4 Besos, 4 años. Bilingual// 4 kisses, 4 years.
Gracias a mi padre por estar aqui| Thank you to my father for being here.
Mi padre| My father
Mi hermano| My brother
Mi esposo y nuestro hijo al nacer| My husband and our son at birth
Mi hijo y su papá| My son and his dad
Para todos los padres con cariño.
Las fotografias son del archivo personal de la autora.
La traducción ha sido con Deepl.com
It's been 17 years since my father died, but today it comes back to my mind, as so many times, I was the only one of 7 siblings with whom he lived 19 continuous years of life and although he would have wanted a more harmonic relationship, the generation gap between him and me made things a little more difficult. Nevertheless, I honor him, respect him and thank him for everything he sowed in me, what he taught me and what he gave me. One of the things I regret, that he is not still alive, is that he did not know my children, but my son who became the grandson so longed for by a daughter. I know that his energy is with me every day.
The other father that I embrace today from a distance, but this time in kilometers, is my older brother, who has been a support in my life and has the joy of being a father for 5 years and has known the greatest and purest love with his daughter. I remember the times that my daughter was supposed to behave excellently in the street when we went out and ha ha ha she was touched by a tremendous super boy ha ha. But how happy it makes me to see it come true.
And although I mention my father and brother, this post is actually to tell them how God allowed me to give the greatest gift of all to my life partner, the fact that I am finally a father.
My husband was in the military when he was young, and while he was in service he received a strong blow to his genital area, which affected his reproduction. For years, he underwent medical examinations in search of his longed-for offspring, resulting in 99% of his sperm being unable to fertilize.
For years he had a fruitless search, until the day he finally formed a well established home and for the sake of the saying God's time is perfect, for his great dream came through me. And one day suddenly we were expecting our child.
A son who came to fill his life, to teach him new shades and to put colors to his existence; a son who made him forget the mistreatment lived in his house, and a hard life in the streets; a son who gave him more reasons to go on.
Last night our son when I told him that today he should congratulate dad for his day, he told me that he had already given him the card he made, and that he would then give him 4 kisses. I asked, what was the reason for the 4 kisses? and he in his spontaneity and excellent analysis, gave me a fascinating answer: Mom it's 4 kisses because I'm 4 years old...
It was funny and impressive but it is the truth, it is 4 years in which my husband has had the joy of being a father, of knowing that what we do influences someone else; years in which he has learned to communicate, to have patience and tolerance but above all to display and manifest all his love.
To you father, today I remind you of your great role in the upbringing, it is not only to do it and let the mother take care of it because you provide financially, since your offspring expects more than that love, company, support, a special playmate.
Sometimes you don't need thousands of toys and you don't have anyone to enjoy them with, our son taught us that it is more important to have quality time with him.
I was once a single mother, and I thought like many that the donor is not needed, that I was wrong, because we will not be needed supposedly, but your children need your presence. So let's appreciate that Dad is important, biologically, psychologically and socially.
For all loving parents.
Nos vemos pronto| See you soon.