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When reality happens to invade 50% of the relationship with your partner, that is, when they decide to move to live together; That's when everything changes, everything evolves and a new world grows with you two as the only inhabitants.

Suppose we are not talking about Venezuela, because in that case I would have to treat it under totally different parameters, there are many variables that affect the equation, so to speak: living with the mother-in-law, having to work in an informal economy or under complicated schedules, etc.

IF WE THINK ABOUT THE FAIRY TALE

When we see the typical tales of the princess and the prince and apply it to our lives, we will be destined to fail.

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A relationship is not good or bad, it is not so linear as to not be able to jump the gaps in the road. Trying to be a "perfect match" is, at least, exhausting and frustrating.

It is important to create your own reality, your own way of managing the relationship and, above all, not letting others influence what you can think or do as a couple.

HOW MUCH ARE YOU KNOWN?

Many people have the false idea that, because they have met the person in a long courtship, they already know how it is or will be. That idea is very wrong.

Most people tend to control our hobbies when we are in public places or visiting a house, but when we live in our homes, in our kingdom, it is when we do not just let our crazy follies and peculiar habits arise.

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Leaving the socks on the floor, taking many hours to get out of the shower, leaving the lid of the pot up, are some of the most common complaints you can hear from those who begin to share survival in those few square meters.

Even sharing responsibilities, worries and unforeseen events is a stressful part of life as a couple, which you have to learn to lead because otherwise you can consume patience.

Our habits can collide but we must always try to reach a midpoint.

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IT IS FOR SAVING EXPENSES

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One of the ideas that usually all couples who move together tend to have is the issue of saving on expenses. The principle is basic, you would not have to bear the expenses of both houses of each member of the couple but would have unified expenses.

Seen in the simplest way, it is a good thing, but you have to be consistent when you share the expenses, putting yourself in the place of the other and evaluating each other's income and in that proportion, determining how much they should provide to help with the expenses .

Always remember to leave a certain portion of everyone's income free, you have the right to decide what to do with part of your income, something for you and not for the couple. That is, if it causes you to buy something for yourself, you can also do it.

INSECURITY IS NEVER A REASON

This important decision cannot be based on believing that total fidelity will be achieved or that it will be a way to ensure the eternal stability of the couple. On the contrary, the couple must be readjusting each step and each change is a new challenge to solve as a team.

In short, if you do not feel secure in your relationship, it is best not to live together yet.

Living together will not relieve your doubts or your constant insecurity will be pleasant for your partner.

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SHARED TIME... DON'T FORGET IT!!!

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As long as they are not harmful to the couple's relationship.

WHY SO MANY RULES?

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It is always necessary to have rules or agreements that help us not to make coexistence a war. It is necessary to establish from the beginning that it could be what would cause us a panic attack - yes, women are that drastic, but men are not far behind when you touch them with the appropriate key-. That is why saying - for example - "I DETAIN SEEING THE DIRTY CLOTHES ON THE FLOOR" will help the other person take the necessary precautions to avoid knowing your hysterical jijiji side.

The most basic rule is MAINTAIN CONSTANT COMMUNICATION ;)

WATCH OUT!
BROKEN DISHES SOMETIMES DO NOT RECONSTRUCT

Try to make your partner's life a little easier, love is not just a feeling, they are gestures, they are the small details that make life a small dose of daily happiness. But this does not imply that life as a couple is perfect.

When there are disagreements between you, keep in mind that you do not have to make a drama of the small mistakes, that is, both are human and for once you forget to do something it does not mean that you do not respect the established rules.

Remember that words hurt and leave traces, you have to be cautious when claiming. Many cracks can reach from the largest vase.

Sometimes it is good to have a short-term memory for each other's small mistakes, as much as we want our small mistakes to not be a permanent reminder.

Take care of each word as if it were a very sharp dagger, you can hurt a heart to death.

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LIVING THE PASSION AT HOME

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The new responsibilities, the entanglement of discovering their own way of living as a couple, health problems and many other inconveniences that couples go through tend to diminish that time of sexual intimacy that overflowed them before. For this I don't have much to recommend, beyond remembering that you must be creative... stop the world for a few hours and dedicate them only to you. This is a vital part in the relationship, it is not everything, but it is very important.

The bed is not the only place for this kind of activities as a couple, feel free to explore the spaces.

^{REMEMBER: The reductions in the frequency of sexual encounters are normal, but keep the appetite, it is their job to keep that task up to date.}

BUILDING YOUR SITE

And this is part of the most difficult negotiation, where you have to give in and have to be noticed at the same time.

It is not fair that your home represents only the other or only yourself, you have to have a little of both.

Your home will be your refuge from any circumstance on a day-to-day basis and the ideal is that you feel as comfortable as possible.

For all this, the healthiest thing is that both participate in the details necessary to convert a simple apartment into a...

HOME!

CLEAN AND ORDER, WHAT CONFLICTIVE!

Who likes to clean up other people's mess? To nobody!

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That is why it is necessary to make it clear that it must be a "shared nuisance". But there are suggestions that will make their lives easier when keeping the home tidy and clean; For example, accumulating is not a great idea, because the more we accumulate that style of tasks, it will cost us even more to do it ... and it is that every time the amount of clothes to be washed will be greater day by day.

Dedicating to these activities one hour a day, for example, can be a way of not feeling that your time as a couple is absorbed. Although it is also important to be equitable at the time of distributing the activities that each one must carry out, it is also not fair that one only takes care of everything.

Of course, we should not put the fixed activities that each person will carry out, because it will become routine and boring for each one.

ACTIVE ROMANTICISM

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The details that your partner is not expected are the best received. Remember that love like a pet, you must take care to keep it alive.

For my part I apply a very peculiar phrase "I DON'T CUSTOM ANYTHING THAT YOU WILL NOT KEEP GIVING", if you used your partner to go to a hotel from time to time, because why abandon that healthy habit. Everything that helps us avoid the routine is a good idea.

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