Problems I want to talk about urgently!!
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The situation that I have been living is critical for my mental health, maybe the person who is reading it can understand me or maybe not, equally for me it is important to share my point of view since it is the way to express myself and be able to release my stress. Now... What subject will I speak with such annoyance?
A few days ago I heard my neighbors' children make a lot of noise, they hit the walls and they started crying because they don't want to eat soup or vegetables... Am I really going to complain about this? YOU ARE RIGHT. The problem of the parents is that they are very convinced that their children are perfect when they are wrong, it is unheard that my state of patience is about to be overwhelmed by a lot of discomfort water, I am quite exhausted from hearing the children scream as if There would be no tomorrow. I think you will think "You must be more tolerant" AND I HAVE BEEN IT! I have practically tolerated enough, sometimes I hear the girl sing Frozen every day and she starts jumping, all that is heard in my annex, I really try...
Can't parents be aware? Where are the values of the house? Now the children rule in the house and the parents look like children, in silence, without any attention call. I remember that my mother instilled in me many house rules and one of the most important is respect for adults, young people and children, my neighbors seem to be from another planet who do not know the word RESPECT, once I was walking to my house and the little girl began to make fun of me for having disheveled hair, I did not pay attention until he knocked on the door and asked for a glass of water... With pleasure I gave it to her, she took it and drank from my water can you imagine what she did? ESCUPIED MY WATER! The outrage was incredible, I thought about closing the door in her noses but I remembered that she was not mine, nor my sister or daughter, just a very tormenting girl.
My question is the following: What is happening with the children? Coincidentally I talked about this issue with my grandparents and they told me something very amazing, the education before was so strict that you should ask permission to breathe... I am exaggerating haha but the rules of the house had to be met or if there were no punishments, Grandma once did not order her room and they took all her toys and gave them away, I was surprised by the degree of punishment, I do not think that giving away all her toys for a day without ordering her room was so bad until she told me "All days I left the toys lying on the floor without knowing the value I had towards them, from there I learned to be loving with my parents' gifts.
My grandfather told me that he started working at age 12 to buy sweets since my great grandparents were very strict with gifts, he got his prize. I began to analyze these anecdotes and we have evolved in the relations of father and son, however, there are so many very loving people who forget how to teach values to their children. I do not want to say that we cannot be affectionate with them but that we must also create an atmosphere of positive qualities, that is, a girl should be taught respect for elders, that is not impertinent and much less rude. In my house, there are still rules of coexistence since we are three brothers and each one is different in their own way, but each one must understand their role in the home ... One must help mom to cook, the other to clean and the other continues to water the bushes, those are roles that do not matter sex but to be able to thank all those that our fathers have given.
Even so, it costs us, because we are used to parents giving us everything but in my university stay, I understood that growing can be in many ways, maturity is part of our natural growth, therefore, we can demonstrate our maturity in actions That mothers would be proud. Now why do I see so many changes? I think that mothers are being very passive with education, they believe that scolding and punishment are not good for their children's lives but let me tell you friends, my mother taught me many things and some of them through punishments since my attitude was very challenging, if my mother had not done that, I would be the most rude and intolerant woman you had ever met. The mother next door looks so calm, I have not heard her scream or call attention to the brat girl who screams and cries for everything, I do not know if the mother's childhood was like that or calmer but my God... That lady's daughter is a monster, broke 2 glasses of glasses and laughed as if it were a game. Would you like to have a child like that? She doesn't let me study calmly, I can't stand it, she complains because she doesn't get what she wants and she's barely 8 years old, gentlemen... 8 YEARS OLD.
I do not know what is more incredible, the attitude of the girl or the mother, I understand the position of a mother, they hurt more to hit their children than the same blows but it is necessary discipline, order and values in the home so that the Aura be decent and stable. I do not feel that it is unfair only that my customs are silent, obviously she is a girl and has the right to have fun and run and scream, but not all the time, parents are letting a baby rule the house and it is wrong, it is very bad. What would you do in my case? I am suffering from insomnia because they abuse the noise, I think my head is going to explode from the fatigue I have.
Any opinions, please, I'm here to read them.
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At university, I used to live next to a couple that had arguments pretty much every other day. They would yell at each other until the boyfriend would storm out of the apartment. Then the girl would cry loudly and play the same Green Day song over and over. That's when I learned to hate Green Day. They also had a cat that used to play with the door stopper and make a boing boing boing sound, usually while I was trying to study ^..^
Thankfully the couple moved and I regained my peace of mind. Your situation is very difficult because it involves rowdy children. It seems that you will need to discuss it with the parents, explaining the situation and possible solutions. Or you can play Green Day very loud to annoy them =)
Hahaha I think you cheered me up! Well, I plan to talk to the mother so she can improve what silence is :)
Only the other day, I timed the fit my neighbour boy had (aged 8) at 15 minutes. NON STOP at the TOP OF HIS VOICE. (Two not so very thin walls, and one room inbetween, removed from where I was sitting.) Hy-ste-ri-cal. About what? I made out the words that he wanted to go out and play. It was raining and it was close to dinner time surely. I never hear the mother say anything: I guess she's given up trying to calm the kid down. Sometimes the sister has a tantrum as well (aged 6). Now in this case all three mentioned seem to suffer with something on the Autism Spectrum Syndrome disorder (self-admitted by mother).
I find such incidents distressing. My child (Autistic) wailed the first 18 months of his life practically non-stop. He must have been in great discomfort for just feeling his clothes on his body (?) unable to be distracted by anything, with limited/retarted communication skills at that phase in his life. To go through more of such holloring is a bit much for me at times. My son had no fits around the ages of my neighbour's children. It makes me wonder if she has any "management programme" in place. I can sympathise that sometimes you just can't do a thing short of bludgeoning them on the head to shut them up (not recommended!!). But on the whole I agree with your that most parents (zone out and) are not even bothering to improve their parenting skills. They should be shot (kidding- but that's how frustrated one can get, I totally sympathise with you).
I hope you figure out the cause for the distress: this may help you bear it. One can hardly go to child protection services to complain now, can one? Or can one?
I think the girl feels abandoned by the mother and that's why she tries to get my attention through her games, I think I'm calmer when reading your comment :)