Should we have children whilst so many kids in the world are suffering? (ecoTrain QOTW 6#8)
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My aunt was and is still a nurse and while I was younger, I was opportuned to see her deliver so many women of their babies, I mean the happiness, the joy, the radiance of finally holding those little miracles, with them gurgling with life, the way they wrapped their arms around you, tingling your body as the stare innocently with the the most memorable giggles ever.
This is why I believe children, babies, kids, toddlers or in any stage they are are a blessing. Truth is, the world is in where it choses to be not because people are choosing to have children and it'll continue being what it is even if people decide not to have children. I believe sometimes the failure to plan or stand by our choices are why people end up making mistakes.
The choice to be pregnant might be a mistake but having a child shouldn't be a mistake. One of the reasons why people regret having children after they've had them is because they didn't really plan. Now I want to look at this from so many different angles. First of all, the argument not have children in the first place is because a lot of people have deemed the world to be unfit to raise children.
The poverty, insecurities, the famine, the war in many countries leaving children and families displaced, the issue of dead beat parenting and having children suffer maybe psychologically, mentally or health-wise as a result of decisions made by people who were their parent. So many children are left in orphans, moving from place to place because of the iressponsibility of their parents.
But then, we wouldn't really say these factors are uncertain, they're not variables beyond human control, the only way I think people shouldn't think of having children is if the world is threatened by extinction, we might as well ask people not not get married, ask them not to enjoy the essence or bliss that comes with having offspring, the fulfilment and gladness it brings. I don't even want to talk about other variable, truth is if this mentioned that people should reduce the number of children they'll have then this is totally understandable.
In reality having children or choosing to have one or some is accepting the responsibilities that comes with it. Sometimes things like stability and purpose should be responsible for the choices that people make and this should be the determinant to having children or not.
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Let's look at another angle, whether people have children or not, death will always be a certainty. If we take a look at populated countries or take a look at war ravaged countries, children are still being born and we cannot really because of these factors say humans should stop the natural process of procreating, if people who argue that children shouldn't be born because they world is too wicked, have we ever looked at a possible scenario where the world is underpopulated as a result of people's choices to never have children.
A lot of people will get old, get sick, need attention and care and will they be reliant on total strangers to take care of them? Having children goes way beyond looking at the world at being too wicked. The purposes of having children are way too entwined to be limited to some certain narrative.
I don't know how it is all over the world but then in the society where I come from, having children is of the essence and this is because of the familial values, the bond and the joy have a relationship with a person you cherish, love and seeing the results of such a consummated union. If many kids in the world are suffering, it begs for people to show empathy, a sense of responsibility and a Sense of loyalty.
More people should dedicate their time to making the world habitable for children to live in. The mayhem in the world currently is unimaginable this is also as a result of human actions, sometimes we have to take a look at children who are already suffering in the world as a result of irresponsibility and show them love, care and attention. In most part of my country, many people treat other children with disdain because they didn't birth them, we neglect and ignore a lot of suffering.
Sometimes our responsibility should expand beyond our comfort zone, many unprepared parents have made terrible mistakes in parenting. Sometimes a lot of us live in trauma of suffering from a toxic upbringing and this is what makes it essentially important for us to do better, we can reduce the number of children but not completely stop having children because of a lot of human variables which I think we can control because that is totally preposterous.
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The bundle of Joy is unspeakable seeing the result of a consummated union, even neighbors look forward to sharing in couples joy and happiness.
I personally do not support not having children, but this can be balanced up.
While you have and take care your own kids, you can also reach out to the underprivileged kids, help bring other suffering children up, that way your joy will be complete.
Rich or poor, children will always grow up to affect each others lives, they will get mingled at some point and will definitely need each others assistant.
You're right, everyone who is capable should extend their hands to children who are underprivileged around bthr world. Thanks for dropping by.
I like how you funneled this post from a general perspective to your own perspective. I like the fact that you also talked about the demographics and how they will influence the future.
I think we still need children but parents should know they can be responsible for their children and give them the best of life.
I sincerely like the way you think. Its really wowing
Thank you brother man, in all sincerity I think the main argument to not having children is because not a lot of people want to responsible for their actions and people are not being empathic or looking outside their families to also take care of children who are bereft of families.
