PTSD and nightmares | Mental Health Awareness

in Natural Medicinelast month (edited)

Mental health Awareness_ PTSD  The nightmares 1.png

PTSD is something that happens to you and is nothing to be ashamed of!

I used to think that post-traumatic stress disorder was something for veterans only. Yeah, I admit, I used to be pretty uninformed until I was told that I definitely had traumas myself. Looking back at the time that this was first brought up by my boyfriend, I can totally see what I mess I used to be. My behavior towards him because of my own scarves was unacceptable. I always used to think that I was just a girl who spoke her mind and didn't accept any bullshit. Honestly, this girl disappeared long ago after the first chapter of having a toxic partner happened. I was in a constant battle for many years.

I was so jealous and angry

I flipped out for no reason, just by even thinking my partner would think of cheating on me, simply because the first idiot in my life had done so and left scars on my soul. The fact that this partner would never do that, never even occurred to me as in my mind all men were cheating assholes (sorry, that's how it felt at the time!). I had been hurt by the first toxic partner so badly, that I could never really trust men for many years. The few times I did in the years to come, I was played by even worse men that saw right through my mask and had a great ability to target me for their own reasons.

One of them used me for his personal pleasure

While I felt that we had the deepest connection and this was the right one for me (yeah, I was young still and under his spell), he only used me for his personal games in so many ways, but mostly for his pleasure. The worst thing about it may have been that he indoctrinated me so well, that I thought I loved being that person and that it took me years to shake off that coat I had put on during that relationship. He played a dangerous game with me, and I had no idea that this could have ended much worse than it did.

The next one saw an even more damaged person and took advantage of that as well

I won't go into detail about what he did exactly, but take it from me when I say that he was an even worse predator than the first person. This one was the biggest psycho out there and of course I was so stupid to open up to him soon after we met, telling him about my ex. That was such a stupid mistake to trust him as this was all the confirmation he needed to know that I was an easy target that had enough scarves on her soul already to break me into even tinier pieces.

After this toxic relationship ended, I slowly started to see through my own mask

I found a new partner that didn't have bad intentions for me but was truly crazy about me for who I really was. Too bad for him that he had to break down so many walls to let me realize that I was sabotaging the relationship because of my previous ones. I was a jealous partner and went nuts when he only spoke to a girl that looked great imo. This had nothing to do with him being unfaithful as he's the most loyal person in the world, but it was only caused by my own insecurities and damaged soul in the past. I had been building walls and a mask around the hurt girl, playing a strong person that could handle anything and didn't need a man. While in reality, I needed a partner that supported me more than ever!

It was during another fight that he mentioned my traumas

I never, ever, realized that I was not only hurt by what had been done to me in the other relationships but that these things had changed me so much that I totally lost my true self. I tried to act confident in the world, but in reality, I was hurt and afraid to be left alone in this world. I never really had a partner that supported me in everything, I always was led in the way they wanted me to be, and pushed back when I stood up for what I wanted. This had totally changed when meeting my current partner as he has ALWAYS been by my side and supported me as many other great partners wouldn't even be able to do. I see that he's been the best thing that could happen to me now, and I salute him for putting up with me while I was in a constant battle with myself and him to work through the traumas.

short temper.png

While my mask fell off, I started to change

The nightmares started coming, and felt that they were on repeat. I know now that I was trying to process things from the past, but I didn't know it at the time. It was a process I had to go through. My partner has always had trouble sleeping, and because of that he has seen me go through them night after night for a long time. He often tried to talk to me with a calm voice to change the state of mind, sometimes he woke me up leaving me in shock and instantly feeling ashamed as I didn't want to share what I just saw in my nightmares. I felt ashamed, really ashamed.

Then the flashbacks came as well

I was reliving things from the past with my exes that felt so real while I had the nightmares that sometimes I would wake up in sweat and fear not knowing where I was. Maybe the scariest thing about it was that often I suddenly had flashbacks of situations that I didn't remember until the moment that I had the flashbacks. The more times I relived those situations, the more I could remember. I have to tell you, that was scary knowing that my subconcious mind had kept this from me for all these years. Now I know that at the time, it was too hard to deal with, and stored somewhere deep in my memory rather than at the surface.

I felt the fear as if it was happening again and sometimes my heartbeat would be through the roof. Unfortunately, these flashbacks came at the weirdest moments and were triggered sometimes even by one single word alone. I've discovered quite a few triggers during the years, being aware of them helps a lot!

