Sticking to a Bad Marriage
Our society, our culture has taught us that marriage is a paramount part of life and one must go through it. Since such thoughts have been incorporated in our minds from day 1, we all feel that marriage is a necessity and we can't live without it.
First of all, I don't agree with this thought. Marriage is not something that takes us along. Husband-Wife is not the only relationship that helps us survive. It's not even god gifted. It's something we do of our own will and might not even be successful all the time.
The next thing that our society has taught us is about staying in a bad marriage. When we marry someone, we have some hopes, some expectations. We enter into a relationship with a positive mindset and with a notion to live our life with that person forever. But when we decide on marrying someone, we don't get a lifetime to know them. It's just a couple of years, and for some of us, just a couple of months to decide if we can live our lives with them. What if after a few months of marriage we realize we weren't meant to be together? We don't feel the required compatibility?
A bad marriage is not only signified by fights or domestic violence. It is also greatly characterized by lack of companionship, failure to understand each other's emotions, not giving enough time, not being able to understand the partner's needs and wants, and not feeling the need to stay together.
With all these characteristics of marriage, should we still continue?
Our elders teach us that marriage is a pure relationship that once done cannot be undone. But what's the point of living in a failed marriage? Why do we wake up to a face every day that we don't really wish to see? Why should we share our room with someone we don't wish to sleep with? Why should we even breathe in an atmosphere which is claustrophobic?
I strongly condemn staying in a bad marriage. Relationships are assets and not liabilities. If one doesn't want to stay in it, they should not be forced. Divorce should not be cursed, it should rather be appreciated as a mature decision between 2 adults who want different things in life. Rather than staying in a relationship where breathing is a problem, one must stay alone in a free, productive aura.
Marriages are to love, to enjoy, to feel. If they don't give you that pleasure, they are just a pain which you definitely don't need to live with forever.
When your marriage becomes a meme, you should know what to do!
Indeed it's your life alone. If someone doesn't make you happy leave them, sticking in a toxic marriage and thinking that the another person will change for good. It's not gonna happen.
I like the quote that says partner should be happy individually and when we come in a relationship we will be double happy together.
Yeah, that's the work - Toxic relationship! I missed mentioning it. I've seen so many friends living a badly compromised life, full of toxicity, unsatisfied. It is so difficult. But this is what our parents have taught us, to compromise and adjust but not give up even if you are getting a slow death.
Yes Indeed, compromise our state of happiness for someone's madness is the worst idea, I wish People understand this thing and take better decision.
I can’t stay about our previous generation but the current and upcoming ones are giving me high hopes.
Yeah me too. Cheers for individual happiness🍻
Marriage is sweet when you married your best friend or the right person, God said we should be fruitful and multiply.
That is why if you want to go into marriage,we starts with relationship and then during the relationship you you will know maybe you can cope with the person or you can't stay with the person.
The reason why some people get problem in there marriage is because they married the wrong person.
And some do not study their partner very well, some sees some lapses in the relationship, but they think they can endure it or the person will change.
And God hate divorce, as they say to single is better to be married and be praying to be single.
Before we can say yes I do, we need to study a lot of things concerning our spouse, the thing he wants and things he did not want,maybe you can cope with it or you can handle it. but in any relationship there is nothing to be manage.
because if you say you are manage the person and later on the person cannot be managed, there's nothing you can do than to be praying to God to help you out.
In marriage there is alot of challenges, but when you understand your spouse the marriage will be perfect.
Understand, Love, care, and trust is key to a wonderful or successed in marriage.
When you are in a relationship, you are still not living together. The same person is different as a boy/girl friend and husband/wife. I don't know what marriage does to relationships. Is it the additional responsibility or taking each other for granted or the involvement of 100s of other people. There is something fishy about the concept of marriage.
No is not to take each other for granted and when there is relationship they are not living together.
