Who Should Take The Initiative?

It is known that men or guys should be the ones taking the initiative and if a lady steps up to that position it feels kinda awkward or weird, to say the least.
Men do the wooing, men do the approaching (in most cases), men do the spending often when called for a sitout or hang out, men still do the proposing and all.
It takes a brave lady and one that sees nothing wrong with taking the initiative and it also takes both parties to be understanding enough to accept this setup.



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In some cases too, some men don't really know how to or some probably shy away from this responsibility, and my question goes; Should men always take the initiative? if yes, reasons should be stated, if no reasons should also be stated.
Be as it may, and so far, I've come across men and guys who take the initiative and I've also met others who don't even desire to take initiative, thereby waiting for the lady or girl to do that.
To me that's kinda absurd, read my lips, it is very absurd to let girls take initiative, especially in cases that demand asking a girl or lady out or trying to get her on your good list.
Why leave the work for her if you are the one trying to get her to yourself? Isn't that kind of logical and questionable?



I am asking questions that demand genuine answers so please if you happen to stop by my blog either intentionally or by Chance even by mistake, please do well to consider this question and make an attempt in throwing in your view and opinion, I would really appreciate this.
So once again permit me to throw the question again in case you missed it while reading through; between a lady and a man, who should take the initiative and please kindly state your reasons to back your point or answers, thank you!

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Hello @zellypearl, a good question you got there and at some points I've thought about this too.

I'll say a man should take the initiative. The least a woman could do is leave hints and show little interest to encourage the guy incase he's shy because there are guys like that.

My reason for saying this is because a woman has a reputation to maintain and dignity to protect. The world just doesn't seem to smile at the idea of a woman taking the initiative. It may seem as if she is forcing things or she's the one chasing and controlling the man.

It's much more honourable if the man takes the initiative.

This is my opinion.

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I understand the reputation and dignity part of a lady.
Thank you so much dear for stopping by and leaving your opinion too.

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Ehemmm "clears throat"
I'm not really sure but i think this post may have been waiting for my comment as well.

So many people see it as the mans responsibility attached to him and him alone! Maybe not wrong at all if the woman should also take on the initiative of cause, but the reason why some men wouldn't want to initiate could be that they look more at the feedback and wondering the outcome, what the reply is going to be,how is she going to respond, how its going to end up!
The outcome matters alot so as not to make a fool of yourself especially in public we've seen ladies turn guys down and trust me if you're a guy you wouldn't want to be in that condition!
And sometimes the ladies grade as well.

D7 cannot go to A1 and ask her to mingle up with him. Most times the class matters for the guys unless they see themselves in a higher class than the lady then surely they would be ready to take the initiative a responsibility thank you! 🙂

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Drop Mic! 😂
Well, I never thought of this, you see why it's good to ask questions and get answers like this.
I believe what you said wasn't wrong at all and you've made a salient point, but should it be so? I mean the class kinda thing?
If both parties understand each other and fancy each other, does the class really matter?

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Of course not, if both parties fancy and understand each other then there's no big deal. After all the best friendship you can have is someone that always understands you

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Thanks for your contributions. I appreciate!

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There's no definite answer to this lol, at least from my point of view. I guess girls taking the lead seems awkward to you because it is unusual. At least it used to be but it's getting pretty common these days as some people take it upon themselves to break the stereotype. I think people are different, not all guys have the courage to make the first move. Someone like this will benefit from having someone bolder, a partner or potential partner that's ready to step up when they aren't. And the more courageous guys just go for it thereby taking the lead where their not so bold counterparts can't.
Different situations call for different actions so I can't say yes the guy should take lead or the girl should...it just depends on the individuals involved🙂.

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