[Esp-Ing] El Perdón, tu legado más importante
Hola Queridos papá y mamá!
Solemos pensar en dinero, una casa, propiedades, en fin, cosas materialmente valiosas que suelen dar estabilidad económica. Eso es algo realmente genial e importante, sin embargo, hoy quiero hablarles de un regalo con el cual siempre estarán en paz consigo mismos, la base para todo lo demás.
Hello Dear mum and dad!
I believe that as parents, sometimes we have in our mind thoughts related to the Legacy we want to leave to our children, what we want them to learn from us, and that in turn, can be useful for life and I know that in those fertile minds, many beautiful ideas are made because we love them and want the best for them.
We usually think of money, a house, property, in short, materially valuable things that usually give economic stability. That is really great and important, but today I want to talk to you about a gift with which they will always be at peace with themselves, the basis for everything else.
Un Legado Especial
Cuando enseñamos a nuestros niños a perdonar, les estamos entregando la posibilidad de liberar malos pensamientos, rencores, odios innecesarios. Aprenden a ser empáticos y pensar que al igual que ellos, los los demás también cometen errores y que, en muchos casos, aquellos que piden perdón necesitan sentir que las cosas pueden cambiar. Les enseñamos a curar su corazón. Mientras les enseñamos a pedir perdón aprenden a aceptar, a ser humildes y refuerzan su actitud positiva ante el reconocimiento de sus errores y se abre en ellos la posibilidad de no volverlos a repetir.
A special legacy
We are raising beings that we want to have humanity within them. We want them to be able to love, to respect, to feel affinity and solidarity for those around them, and at the same time to be able to receive and be grateful for all these gifts of life.
When we teach our children to forgive, we are giving them the possibility to release bad thoughts, grudges, unnecessary hatreds. They learn to be empathetic and to think that just as they make mistakes, so do others and that, in many cases, those who ask for forgiveness need to feel that things can change. We teach them to heal their hearts. While we teach them to ask for forgiveness they learn to accept, to be humble and to reinforce their positive attitude towards the recognition of their mistakes and the possibility of not repeating them.
Infortunadamente, esto tan hermoso va mucho más allá de los discursos, regaños o llamados de atención. Necesitamos predicar con el ejemplo. En ocasiones nos sentimos tan abrumados con todo lo que nos ocurre en el día a día que, no nos medimos al corregir a nuestros niños, se nos va de la mano y hacemos o decimos cosas fuera de lugar. Sin embargo, es justo en ese momento, cuando nos damos cuenta de que lo que hemos hecho está mal, que dijimos una palabra donde no iba o nos excedimos en el castigo que Debemos pedirles perdón. No importa si tenemos la razón, importa más que pudimos haberlo hecho diferente y él/ella necesita saber que lo reconocemos.
Unfortunately, this beautiful thing goes far beyond speeches, scoldings or reprimands. We need to lead by example. Sometimes we feel so overwhelmed with everything that happens to us on a daily basis that we do not measure ourselves when correcting our children, we get out of hand and we do or say things that are out of place. However, it is right at that moment, when we realise that what we have done is wrong, that we said a word where it didn't belong or that we went too far in our punishment that we MUST ask for forgiveness. It doesn't matter if we are right, it matters more that we could have done it differently and he/she needs to know that we recognise that. Saying sorry is not demeaning, nor does it take away our authority. Far from that idea, it humanises us in front of our children and with that, he/she knows that his/her mum or dad is not afraid or ashamed to accept that he/she was wrong.
On one occasion my twins were playing and because of the game, they argued and Isaac said to his twin, "I'm not going to be your brother anymore", when I heard the argument I said to Isaac: "How do you say that to your brother? Can't you see that he gets sad?", then Moses answered: "It doesn't matter, mum, I will be his brother". At that moment I understood that He had already forgiven him. His forgiveness and his brotherly love overcame the barrier of misunderstanding.
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