But they will go out together, something they visit themselves and do conduct a test to know more about themselves.
before marriage can set in, you will start from somewhere, which is friendship and friendship Will lead to relationship from relationship to marriage.
To me I believe throughout this period the two them, should have known themselves better.
I think even after marriage one should try to stay as best friends. Marriage does change things but if we stick to that friendly, jolly bond, things might be different.
Yes there should be best friends ever, because they are one.
Seriously marriage is one of the things that is very important though is also a matter of choice and has always said is an institution that one cannot graduate from it
As I always said no matter the love between you and your spouse that will always be sometimes of an argument I mean sometimes when things will not work together but the way you guys don't do it is the most important thing at the same time there are some toxic marriage in which is really touch and speak about the lives of people
A lot of marriage nowadays has a lot of issues that no one to share with and many ladies are not willing to quit where some guys also are not willing to quit from their marriage but if in a situation where they are not comfortable they begin to face a lot of situation a lot of problems which will really affect them something like this cannot continue for long and if it continue for long it will have a negative impact on their children marriage is not the thing that should be used to joke in any way is a very vital things in the lives of every man and woman that must been taken into consideration
I appreciate the writer for taking time in writing about this this is one of the important things I believe one of the day I will take my time to also speak about marriage to share it with this wonderful community so everyone can
Wow this is a great story it is very interesting that I come across this story to share as well with you topic sticking to a bad marriage
I would like to translate this my comment to different languages so that people could read and learn from it as well sticking to a bad marriage firstly I would like to said it's not an easy thing when you get married to a wrong person I disengage and started your career it have a lot of negative influence in someone's life which nobody prayed for me what are the situation that can lead to this
At the point of choosing the right path now they are some things that you don't need to look before choosing the right person there to look at the money or the position the person is before you choose him it might lead you to a wrong person I don't said all this is not important but you need to Choose Wisely one of the things that you need to use before choosing the right person are
You need to pray prayer is the key I don't see a worshipper that doesn't pray once you don't have the other standing to choose by yourself some appear to be good but inside of them they are evil and bad some will even pretend just to have you and Wednesday have you you begin to see the other character but the truth is that when you pray before choosing it will really help you and will go a long way in life
Now coming back to stick into a bad marriage when you stick to a bad marriage this have a negative influence in your life because it can even take your life you will not enjoy your stay and it will make you to hate your life completely nobody around you will be able to enjoy you because of the experience that you have is the institution that no-one graduated 4 so it will make you to suffer in silence which is very bad
Secondly if the children learn all these they will find it very hard as if that is our marriage is and the female Monday may not be able to move forward to get married just because of what they have said from their parents you can see how bad it is when you stick to a bad marriage
What are the way out when you having a bad marriage the Only Way Out is prayer and advise go for counseling go for people that have experience in marriage to advise you so that you can know how to cook you know the both of you came from different backgrounds and understanding really matter when it comes to marriage but when the husband is claiming to be the head and the wife is claiming to be the neck that is where problem normally started
It is true that both of you my love each other but if there is lack of understanding between you and your spouse it will create a lot of problem and it will not allow you to have a peace of mind do you know that when you stick to a bad marriage it will scatter the plans you will not be able to plan where you know be within reason well as a person will not be able to have a good people around you because of the way you will be reasoning
I will said I really cherish this topic a lot as I said earlier that I will love to interpret this topic in different languages so that everyone can learn because I know that will this have make some contribution that are useful and as we are I know everybody is planning to get married which will really help a lot I appreciate the writer for The Wonderful story has given up here cuz I need sticking to a bad marriage and he has let us to know the effort and the problem in sticking to it
Spanish :
Wow, esta es una gran historia, es muy interesante que me encuentre con esta historia para compartir con ustedes el tema de un mal matrimonio. Me gustaría traducir este mi comentario a diferentes idiomas para que la gente pueda leerlo y aprender de él, además de mantener un mal matrimonio. En primer lugar, me gustaría decir que no es fácil cuando te casas con una persona equivocada. Me desconecto y comencé. Tu carrera tiene mucha influencia negativa en la vida de alguien que nadie oró por mí ¿Cuáles son las situaciones que pueden llevar a esto? En el momento de elegir el camino correcto ahora, hay algunas cosas que no necesita mirar antes de elegir a la persona adecuada allí para ver el dinero o la posición en la que se encuentra la persona antes de elegirla, podría llevarlo a una persona equivocada. No dije que todo esto no sea importante, pero debes elegir sabiamente una de las cosas que debes usar antes de elegir a la persona adecuada.
