Have you ever had an experience that changed your life forever?
Have you ever had an experience that changed your life forever?
On 29 September 2019 my father was admitted to the ICU with Pneumonia. Now, after so many months, he is still in ICU but he is finally on the mend. It was truly a very frightening experience as we thought that he was not going to make it. He is only 73 years old and we were not ready to let him go.
The antibiotics they started him on did not work, and he was allergic to the one specific antibiotics that could ultimately safe his life.
He went through six different courses of antibiotics and nothing helped. The physio-therapist came every morning and did her thing every single day for the last eighty odd days.
My father became depressed and ultimately we all became depressed because he was in such a pathetic state. He was weak and tired and was put on a ventilator. If you have not had a loved one in ICU and you don't know what to expect then this is a bad experience.
We had bad days and we had good days. Nothing specific, but it was touch and go. One day was a good day and then the next day the little hope we had vanished again. He was weaned off the ventilator 5 times, and then something happened, and he was put back on the ventilator again.
Trying to hold a family together in such a trying time is not the easiest thing to do. Everyone was constantly stressed out and our lives were literally put on hold because we did not know what to expect next.
We had to have a lot of patience because once he was put back on the ventilator we had to start the weaning process from scratch. It came to a point where the doctor said that we had to say our goodbyes, because he didn't see my father coming out of hospital.
There are plenty of other things that happened after that and before that but I want to erase all that from my mind.
Last week Sunday they weaned him off the ventilator for the last time. He has been breathing on his own now for seven days and he is finally getting back to his old self. This experience has taught me a lot of things.
1. Respect your parents even if they make you angry as hell. Force them to go to the doctor early enough so you won't have to go through this ordeal.
2. Spend as much time as possible with your loved ones while they are still alive. Live changes in a matter of seconds. Don't waste time.
3. Money is not important. Hope and life is so much more important and if you can stay alive with what you have, it doesn't matter what worldly possessions you own.... life is all you want.
4. Live a little. Forget about all your issues for a few hours a day and spend as much time with your family because you are not guaranteed another day. Live everyday as if it is your last. This makes me think of this cartoon where Snoopy and peanut talks to each other above.
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Yes it happened to me! I have changed my life many times, but even in June I had an experience that led me to re-evaluate many things! First of all, a person I loved very much stabbed me in the back and behaved badly with me who was not well, this aggravated my health situation and in June I was rushed to hospital. The pain of betrayal had destroyed me and rotted inside me! After being admitted I was operated on and after a month and a half I'm starting to live totally differently than before! The betrayal of a deep friendship, the hospitalization, the hospital, the surgery made me reborn after a 10 month long journey ... sometimes negative experiences give you a new life and I thank those who wanted me to be still alive ! Have a great day!
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I am so glad that everything worked out for you after all the negativity. Just look ahead and never ever look back!
Your story, honey was one of the best effective ones in all of my life. You are right time is more important than money and intimacy and get on well with parents and family is more important than anger.
Very true. We don't take anything with us the day that we die. Live life to the fullest.
Great sharing. I do have a lot of conflict in my family and in law too. I'm the one stuck in the middle. I do hope that we don't have to go through your kind of situation before we found our bond.
In the end we can't choose our family we just have to accept them for who they are and what they do. All the best to you!
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So sorry that you have been having such a hard time hon! But I love how you still managed to look at things from a healthy perspective!
I have to, otherwise I would just in the corner and cry. We are only two kids and both my parents are only children so I don't have other family. It really was a hard three months, and it's funny when you go through something like this then you just do what you have to, to get through it.
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On feb 23, 1974 I was 18 yrs old.
My parents and I had just left church, a rare occasion where
I had been allowed/asked to drive.
I pulled out of the parking spot, went the correct direction
(it was a VERY small rural community in S Ga.) uphill for
about 30 yds, left about 40 ysa, left again to the caution light
at the bottom of the hill.
IT was red coming and going:
of course I knew this; it was basically my hometown.
I looked to my right... nothing
I looked to the left;
a car was just passing, another a mile or more to my west
I pulled out
Milliseconds had passed, but another driver and his (Pregnant)
wife, young son and a baby had come barreling ass over the hill to
my right.
Daddy, who was looking to our right, said "Look out!" my reaction
Was to floor it. I remember my instinctual thought was
GET OUT OF THERE
so I floored it.
The oncoming car "Tee Boned" us from my right.
My Daddy, who was of course on the impact side (mama
riding "bitch" as it was called back then) took the brunt
Of the impact full on. Broke all of his ribs and pelvis.
He was hit so hard the whole seat was moved to the left; he broke mama's pelvis and 3 ribs.
My door popped open, I fell out and scraped my elbow.
In one fell swoop, my life eternally changed.
My Daddy died 3 wks, 3 days later, the whole time spent in
ICU, on a ventilator.
He kept trying to say something to us,
Mimicking writing on something (since he couldn't speak)
But when we gave him anything to write with, what he
Wrote was gibberish.
I'm the youngest of 10 (TEN) children.
I'm 64.
Figure out how long I've carried the guilt of my Father's
Death.
You can endure.
I am sorry that you had to carry this with you through your whole life. Life is so mysterious and I don't understand why anyone has to go through these bad experiences. Accidents happen that is why they are called accidents, but it is time for you to let go of the guilt at some point of your life. It wasn't your fault. xx