I guess our generation will opt for a small family size.
It's very painful to see children suffering especially when they are born into a family that can't completely fend for them and in such cases, you may feel like punishing the parents for bringing a kid into the world.
But then, taking a good look at all these we have to admit that in as much as it may be a mistake to get pregnant, whenever a woman sucessfully gives birth, that shouldn't count as a sin or a mistake but it should be seen as a blessing. You and l know that some people that live in a very peaceful environment and I also capable of taking care of a dozen of kids I still searching for one.
The variables that makes people to conceive thought of not having kids are a lot but all of them are controllable so why not? We can start by having the number of kids that we can give the best.
Well Done Bro ✌️
This is what I consider to be the best take, these variables are controllable, so I don't think anyone should think of not having unless maybe its become a personal decision and not because the world is chaotic. Nevertheless, our decisions is our own and we can change whatever narrative. Children are a blessing, planning for them puts one in a good position.
Nice said bro. Judging from the way things has turned out now we won't say we will not give birth but we are just to apply sense with giving birth cus when you give birth to what you can't cater for you will end up regretting you did that
Exactly, applying sense will go a long way. We as Nigerians, we love children and sure love having them, this just goes to show that we only need to exhibit responsibility in every of our decisions.
Yeah not just doing things with making the right decision
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So many kids in the world suffer today and that's through our actions and what we set down. Not having kids right now does not really solve the case of the number of children suffering but having a great plan in caring for those suffering would do the job.
Family planning should be put in place as well. I noticed in Nigeria, many poor people give birth to more children than the rich men. The poor people can have like about 6 children while the rich would prefer to have only 3 or 2. This is because they know what it takes to care for the children they have and do not want them to suffer.
Great article brother. I would think towards what I can write for this post.
In reality, you're right, I see your angle, most rich people would prefer to have just two to three while people who aren't decides to have too much that they cant take care of, its totally pathetic if you ask me. Making plans for having children should be a big deal really, although not many see it as one. But it's a big deal. Thanks so much for dropping by and sorry for the late reply
So many kids in the world suffer today and that's through our actions and what we set down. Not having kids right now does not really solve the case of the number of children suffering but having a great plan in caring for those suffering would do the job.
Family planning should be put in place as well. I noticed in Nigeria, many poor people give birth to more children than the rich men. The poor people can have like about 6 children while the rich would prefer to have only 3 or 2. This is because they know what it takes to care for the children they have and do not want them to suffer.
Great article brother. I would think towards what I can write for this post.
Very well thought out and written, friend. I must say that, although I have a philosophy of life that understands that the world no longer holds people and that the tendency is to go towards chaos, over the years I have lost such a fatalistic view and on top of that I ended up accepting a very sincere wish to be a father,
which in the end is human nature itself and its quest for the preservation of the genes, of the species. But, in my case, with a constant and deep awareness that this is not only a complex attitude but also a risky one in this state of the world in which we live. But believe me,
I have an optimism mixed with my existentialism that makes me want to do my best to educate my daughter in social, economic and political terms, precisely to prevent her from being one more problem in the world, but rather that she can be part of the generation that will have the opportunity to change the game.
We (my generation of 30 years now) were unfortunately part of the chaotic group of destruction and aggravation, but we are living in a new reality in terms of world and social consciousness, which we will only see in many years and I do expect that these little humans can do something better. But regardless of that, yes,
adoption should be something easy to access and deep acceptance, I myself have a great desire to one day maybe adopt a child.
Thank you for your detailed comments I do believe that at this point in time what would mostly solve some of the world's problem is the ability to accept and enjoy responsibility for someone else.
As you have done for your daughter I do believe that not a lot of others might want to do so as well.
I grew up in the family where I could have turned out rather badly because of my parents.
I would always choose the choice of having a child because I understand everything it involves and entails, it all boils down to responsibility, empathy, kindness and a sense of love. Everyone is rather wired different but then I understand the state of the world we live in, its precarious and sometimes we tend to forget that we can chose to decorate ourselves rather differently from the pulcridity of live. It depends and begins with us.