QOTW: WHY DO WE FALL IN LOVE?

It has been a quiet long that I never had my answer in some of the @ecotrain questions lately. I was so much busy and my mind was empty. But, yesterday when I checked the question, I felt it has an easy answer to share with you.

Why do we fall in love with certain people and why it is so hard to get over someone?

My hand with her hand today.

I had been working here for 22 years. Some people said it's too many sacrifices but I never mind what people saying unless I'm doing it for my family. Why I'm doing these? Because it's all about love.

Love is many splendor things according to the lyrics of the song. Love is a special emotion that makes us happy but eventually makes us cry.

The love that I have right now is the love for someone that is not easy to get over. It keeps on haunting me every day and every night.

To begin the story, I would like to tell you that love is the reason why I stayed here for a long time. I love my son who is living in my country and I love my fake daughter that I have here beside me.

Why leaving my son?

A long time ago, it was 1997 that I got a big financial problem. I was then 27 years old and forced to work abroad to solved those matters in our life. Because of love, I left my son to give him a better future and solving that dilemma along our way. I succeed in giving education to my siblings and my son.

My son and I last 2017 here in Saudi Arabia.

No matter how hard to be away from home but I stayed stronger because I love them all.

Why I'm still here in a foreign land?

When my lady boss gave birth to her youngest child, she gave me all my responsibilities to the little girl. She was a teacher and gave birth through cesarean. I was doing all for the baby. I also loved the responsibility given to me. How I wished to have a baby girl and I missed my son. The emptiness in my heart longing for my son was filled when I was taking care of the new baby of my employer. I did love the little girl and did my best to care for her.

One day, my lady boss got sicked and diagnosed with stage 4 breast cancer. The more she got no time for her youngest daughter. They stayed in the biggest hospital in the far main city and all their 7 children were staying with me. It was 2008 when the family was shocked about the health issue of my lady employer. She underwent surgery and removed her right breast. They are so good to me and I give them back my 200% satisfying services to all of them.

Before the couple's departure, Madam talked and hugged me. She asked a favor not to leave their children until they all get married. She was talking more about the welfare of her one-year-old girl at that time. She thought that she would die with cancer she had. I just gave her hopes and promised that I would stay here and take good care of her family as my own family.

Time passed by, it was a normal situation that they travel across the country for her radiation. They stay there for three months and sometimes six months until it reduced to monthly, then weekly, until my lady boss now a breast cancer survivor.

How to get over my love to the youngest daughter?

My fake daughter and I today, sharing laughter while watching TikTok.

This is now my biggest problem with how to leave this family. I'm having a good relationship with them for 22 years. They treated me like a member of the family. The youngest daughter called me "Nanay" a Filipino word calling a mother. I never taught her to say that but she had her own researched on the internet on what she supposed to call me and she found it and I amazed at how she loves me. She told me, she loved her mother as she was the one who gave her life but she loves me more because I am the one who stays with her since birth until she grows bigger now. We sleep together. I made her food and prepare everything for school. I dress her up and give her a bath. She is so spoiled with my care. I love this girl like my own baby. I stayed with my son for 7 years then I left him to my sister. I just visited him every two years. Yes, of course, I love my son so much and there is no one above on that feeling. But I also love my fake daughter.

As a gift, my boss gave my son a tourist visa then visited me here in Saudi Arabia last 2017. My boss wanted to let my son stay with me but he got married last 2015 before the approval of his visa. The situation hindered his staying with me since he had his own family back home. After 11 months of staying with me here, he came home for his own family. I was so sad but his two children and wife need him too.

Our plan was to stay here, that's the reason why my boss gave him a visa. The time I processed his visa, his girlfriend got pregnant. I was a little bit disappointed. The plan was not realized. There's no regret, I have now two granddaughters adding happiness to my life. Accepting is the best remedy than weighing the disappointment. It will just add more injury if we could not accept what would be the happenings in our life.

What should I do to get over about the love that I have to the youngest daughter of my boss?

Until now, I have no exact decision. I'm 50 years old. My son and my grandchildren need me too. They also need my financial assistance most especially during this covid19 pandemic. I'm sending back my salary. I considered everything a blessing in disguise as well. Living in our country this time is not easy without job ang money especially in the urban place where son lives. He has his job but the salary is not enough.

The youngest daughter of my boss cried when I joke to her that I will be going home for good. I felt terrible pain too.

Anyway, going back to my native land at this time costs a lot of money so I prefer to stay. I don't know yet what tomorrow will bring to me. The only thing I really know that it's hard to say goodbye to my fake daughter.

For my son, I give them all that they need. Is this a good excuse for my situation? I'm really so confused. Is this right?

It's really hard to get over the love to someone. In my case, it is not about a boyfriend since I am a widow for 16 years ago. My situation is different, it is all about the love of my real son and the daughter of my youngest employer.

I need your good idea

Thank you so much @ecotrain for the great question. I am able to open up what is hidden in my heart. I believe that there are many genuine people in this community who could spare time and help me get out of my trouble mind regarding my situation. I'm also hoping that the @naturalmedicine community could give me some good deeds. I need your natural way so I could have my inner peace of mind and sanity. My God, I could be insane if I see my fake daughter sick like before when I went home. It's unfair to my son but my son accepted it all since I gave all that they need.

I answered your question with my own question but I believe that God will help me through. There will be a good answer to ally quest that only God knows it. The best thing I should keep in touch with my son's family while staying here. I should balance the love between them. Above all, I will entrust this to God above. In the end, I could fix it all fairly.

Again, thank you and God bless everyone! Stay safe!

It's me,

@olivia08