Marriage celebration: Ibibio marriage process

in Hive Cross Culture !2 months ago (edited)

I was going through posts here on hive then I stumbled on this post by @evegrace, I clicked on it, read it and decided to join. It's actually my first time of posting here.

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Marriage here in Ibibio land is not a long process and doesn't really require much except for some villages which makes marriage rites a process of getting wealthy and rich. It's bad and sad because that had actually made some youths who are duely riped and due for marriage to stay single till now. But I believe things will change.

Well, from the part I come come and few other good villages, marriage rites are done in a good way without much stress and troubles. I'm actually from Itu L.G.A in Akwa Ibom State, Nigeria.

Now, the first thing a couple that wants to get married does is that the man will have to know the compound and the family members of the bride after proposing to her and engaging her.

Secondly, they (bride and groom) will still go back to the bride's family to declare his intentions towards the bride and seek the bride's family consent before anything else.

Thirdly, after the bride's family might have accepted his request, he (the groom) will have to go back and get the marriage list. And here, some families list for the group are outrageous but there are still good families out there like mine.

Fourthly, the groom will have to provide everything in the list and both of them will be blessed and given a go ahead to start the marriage journey by first fixing a date for the traditional marriage and white wedding.

After the above process, some do court marriage before proceeding with the traditional marriage. It's not a must and it's not compulsory, if they both agree and there's enough money, then they are free to go ahead.

The traditional marriage is usually done in the bride's family compound except the bride's family did not have a house of their own or the family compound is too small to occupy guests, then they can take it to a primary school field where they would be space for everyone.

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During the traditional marriage, the bride's family cooks all kinds of meals in Ibibio tribe to show the groom's family what his soon to be wife will be cooking when they eventually be together.

Some of those meals asides rice, beans, plantain, Cocoyam and wateryam etc include
Afang soup, Atama soup, Editan soup, Vegetable soup, white soup, okro soup, melon soup, bitter leaf soup, ekpang nkukwo etc. All the above meals are eaten by the groom's family alone, while others like rice are for general.

The groom first comes out before the bride dancing and singing with joy and happiness. There after, the bride will officially show everyone his husband to be with a wine especially to her parents and then they will be blessed.

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After the traditional marriage, they will both go to church for the white wedding and exchange rings, dance and rejoice and pronounced husband and wife.

It's always a great time and I enjoy it. Soonest, mine will be announced 😀😀😀.

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I am so sorry dear, it just that it has really been a while I have seen you around but your entry is great and the lady in question is beautiful.

I noticed you did not source th image so I guess it is a photo taken from your gallery.

It's okay
Yeah I didn't source the image cos I suddenly have forgotten to do that. Please can you help me? How do I go about that?

The pictures are they yours? The post source goes back to the contest blog

Thanks for the observation
I'll source the photos

What you describe in your publication is very interesting, each culture does it in a different way. There is something that makes me curious: if the groom cannot complete the list, he cannot get married? Thanks for sharing. Greetings from Maracay. I use translator.

Lol... you can't continue with the wedding if you don't complete the list. That's why one needs to be financially ready. Thanks for stopping by, I appreciate

What impresses me the most about these kinds of cultures is the costumes they wear. Be it white or colored, the bride's dress is beautiful, with its lace and a very nice shine. Beautiful wedding.

Awwwwn
That's so sweet
Thanks. That's why I love my culture

Your ethnic marriage rites is a rich one. Obviously, one has to be financially buoyant to get married. Also, the traditional wedding is okay. No need to embark on church wedding or registry but still, we do this. Hehehe, double-decker weddings. Thanks for sharing. 🙂🍀

Yeah... thanks for the compliment
Did I hear you say no need to embark on church wedding? Ha! Girls no go gree ooo😀😀😀
It's either the two or nothing 🤷