Necesitas orar, la oración es la clave No veo a un adorador que no ora una vez que no tienes al otro parado para elegir por ti mismo, algunos parecen ser buenos, pero dentro de ellos son malos y malos, algunos incluso lo harán. finge solo tenerte y el miércoles tenerte empiezas a ver al otro personaje pero la verdad es que cuando rezas antes de elegirlo realmente te ayudará y te recorrerá un largo camino en la vida. Ahora volviendo a pegarme en un mal matrimonio cuando te apegas a un mal matrimonio esto tiene una influencia negativa en tu vida porque incluso puede quitarte la vida, no disfrutarás tu estadía y te hará odiar tu vida por completo a nadie a tu alrededor. Podrás disfrutarte por la experiencia que tienes es la institución que nadie se graduó 4 por lo que te hará sufrir en silencio lo cual es muy malo En segundo lugar, si los niños aprenden todo esto, les resultará muy difícil como si ese fuera nuestro matrimonio y la mujer Monday no pueda seguir adelante para casarse solo por lo que han dicho de sus padres, puedes ver lo malo que es. es cuando te apegas a un mal matrimonio
Diré que realmente aprecio mucho este tema, como dije antes, que me encantará interpretar este tema en diferentes idiomas para que todos puedan aprender porque sé que esto habrá hecho alguna contribución que sea útil y, como somos, conozco a todos. Está planeando casarse, lo cual realmente ayudará mucho. Aprecio que el escritor de La maravillosa historia se haya rendido aquí porque necesito mantener un mal matrimonio y él nos ha hecho saber el esfuerzo y el problema de mantenerlo.
Portuguese :
Uau, essa é uma ótima história, é muito interessante que eu encontrei essa história para compartilhar também com vocês, o tópico que trata de um casamento ruim
Eu gostaria de traduzir este meu comentário para diferentes idiomas para que as pessoas pudessem ler e aprender com ele também aderindo a um casamento ruim em primeiro lugar. Eu gostaria de dizer que não é uma coisa fácil quando você se casa com uma pessoa errada eu me desliguei e comecei sua carreira tem muita influência negativa na vida de alguém que ninguém orou por mim quais são as situações que podem levar a isso
No ponto de escolher o caminho certo agora, existem algumas coisas que você não precisa olhar antes de escolher a pessoa certa lá para olhar para o dinheiro ou a posição que a pessoa está antes de você escolhê-la, isso pode levar você a uma pessoa errada Eu não disse que tudo isso não é importante, mas você precisa escolher com sabedoria, uma das coisas que você precisa usar antes de escolher a pessoa certa é Você precisa orar, a oração é a chave Eu não vejo um adorador que não ore, uma vez que você não tem o outro se levantando para escolher por si mesmo, alguns parecem ser bons, mas dentro deles são maus e maus, alguns até finja só ter você e quarta-feira você começa a ver o outro personagem, mas a verdade é que quando você orar antes de escolher vai realmente te ajudar e irá percorrer um longo caminho na vida
Agora, voltando a ter um casamento ruim, quando você mantém um casamento ruim, isso tem uma influência negativa em sua vida porque pode até tirar sua vida, você não vai aproveitar sua estadia e vai fazer você odiar sua vida completamente, ninguém ao seu redor vai poder curtir você porque a experiência que você tem é a instituição que ninguém se formou 4 então vai te fazer sofrer em silêncio o que é muito ruim Em segundo lugar, se os filhos aprenderem tudo isso, eles acharão muito difícil como se fosse o nosso casamento e a segunda-feira feminina pode não ser capaz de se casar apenas por causa do que eles disseram de seus pais, você pode ver o quão ruim é é quando você se apega a um casamento ruim Qual é a saída quando você está tendo um casamento ruim? A Única Saída é orar e aconselhar ir para aconselhamento ir para pessoas que têm experiência em casamento para aconselhá-lo para que você saiba cozinhar você sabe que os dois vieram de diferentes