Mind Over Matter
No one knows what the day will bring but just knowing you are still alive after a night’s sleep is a blessing. The minute your feet hit the floor is a call to be thankful.
Maybe you are retired and the day is your own or are hurrying to get ready for your work. Young couples have to get children ready for daycare or school by making sure they have a breakfast and are dressed properly. It can be overwhelming but if two parents work together it will be much easier.
Having lost my only child, I now look fondly on these rushed times and wish the clock could slow down and I had a few more minutes back there ... but we never have enough time.
It’s not the proper order that children pass before the parent.
“How can I enjoy the day with this loss forever tattooed on my heart?”
After going through the grief and heartache...it takes time, I tell myself I must be thankful for the years I had with my son.
That was my gift. I know he would want me to still think of each day as a blessing and not lose myself in perpetual sorrow.
There is a reason I am still here to enjoy the day.
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Because of the many heartfelt comments , I edited this post to include the link to a small e-book I wrote about the premonitions leading up to my son’s passing and the photos of visitation at the gravesite can be found within.
http://www.lulu.com/shop/joanne-collicott-mcguigan/child-of-danaan-e-book/ebook/product-735201.html
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This hit me like a tonne of bricks. I had absolutely no idea, and I'm sure that's a loss that you feel every day. So proud of you for staying as positive as you are!
Thank you WW for your kind comments. Being a parent who lost a child is part of who I am now. It has changed me and I don’t like to bring it up but sometimes it just comes out.
I did ask for help from spiritual realms after Kevin passed as I wondered if he knew he was dead since it happened suddenly in a car accident on Christmas Day in 1998.
It may seem unbelievable but, 5 mos after his death, at his gravesite, a portal opened and he appeared briefly with a smile. This helped me so much and I thank the Tuatha De Danaan for making this possible.
A portal, an answer to a prayer (petition), a reassuring smile... this is phenomenal!
The pain is real and everlasting, but you've found consolations here and there, and you transform the pain into art and beauty. I cannot begin to convey how much I feel for you and admire you.
{{hugs!}}
Thanks Carol @carolkean for you kind And uplifting comments. They are greatly appreciated. 💕
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Oh my dear friend, a terrible loss indeed and grief is a thing that nobody can advise on, as we all share it so differently.
But know only this! Your son would have wanted you happy. He is in your heart forever and it's up to you to make him proud!
Blessings and we will pray for you!
Thanks you Sir Stephen for your prayers and blessings. 💕I know I’m not alone in this kind of loss and hope I can give others strength.
Way to go Lady Jo, as you help others it will also help you.
I find the same maxim at work in the things that we do.
Helping others is a great healer for the self.
Blessings!
True indeed Sir Stephen. Love and kindness is the key to a happy life and helping others is the healer.
True indeed and you have it my sister!
Blessings and prayers for you!
So much strength! It's not easy but you keep fighting day after day. Recognizing that it is hard for a mother or a father to lose a child to death is a step of accepting that there are illogical things like that of the child dying first, but we must go on and live with that. Only the Creator knows why some things happen that are so painful.
I am sorry for your loss and I bless your resignation.
Thanks @zeleiracordero for your inspiring and thoughtful comment. 💕
Hi Jo, loosing a child is the biggest tragedy for parents. Is the free write totally fiction or did this happen to you? And if it did I send all my love and light.
It’s my life Angie. Thanks for your love and light. 💗
Blessings🙏
Hi. Thanks for sharing your thoughts today. I completely understand. I feel it. One can only truly know if you've experienced it yourself. No matter how it happens or why, you never truly get over it. You do the best you can and take each day one at a time. So one hand extended to another, I feel you.
Sometimes a flash of something funny said or done will come to mind to bring a smile. Those are the memories held deep inside. They always seem to emerge when we need it.
Take care, and have as best of the coming days life holds for you.
This is from me to you.
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Thanks dear @justclickindiva for the 🤗. 💕 I feel you know this feeling of loss all too well. It’s difficult to talk about it as it does bring everything back as if time has stood still.