They kept coming for years

I had trouble sleeping without these horrible interuptions for several years in a row and I didn't get any nicer in the morning from it. I was a horrible morning person! Now I love to be productive in the mornings, it was all about not having a good sleep.. I noticed that the intensity of these nightmares have decreased a lot, and I haven't had these intense ones for quite a while now. So I guess, I processed some parts of what happened by reliving the moments and talking about it and writing about it. I often would write what I saw and felt and later I'd delete the document. Just writing it down was enough for that moment. I can't unknow the things that I now know anyway.

Don't feel ashamed <3

I do know that feeling ashamed is stupid, although I also know exactly how it feels to be ashamed about it. For some reason, even knowing that it was not my fault that these things happened, I still feel horribly stupid that I let it happen and that I fell into the traps with open eyes, making me feel ashamed to share the details. If you are experiencing shame about traumatizing events that have happened to you, please know that you don't have to be ashamed and talk to someone you trust, or start by writing it down for yourself. Over time, you will notice that you are processing it and things get easier to deal with.

Take care! <3

This post was written after @naturalmedicine has asked the hive community to write about mental health issues to raise awareness for the topic during October, see post Here


This is a clear example that we must first evaluate ourselves before we can evaluate others. Many of us have made those mistakes, we feel like victims of something that does not exist, we distrust people because there were those who betrayed us. But that's totally normal. You don't have to feel guilty, you just have to accept responsibility and you did very well, even if it cost you a lot.

It is sad to read these stories where women have been deceived in such ways, so men are frowned upon in today's society as the bad guy. But the reality is that we are like that.

I'll confess something, I lived those things too, with my exes. And it was very hard for me to open up to a woman again, I was very afraid of falling back into the trap, I was afraid of falling in love again and being hurt, as it was in the past. But the difference is that I knew that not all women are bad and that there are many who are truly loyal. And that thought helped me find a wonderful woman who I love with all my strength and who has been the best companion I have ever had in my life. There are still good people in the world, just sometimes we focus on the problems and not on the solutions.

Thank you very much for sharing your story and opening up to us, it is very admirable. I send you all the energy in the world and many blessings. And long live love!

Curated for #naturalmedicine by @pavanjr.

We encourage content about health & wellness - body, mind, soul and earth. We are an inclusive community with two basic rules: Proof of Heart (kindness prevails) & Proof of Brain (original content). Read more here.

Our website also rewards with its own Lotus token & we'd love you to join our community in Discord. Delegate to @naturalmedicine & be supported with upvotes, reblog, tips, writing inspiration challenges for a chance to win HIVE and more. Click here to join the #naturalmedicine curation trail!

We also encourage you to follow our sister accounts, @lotusshares and @uplotus for announcements and rebogs.

Did you know it's World Mental Health Month? Or that you can earn a badge from @hivebuzz for posting about #mentalhealthawareness? Read more details here!


Thank you for your engagement on this post, you have recieved ENGAGE tokens.

Thanks for the long comment! Appreciate it!

You don't have to feel guilty, you just have to accept responsibility and you did very well, even if it cost you a lot.

It took me quite a bit of time though, and the struggle (mainly with myself haha) was real. But it's all a learning process, I fell into the trap twice but both experiences have learned me a lot in the end, even if it cost me a lot, true.. I was able to grow a lot mentally and learned a lot about people in general as well.

But the difference is that I knew that not all women are bad and that there are many who are truly loyal.

Exactly, and this also shows (we often seem to forget) that these stories aren't always men but often women as well. I'm happy for you that you also found a loyal partner and could grow past the distrust of women after those experiences.

Thank you very much for sharing your story and opening up to us, it is very admirable. I send you all the energy in the world and many blessings. And long live love!

Like-wise! :)


So happy you are on the path of recovery from your trauma and that you have found a loving and supportive partner!
Here's to a happy, healthy life!

Cheers to that! <3

Thanks so much for opening up - you'll find a badge on your Hive BUZZ profile soon! Have you ever read 'the Body Keeps the Score' - it totally explains to me why you would have had this trauma. Very common, and your brain would have been wired a particular way because of it. I'm glad you found someone to help you out and that your own willingness to break the cycle and do something helped you live life the way you should have all along. What a great story and so brave of you to share!

the Body Keeps the Score

I think I heard about the title and maybe read some things about it, but not 100% sure. It does make sense though. Thanks for the badge <3

Congratulations @thisismylife! You received a personal badge!

Mental Health

You can view your badges on your board and compare yourself to others in the Ranking

Do not miss the last post from @hivebuzz:

Hivebuzz support the Papillon Foundation Charity project

I hope one day all of the churches are forced to hide their religious symbols from the public, I am not a man of faith and I get PTSD every time I see a place of worship knowing what egregious human rights violations have taken place in such short time periods with such intense violence on anyone who did not agree with them.