Antecedentes e compreensão realmente importam quando se trata de casamento, mas quando o marido afirma ser o cabeça e a esposa afirma ser o pescoço, é aí que o problema normalmente começa É verdade que vocês dois se amam, mas se houver falta de entendimento entre você e seu cônjuge, isso criará muitos problemas e não permitirá que você tenha paz de espírito, você sabe disso quando você segue um casamento ruim irá espalhar os planos que você não será capaz de planejar quando você sabe que está dentro do razoável, bem como uma pessoa não será capaz de ter pessoas boas ao seu redor por causa da maneira como você estará raciocinando Eu direi que realmente valorizo muito este tópico, como disse anteriormente, que adorarei interpretar este tópico em diferentes idiomas para que todos possam aprender, porque eu sei que isso fará alguma contribuição que seja útil e como somos, conheço todos está planejando se casar, o que realmente ajudará muito. Agradeço que o escritor de A história maravilhosa desistiu daqui porque eu preciso manter um casamento ruim e ele nos disse o esforço e o problema em mantê-lo
Hmm, marriage is very joyful in you're in the right relationship, cause it will be great when you guys been understand each other,it is sweet when you guys are sharing same heart.
Don't be a gossip person as a woman and also as a man
Don't be a talkative as the both gender.
And it really be forever happiness if you guys don't keep the mistakes of one and other which I believe you guys told people of the public that nothing can separated you till death do you part.
I don't even know what to say about marriage again because the happiness that Mr/Mrs A experience and sadness for Mr/Mrs B so marriage can be comparable.
Thanks for this topic
I agree. Marriage is the best thing if it goes right. When you are with the right person, you don't want anything more from life. You like to share all your happiness and sorrows with them, travel with them. It's so good to have a shoulder always to lean on. Marriage is indeed beautiful if you are lucky.
Fantastic and brilliant words from you friend, marriage is very great when you get your right person. I love this your statement. Thanks and nice weekend
Just getting to see this,but of all I still Very much can say that u would love to add little to it , cause to me this is a very good topic to talk about and of all I must say that the concept at which you are are talking about is a very big one and it has alot to do with our life in today's World and let me say one thing that has actually attracted my attention to this is not just because it is useful for married people,but the fact that it's more of good importance to singles like me and that is why am very attracted to this content immediately I got to see this.
Permit me to say marriage of of God which means it is a union that exists from the creation of Adam and eve, which means that biblically it is a confirmed one from God and to me I want to say that marriage should not be for babies and this are just my opinion anyway, irrespective of who we are in life,we should learn that having a abd partner to me and base on teaching is like writing a letter to hell,cause I was made to know and believe that a bad partner is next to hell, which means that it is even better and advisable to remain single in life than ending up with a bad marriage.
You are not the only one supporting that motion from you mate,I strongly say no to bad marriage too, cause nit dies not yield good fruit to me and most times the offspring are the one who ends up suffer from it the more, just nlike I said earlier having a lonely or single life Is much more better and of good Health than ending up with a bad marriage,I must say that I sincerely have alot to say on this content,but I just have to let it end here , by telling you that no one should choose to stay in a bad marriage irrespective of gains attached to it or anyform of value they are pocketing.