noticed he was buying her little treats from his pocket money. 😂😆Just his sistren though. If him did like har differently, him wudda shy bout it.Him neva shy. Dem did have dem likkle fights like siblings rivalry. Lol!!
He was telling me and @bearmol that he wants a sister. Nice they could have that relationship. Him have him likkle ways but she knew how to deal with him. 😆😆

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Now stuff like this is all over the net, but when you actually learn form someone it kinda sticks more.

Yeah, because of seeing someone actually doing it and sticking by it. I find exercising in group settings, with music on the background, going way easier, than by myself.

And now I have a reason to want to visit Australia as I really had a kind of hatred for the country as they didn’t grant me a visa for a trip I was suppose to take with some friends ( third world people problems) a few years ago.

That visa story sounds so familiar (sigh...)

Hope that you'll get the chance to visit Australia someday.

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Ah the group setting with music. You don't want to be the only one not moving and looking lazy 😂

You know these days I find more inspiration listening to podcast. Song do pump me up but sometimes I don't even know what to listen to that I can get some value form 😆

That visa story sounds so familiar (sigh )
The world ain’t leveled at all.

Yeah I hope so too. It’s funny, my kids can go without any fuss or visa but I gotta jump through the loops.

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. Song do pump me up but sometimes I don't even know what to listen to that I can get some value form 😆

!LOL That's true though, but I tend to feel the pains from exercising less when listening to music 😅.

Podcasts and audiobooks are more for when I'm doing menial tasks.

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