How to win friends and influence people by Dale Carnegie. Part IX: A drop of honey
Just as a drop of honey pleases those who use it for their various interests, so should our behavior be to attract new friends and positively influence people.
If we are not like honey, we will most likely get angry at some point and try to vent our anger on someone else, and if we see it from an individualistic and selfish perspective we can vent our anger and feel relieved, but we might wonder:
Most likely, the person to whom we vent all our anger will not feel as good as we do, so even if there is something to mediate for the benefit of both parties, chances are that everything will go wrong and not end up giving both parties an agreement.
By natural law, human beings have evolved to a behavior that allows them to be dominated more by their lack of knowledge than by force, which is why I can firmly assure you that no one likes to change his mind after making a radical decision.
This is one of the reasons why we must act like a drop of honey, that is to say, for no reason whatsoever should we force anyone to agree with our own ideas, what is possible to achieve is that we can lead the other person with kindness so that without realizing it, they work for our own interests.
Conclusion
I can conclude by telling you, that if our objective is to lead another person to fulfill our own objectives, I assure you that with scolding and threats he will not achieve it, on the contrary if he tries to bring you in like the honey attracts, then you will end up having influence on others to fulfill some specific objective.
hi @carlos84 i loved that book, it really gives many secrets to manipulate people, it is important that we get people to do what we need if we want to achieve success
Hello @carlos84,
There is a saying that no one learns in someone else's shirt and I believe that if we want others to adopt our work mechanisms, it is best to lead by example without imposition or mistreatment. Thank you for your contribution and for such pleasant lines of writing.
Greetings dear Professor @carlos84
In full agreement, there is no better way to attract new friends and positively influence people than with attitudes that cloy like honey, in our case through selfless, proactive, affective, respectful, and collaborative actions. Thank you for this beautiful article.
Hello friend, certainly we must know how to deal with people and understand that no one is to blame for what we may feel, we must learn to control our emotions and not let them control us. In life we cannot pretend that everyone thinks like us, we are all different and that is valid.
A very enlightening article. Really need to be able to control your emotions, because a harsh word said inadvertently can really hurt a person.
I've heard a lot about this book and also learned many things from the small part of this book. We have ability to control your emotions so don't be a slave of your desires. superb post.
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There is no doubt that you have to know how to manage your emotions when it comes to getting something from others, there is a reason why the saying goes: you can get more with a drop of honey than with a drop of vinegar.
You just have to know how to say things without hurting, but you also have to know how to show the error without deception, everything depends on how you handle yourself.
Hi @carlos84
It is logical, nobody likes to be treated badly.
Knowing how to say things is literally an art. You can make yourself understood even when something is bothering you a lot. And not to be rude in doing so, it is necessary to learn that skill.
It is a constant that attractive personalities often become leaders in their field, knowing how to deal with people allows us to find valuable people who will help us achieve that goal we want so much on the other hand threats only cause us problems with other people.