Thanks for your heartfelt comments. Much love and blessings! 🙏 ❤️
We lost him before he could full live life at the age of 36, have a family, with grandkids, and become senior citizens as we are. That's not in the normal progression of life. Thanks so much for your connection.
I'm so sorry to hear you, too, have lost a son, @justclickindiva.
As we age, I think of my dad's comment on growing old and wrinkled and gray: Well, ya don't want to bury babies. not in the normal progression of life is right.
Now I know what I should have written to the prompt "Facelift." Maybe it's not too late.
If it's not assorted medical conditions, it's profound loss that so many of us have in common. Writing is cathartic. It makes sense we who grieve try to transform the pain in fiction. Thank you for sharing this. You already know you're not alone. If i could start a Go Fund Me and could offer up so many days of my life to add to the life of a loved one like yours, we'd have a scary number of people, I'll bet, offering up days to add to the life of someone who left this world too soon.
Hi @carolkean. Thanks so much for your kind words. And your dad was right. My mom suffered the same also as I lost a brother at a young age. I witnessed it tear her apart. Now that I look back, I can see, she never fully recovered. No matter how her family tried to ease her pain. I didn't understand at the time. I never thought I'd experience it. We never do. And we never know if and when it may happen. That's the mystery of life.
You lost a brother AND a son??? That is so horrible. I can understand your mom never being the same again. I hope you've managed to move on more than she did. The pain never goes away. We just learn to live with it. I'm so sorry for all those losses!! They get magnified far beyond losing the person; those who left behind also risk losing themselves, in part, or in whole My friend lost her brother to brain cancer at age 11; 20 years later on the anniversary of that death, her father killed himself, leaving behind a wife, daughters, and an unborn grandchild (he knew this new life was coming). How much can we lose and still go on? Some of us endure, and others end it the way that father did. We cannot understand, and most of us never see it coming...
Thanks @carolkean. I wrote a blog about what I like about myself I posted a short time ago. It was my husband I credit that helped me through these past 48 years. I guess so many people depended on me, I didn't have time to break down. It just kept coming every few years. A person never knows their inner strength until tested. Some make it through; others can't find their way through.
Thanks so much for your engagement and support. Appreciate it. Take care.
This may explain some of the stoicism of my parents:
This is unbelievable @justclickindiva. I also lost a brother when I was 15 and he was 5 yrs. old. My mother handed her grief silently as was her custom but I know the pain my parents were in.
I named my son Kevin after my brother and never thought I would go through what my mother did.
Hi @redheadpei. You know there was millions of people who have gone and will go through what you and I experienced. That's why we all are one human beings. No difference. We all laugh, cry, hurt, feel sadness and suffer through difficulties and tragedies. Once a person sheds intolerance and indifference, different beliefs no matter what, we are all the same. If people would only realize this, the world would be a better place.
Thanks so much for your engagement. Continue to feel blessed, prayed upon, and loved. You deserve it. Take care.
I’m so sorry @justclickindiva for your loss. 🤗 💗 My son was also taken at the prime of life at 35. He never had any children.
I feel your pain and wonder if it was something you needed that prompted me to open up about my son today.
One thing that I firmly believe is we have only so much time on this earth and nothing we can do will change the moment when destiny calls. What I’m trying to say is there was really nothing either one of us could have done to change the outcome.
It had to be predestined as I I had premonitions beforehand but kept thinking it must be my father’s passing as he was in his eighties then. On top of that a close cousin phoned me about a month beforehand and said my deceased mother appeared to him and said,
“Find Joanne, she will need you soon.”
He had woken up suddenly and didn’t know if Mother’s appearance was a dream or an apparition. I said she must mean my father is going to pass soon and is preparing me. My mind would not accept it was Kevin.
I do know there is more than the physical body, their spirit lives on and they do not want us to grief too long as it holds them to the earth plane.
Sending you much love and strength across the miles. xoxo
The stories I could tell you about my premonitions. They even scared me when they came to pass. Yes, there is more than the physical life. I firmly believe this for myself.
