Come Alive.

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Don’t ask yourself what the world needs, ask yourself what makes you come alive. And then go and do that. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive. – Howard Washington Thurman

Funny how winter weather seems to make a person somewhat introspective - well, that is the case for me anyway… and I certainly have had a lot on my mind lately – no shortage of things to contemplate… one part of that, being that I constantly seem to have to remind myself that it is ok to put myself first for a change. It is funny how so many of us are emotionally and socially conditioned to do the exact opposite – we put ourselves in positions and scenarios and often end up feeling cornered, trapped or obligated to remain there because we are scared of causing pain, hurt, inconvenience or whatever else for the other person or party. The problem with that though is that we are doing precisely that to ourselves by making that choice – a high price to pay really, sacrificing your own truth for the sake of someone else.

“Respect, Love, and Value yourself. Always remember to be good to yourself by taking care of yourself. Make yourself a priority and know that it’s okay. Don’t feel guilty for loving yourself, first! You’re just as important as anybody else.” ― Stephanie Lahart

Making yourself a priority is not something that should have guilt attached to it. It is not an act of selfishness, it is quite the opposite really… a necessity, something that should come more naturally to all of us, because the truth of the matter is that the beauty and magic of life lies in the selfless giving of yourself to others and you can never fully do that if you don’t pour from a full cup. It is a simple equation really, not unlike most other things in life. You sleep to replenish, you exercise to stay fit and healthy, you eat to fuel your body and mind and so you need to practice self-love in order to remain emotionally and mentally enriched and therefore able to give of yourself – in the right directions, obviously.

“What do you see when you look in the mirror? I hope it goes beyond beauty. I hope what you see is that person who's worth it and deserves nothing less than the best, I hope that you see beyond the pain, I hope that you see the glory ahead of you, I hope that you see the strong woman who doesn't break to fail, but breaks to stand the tallest and I hope that you'll always remember that you need to love the person in the mirror first to make a change” ― Temitayo Olami

This is not something which happens overnight, it is a daily practice… it needs to become a lifestyle really because I think many of us are often quite easily swayed back into the act of doing things for others before ourselves because we unconsciously place ourselves second without even realising that we are doing it. No person should ever feel like they cannot change course, change their mind or decide that they wish to explore a different direction.

Life is too short to reach the end of it and realise that you spent it all negating your own value and importance by making choices with someone else in mind rather than yourself. This is why things fail, people feel depleted, get depressed, angry or even bitter towards life and people because they feel short changed, when all they need to realise is that they are the ones short changing themselves and they are the only ones who can actually change that. There is always a choice and it is perfectly acceptable to put your own truth and happiness first. Your life will be just that – your life and your road to walk, make sure you are enjoying the steps you take.

“You are essentially who you create yourself to be and all that occurs in your life is the result of your own making.” ― Stephen Richards

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Until next time...
Much Love from Cape Town, South Africa xxx
Jaynielea

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Making yourself a priority is not something that should have guilt attached to it. It is not an act of selfishness, it is quite the opposite really

It usually feels like selfishness when you let people get to you. I love this coz I can relate to it.

Self-love is still the greatest.

I read from the 12 rules of life by Jordan Peterson that it's pretty easy to remember to take care of your dog than to take care of ourselves. We worry about others health while neglecting ours coz we want to seem selfless.

It's an important realization to know that you also need the care.

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It’s a good thought of start.

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Your words hit the bullseye. If you don't take care of yourself and are constantly being nice to make others life good, you will eventually feel short-changed, or cheated or never achieve the happiness your deserve.

You are so busy making the perfect life/situation for everyone, you may have forgetten about your own self.

I know it is not as simple as that, but, leave no person behind, especially yourself. It isn't as hard as you think. XO

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Giving priority to to myself is not selfish and you have mentioned is obviously true. if we just focus on ourselves then everything will be OK. we create problems where is it think about we want our boundaries. we need to only focus on ourselves so that we can fulfill our Desire what we just wanted to do from inner part of your heart. if it is green signal then it is ok and in that over the oven attitude and structure of the world can be changed because everyone will be happy on their end.
Lets be alive.

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your life and your road to walk

Something most miss, we are our own decision makers. Coercive control by partners eventually is problematic, something to be aware of throughout life.

Another thought provoking content @jaynie
!LUV

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What a lovely post! I think that putting yourself first is vital and indeed no one should make you feel guilty about that. Self sacrifice for pleasing others leads to your own demise. So self care should be taught in school as too many do not know how to take care of themselves before taking care of others

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