LOL! - LACK of LIFE!
“It is no measure of health to be well adjusted to a profoundly sick society.” ― J. Krishnamurti
Why is it that so many people these days LACK within themselves? They lack self-esteem, confidence, love for themselves and others, appreciation for the beauty which is their life, belief in their talents and abilities, their beauty inside and out… everywhere you look there is a scarcity of these things - and mark my words – the ones who parade themselves proudly in front of the camera on a regular basis are the individuals who probably lack the most and spend their entire lives hiding that enormous personal void from all the eyes which they have glaring into their lives every second of every day – they are creating and re-creating their own worst nightmare! Cycles repeat.
And for the record, I do not exclude myself from the above statement of lack - but as time moves forward, my awareness of it all is growing at a relatively rapid rate, as is my desire to change it – at least for my son, myself and those I love. Nobody should have to spend their lives and time walking around feeling empty or void as a human being, because the problem with that – is it breeds more of the same - a vicious circle, one which has grown an almost unstoppable level of momentum in our society today.
Every step of the way we are judged – if not by others, then by ourselves and for reasons which often we don’t even truly understand. What is acceptable today is no longer tomorrow, friends we have today are gone tomorrow because the grass is always greener on the other side… trends, media, pressure, obligation, money and all the Joneses. Does it ever end? The simple answer – NO, unless you consciously opt out!
“You never change things by fighting the existing reality.
To change something, build a new model that makes the existing model obsolete.” ― Buckminster Fuller
I opt out! I really do. That is my choice. Something I think many people have long since forgotten they actually have – “choice”. I spent a good portion of my life not believing in myself and although I have achieved a relative amount, in my heart – I feel I fell massively short of the “who, what and where” I had the potential of reaching. A brief discussion in my discord server earlier made me reflect upon just that, as I briefly shared the details of my day which involved my sons first three end of term exams and the results of such. He cracked A’s on every single test done today. I don’t think I ever cracked an A in my life!
When left to his own devices however, he is easily distracted – will end up playing with cars which happen to be lying on the table, building some random creature out of prestik or coming to tell me about a pain he is experiencing on the tip of his thumb. I now sit next to him as he writes his tests to prevent all of that. The last time I left him alone he walked out of the test with 58% for mathematics which is his strongest subject. I sat with him, not doing ANYTHING other than reminding him to focus, take it slow – reassurance and he walked out with 93%.
The mark – great, but all I see… is that my son does not have the confidence or self-belief to do that on his own. Distraction is about as good as “ignorance is bliss”. It makes me think about myself too – all people in fact, and the enormous power of…. You know, that little – NOT so little thing which is essentially the foundation (or should be) of ALL our lives… called LOVE!!!!! That is what this world lacks in every facet and form - Love, compassion, empathy and understanding.
I am nowhere near the point I would like to be in terms of rectifying that (with regards to my son), but I am at least aware of it. There are so many parents and people out there who are completely oblivious to what is unfolding right underneath their noses. It is sad, truly sad.
I do not want to waste my life away consumed by things which do not matter. I don’t want to seek validation in places which will actually never give it – I do not want people in my life who “pretend” to be friends but talk shit and lies about me the second I walk away. I am not interested in sporting name brands, looking perfect every single day for the strangers around me which will never care – I have no desire to have the fanciest house on the grandest hill, nor do I care to endlessly kiss ass to those who pay in temporary financial return whilst continuously dangling that carrot.
Life is about SO MUCH MORE! I want to embrace it and enjoy it. I want to bring LOVE into my life, feel it – hold it… impart it onto my son and those around me so that they too feel the things we are all supposed to feel! I want to grow the part of me I think I was meant to. I want to cultivate that in my son too, so that he can grow up with more than I had internally as a youngster.
The world by default, makes us shallow, empties us of who we really are – we have to make an effort to counter that if we want to change anything at all. We need to dig deeper! We need to push ourselves beyond the flippancy and self absorbed disregard for what is going on around us and within us. Pay attention to the details. Life is not all acronyms and emojis! Step outside, smell the fresh air. Stop for a second, absorb it all - remember who you are, what you stand for and where YOU want to go!
Few people are capable of expressing with equanimity opinions which differ from the prejudices of their social enviroment. Most people are incapable of forming such opinions." ― Albert Einstein
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Much Love from Cape Town, South Africa xxx
Jaynielea
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Awsome post I myself lack confidence ect I think we are never happy always want to be better and it causes a sense of restlessness within our soul life becomes easier when we accept who we are and love and enjoy life to the fullest 💜❤
Firstly, thank you for the compliment - it means a lot.
IT DOES! There is a LOT to be said for letting "go" of the things which belittle and break us down.
Confidence is one of the critical elements to success. As a content creator every day you are bombarded with negative remarks. The confidence in myself allows me to shrug this off but still being aware of staying well grounded. Confidence in yourself but then surrounding yourself with loved ones, support and those that believe in you are huge positive life changing effects. Keep strong and keep building confidence in yourself and others around you.
Well said!!!! Yea, being transparent can often bring negative comeback - good that you are able to bounce it off. Thank you for your insight and taking the time to pop by and read :)
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