Returning same to you now and going forward. Take care.
Premonitions and certainty that there is more to this life in a next life - scary as the premonitions must be, I'd love to have the certainty and the awareness but not everyone is allowed this gift (or curse, as some might see it). Have you published - ebooks, blogs outside Steemit? Not long ago people were burned as witches for gifts of healing and seeing... we still have a long way to go in conquering superstition, bias (among science and religion), and every-day judgments from people who think we're weird.
I'm an empath but not a seer, not a clairvoyant or telepath, and all things mystical remain behind that Veil so many can see through.
@katrina-ariel has a few books about this....
Thanks for letting me know. You are indeed a unique person in your abilities. I'll take a look at the books you suggest. No. I've not published anything.
My abilities don't strike me as unique - not like yours do!
#paranormal, magical, mystical - my earliest memories are of searching for fairies and evidence that dolls come to life when we're asleep - but somehow I missed whatever signs may have been there.
I loved books like "The Borrowers" and later, cartoons like Calvin and Hobbes. I cannot bear the idea that Hobbes doesn't really come to life for Calvin. Hobbes lives!!!!
I am sorry about your lost. It must be good to have at least some years you shared together.
I hope you enjoy your days. 💕
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Thanks @wakeupkitty. ❤️ I look back on those years and realize they were special.
I don't even want to imagine how that must be like - I wouldn't want that to happen to my kids - wish you a lot of strength :)
Thanks @seadbeady. 💕 It is a parent’s worst nightmare and is surprising how many parents have lost children.
I'm so sorry for your loss. It is a very big pain.
Every day they shared together was a great gift. Those pleasant memories remain in your heart forever.
God bless you.
Thanks for stopping by and your kind words and blessing. 💕
I admire your strength, and I hope that I could be as strong, @redheadpei.
Thanks @free-reign. I appreciate your kind comment. 💕
You lost your only child -your beloved son! - I cannot even imagine. At age 13 I lost my sister, but not until I became a mother decades later did I begin to comprehend how much harder for a parent to lose a child than for us to lose a sibling. Losing a child (no matter what the cause) is the worst torment.
“How can I enjoy the day with this loss forever tattooed on my heart?”
Thank you for sharing your insights. I applaud your determination to move on and fill your days with gorgeous photography and writing and pets, and for sharing that with us.
This is haunting, but inspiring too:
Thanks Carol @carolkean. You had your share of grief and the unknowing of why this happened to your sister.
Writing did give me something to concentrate on. After I had the visitation with Kevin at the gravesite, I wrote a small book called ‘Child Of Danaan’. I had posted the photos from the visitation in it and seeing them I know we survive the death of the body. I had hoped this would give others faith and some form of comfort. The book probably could use a good rewrite but it is what it is. I edited the post and added the link to the eBook. http://www.lulu.com/shop/joanne-collicott-mcguigan/child-of-danaan-e-book/ebook/product-735201.html
Wow, I'd love to share your conviction that we do survive death of the body.
New Age physics - Deepak Chopra, Robert Lanza - are convinced.
Off to check out your book - it sounds awesome!
I blogged about your books - and put out a call for other writers to make it easy for me and post links to their published books in the comment section of this post:
https://steemit.com/writing/@carolkean/writing-as-therapy-how-many-freewritehouse-members-have-published-books
And if you wish me to delete or revise anything, @redheadpei, just let me know!
I appreciate that Carol @carolkean. You are a gifted writer and do so much to help others get recognition. 💗 🌸 💕
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I can not imagine your pain. And admire your ability to experience joy again, to know he would want you to, that you do it FOR him. You exude beauty on steem. I am grateful for your presence here. Thank you for writing this.
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I'm here to deliver the Tuesday prompt so please write us another!
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Thanks @owasco for your kind words. 💗 I didn’t want to bring everyone down with my freewrite but somehow it just came out. I do love positive people and try to stay that way.
Thanks for delivering the prompt.
You didn't bring us down - you inspired us!
