Social Interactions In This World Of Diversity - 3 Lessons learnt by interacting with people
You'd know that no man is an island, eh?
Being alive in this world of complexities has a way of connecting us to people of different culture, age, religion, social ranking, financial rating, etc. Everyone with their unique abilities, values and ideologies. And then, we get to associate with these people while learning from each other. That's thrilling!
It's a fun thing to do, although there are some bitter memories attached to it. After all, people are the ones that hurt their fellow humans. I've had a couple of experience after years of associating with people and l got to learn from it. That's how my life has been. I always try to learn a lot, remember a great deal of what l learnt and forget nothing.
Let's see what I've been able to learn about Interacting with people;
1. Be Mindful Of Fake People: The first thing l do whenever l start talking with anyone is to figure out if the person is real or fake. This isn't as easy as it sounds but it's worth all the effort made towards identifying how real/fake someone is. Take this from me, there are a lot of fake people out there and they will stop at nothing until they achieve their ulterior motive of approaching you.
Whenever l notice that someone is being fake, l don't just sit back and dance to their tune. Why? Because l don't want to waste my energy on people that are up to no good -not when l can use the same time to associate with real people. Having keen eyes for detail is something l can boast of. It has helped me to differentiate fake people from real ones.
Remember, you've also got to be real when dealing with people. It kinda takes a lot of courage to be honest especially when you know that you may be cajoled or discriminated. But then, if you choose to be fake to blend in with just anyone, you will invariably expose yourself to just anyone. It ends badly, one way or the other.
2. If you treat people with respect, it will most likely be reciprocated: Even if l find myself in a heated argument -which is rarely the case, l still respect people's opinion and l try as much as possible to listen to the points they would be making.
This singular act has been on my fingertips and it's something l put on the table whenever I'm discussing with anyone.
What you need to know about people is, everyone wants to feel valued and it's always very satisfying for them to know that their opinion is well taken. This doesn't mean that you should inflate their ego and nod in agreement to everything they are doing. You just need to disagree in a way that shows that you don't mean any offence.
Acting this way would invariably make it hard for the person to blatantly launch an attack on you. It brings plants a seed of mutual respect in the friendship/relationship.
3. There must be a common ground, just find it: Yeah, I've already made it clear that whenever we meet people, there can be differences in culture, age, religion, social ranking, financial rating, etc.
What you also need to know is that there must be something that both of you share in common. At the very least, we all are humans and there is no greater common ground than that -joking apart!
Finding the commonalities you share with people is easier than you think -take this from a guy that lives in a multi-tribal country made up of 371 ethnic groups (source).
I don't know your plans but I'm sure that you will do well in your relationship with people if you always lookout for the commonalities that are in existence between you and every other person you initiate a conversation with.
Interacting with people has its ups and downs. I just know that everyone has something special about them and l always have that in mind whenever I'm interacting with people.
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This is so informative on how to relate with people. If you had asked me how I relate with people before I started my writing journey, I would say I was very bad at relating with people. I always want to be on my own because I felt I won't make good impressions on people and I find it hard to be comfortable with people I just meet or I don't just like for no reason.
Well, recently I've been good at interacting with people and I must say it's interesting because you get to learn new stuffs, stay informed and you grow in understanding people more.
One thing that has always worked in interacting with people is being approachable and not moody, I'm someone that studies people's expressions to know if I could talk with them or not.
Many people find it hard to hold conversation with people but there's always going to be a moment in your life when you will suddenly break out of that and start enjoying the benefits of consistently holding conversations with people. It was just a few years ago that I started mine but I have learnt a lot about people within that period.
Being approachable and always putting on a smiling face is one of the things that would invariably attract people to you because nobody likes to start anything with someone that is keeping a moody face.
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Hello, I liked your article, I felt identified, I am one of few friends, but if I like meeting people, when I was a child I was super shy over the years I changed but I did not stop being cautious because as many of us have touched meet fake people. I am also one of those who learns from people, because I consider that each one that comes into my life has a purpose and from that there is a learning.
Experience has made a lot of people to start withdrawing from others but I'm glad that you found a way to pull yourself together.
Being too careful isn't bad either so, always look out for those fake people because they are time Killers.
I'm glad that you can relate to this story
This is an inspiring post @kenechukwu97.
Human beings are complex and beautiful. We may be generally quite similar in outward form, but our minds are unique and can take on vastly different shapes depending on the experiences and ideas and emotions that we are exposed to.
On the one hand, this is a wonderful thing, but the flip-side is that different beliefs and ideologies can lead to violent clashes unless we each treat each other with the respect we deserve.
Your post gives a great blue-print of how humans should behave to one another. To discuss ideas, to disagree respectfully and hopefully arrive at a place where both parties are enriched with a new perspective.