Abundance.Tribe BiWeekly Question - Who Are You Becoming?

You can't do anything about the past but you definitely can do something about the future

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This question is one that helps me to reflect on certain things in my life.
About 10 years ago, if I was asked this question, I would say things like I want to be an Engineer, I will also say things like I want to make sure everyone who is around me is happy. I didn't have anything bothering me at that time.

Five years later, I discovered that you can't make everyone happy because the only person that makes everyone happy is the man that sells ice cream until you meet a rude one.

At that time, I also did not want to wrong anyone instead I will prefer to be wronged. I would endure a toxic situation so as not to be the person to cause the pain. I remember staying in a relationship for an extra two years after being tired.

Today the story is totally different. I am one who has decided to put myself first. I used to be someone who will do things at the expense of myself. I didn't know how to tell people to go away without feeling hurt about it.

I also used to be someone who didn't really care about anything. I didn't have a good work ethic, I was scared of too much work and so didn't learn so much as a student.
I only cared about money and nothing else so most of the time I hustled for money.

I also wanted to impress everyone my mother, my friends, and even people who didn't give a shit about whether I was existing.

So what did I do?

I decided to stop giving a shit about everyone and focus on building myself. Building myself meant my abilities, finances, emotions, and relationships.

A few weeks ago, I got 2 job offers from two different hospitals. I got one from the best hospital in Nigeria and from a random hospital that paid the same salary. A lot of people thought I wouldn't choose the best hospital as they felt I was the same man who didn't want the stress and didn't care about acquiring a skill. However, I picked the best hospital and I did so because I wanted to build myself, my knowledge, my skill, and also my life.

I have also been someone who took finances seriously and this is one trait I don't want to trade for anything. I have decided to become better with my finances. Spend on necessary things till the goal of financial freedom is reached.

So who am I becoming?

I am becoming the man that thinks about himself first. I am also becoming that man with good working ethics. A man who people will recommend for his efficiency and skill.

I am becoming that man who is constantly finding ways to beat poverty flawlessly. A man that is very prudent in his spending and also responsible for each of his financial actions.

For the past month, I have been meeting a lot of people as a result of the connections from my mother. I have never liked the idea of begging for help so I decided after getting a job that I will build my connection by standing out in anything I do.

I am also becoming that man that will be the connection someone or a bunch of people will need.

In summary, I am becoming that man that I imagined as an ideal figure. A man in charge of himself.

Thank you for reading