May the power of the little pieces of light which penetrate the darkness give you reason to go on --Sister Joyce Rupp, O.S.M.
A lovely quote @carolkean and so fitting.
How beautiful your heartfelt sentiment is.
‘A picture is worth a thousand words‘ hold true with your sweet drawing @barbara-orenya. 💕
There is a reason I am still here to enjoy the day.
Indeed there is, and now with Kevin gone, you are here to be his witness, and although the sorrow never truly leaves us, it does become more manageable with time. I am very sorry for your loss.
I went through two miscarriages, so although I cannot know the depth of your grief, I do understand at least some measure of it. And I have lost a number of other loved ones close to me since. And yes, I have been changed by it, in many ways for the better, even though I was already an empath.
There were lost family members on both sides of my family; my mother lost two little brothers within a day of each other at age twelve, and my father lost his mother when he was eight months old, severely marking each family with longstanding grief.
As you say, losing a child is not the natural order, and is one of the hardest things we can possibly go through. And some people never get past their grief.
But we are human and we persevere, as you have done, and wonderfully so. You have long been one of the most helpful and positive people on Steemit, for the two plus years I've been here, and I am thankful you are still here.
Speaking for myself, writing is one of the primary ways I managed to come through my own grief, though outside of my meditation group, it took me a while to want to share those writings. I ultimately did so on the chance that it might help someone going through something similar.
Thanks so much @crescendoofpeace for sharing and your kind words. ❤️ I’m sorry that you had to experience the miscarriages. I know it is difficult to open up about our grief but no one is exempt from it in one way or another. At some time in our lives, if we live long enough, we will lose many beloved people.
Writing actually helped me too. I wrote a book after Kevin’s passing called ‘Child of Danaan.’ It contains the photos of his appearance at the gravesite. I wrote it hoping to help others through their loss . Although it doesn’t ease the loss of the person’s presence in your life, it gave me proof the spirit lives on. I don’t like to advertise but is available as a eBook at http://www.lulu.com/shop/joanne-collicott-mcguigan/child-of-danaan-e-book/ebook/product-735201.html
Thanks, Jo.
Having grown up in a haunted house, I didn't really need proof of the spirit living on, but I've gotten it anyway, and it has always been a blessing when it has come. Unsettling at times, but in the end, always a blessing.
Beautiful & heart-wrenching writing @redheadpei.
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Your love and strength are an inspiration. Brightest blessings to you!
Thanks Katrina @katrina-ariel and for the blessings. 💕
My sweet friend I feel that sorrow and although I did not lose a child beyond a miscarriage of my first pregnancy, I have a best friend who buried her 21 year old son due to sudden onset brain cancer within 2 weeks of his diagnosis. I am still in awe of her strength and remember not having words to put in a sympathy card because she was facing the one loss I never want to face. Thank you for sharing your story. Blessings.
Thanks @wandrnrose for your blessings. 💕 I’m so sorry for your loss and my heartfelt sympathy in the sudden death of your friend’s son. It’s like a nightmare you hope to wake up from.
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Wow redheadpei, this is so sad but so full of truth and so moving! Well done.
Thanks Jon @janton! 💕
I know of grief but this kind of grief feels weighty than my own. I am so sorry that you are going through this... and with such profound positive vibes. You are strength itself. May your soul find peace ♡
Thanks @tezmel for your kind comment. We all have our crosses to carry, some are heavier than others. 💕
Thanks my dear @tezmel. I try. 💞
I am so sorry that you lost your child. I can't even imagine.
Thank you for sharing your ebook!
You are welcome and thanks for your condolences. 💕 🌺
I'm sorry for your loss. 😑😑
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Thanks @iamraincrystal. ♥️
They say time will heal any pain. I can't even imagine what it must feel to be in your shoes. But I can say that it takes courage, kindness, determination, strength and above all love, to wake up each day and continue your life. Your words inspire others in ways you may not ever know, as your experience reminds them of the important things in life, when they fall off the wagon. Thank you for such a wonderful post!