The Wild And The Craziest!

Should I say it has been a great privilege to come second? And not just the second child but the second girl? My position in the family has always been fun for me to talk about and whenever I am being asked about this, the response has always been; "I am the second child, the second girl, and the last girl-child" lol. I don't know why but this gives me a different kind of feeling just saying it or knowing this.
However inasmuch as being second could be a privilege to avoid a few other responsibilities the first child or daughter shoulders, it is also not always fun for most people actually.
This is because of the misconception that second girl child is always wild and crazy, some believe they are unbearably stubborn and hard to please.
I have heard some people say they can't date or marry a second girl child or daughter because of this same misconception but then again is it just a misconception? Well, I can't really say, as I am in no position to and why is that? That's because I am a little opposite of what they believe a second should look like or act like, oh well except for the stubbornness part a bit.
And again my mom is a second daughter and a very different breed from what people would could wild and crazy



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My mom is the calmest person you would ever meet, sometimes its seems like she doesn't talk at all. She is quiet, withdrawn, and very reserved, well you could say she is anti-social. And I think her name suits her best; Peace
My question is, she is the second daughter, why isn't she wild? Why is there no trace of craziness in her? Maybe only she can answer that.
But as for me? A few years ago or maybe even now, it seems we switched bodies with my elder sister. She is the actual definition of what people believe a second girl child should look like or what they believe they look like. Many times I've been questioned about being the first daughter and all and it usually pisses me off at times, I don't want that position for anything lol.
A lot of people say my elder sister is too wild for a first daughter, she isn't calm and all and she doesn't really care if you ask me. She has a full dose of craziness in her, good kinda craziness though lol.

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And also, many times people say I act rather too mature to be the second child and when we step out together with my elder sister, my composure and manner of approach are quite different from hers, she is the wild, crazy and social type and people really actually love her that way while I, on the other hand, I am a lot more like my mom, quiet, reserved and a bit anti-social. I don't get to be very expressive when I am just associating with strangers for the first time. I choose to be on my own and just observe.

And what are the privileges being a second daughter gotten me?
Let's start with when I was little? I had the privilege of stealing things from my elder sister and when I say stealing, I mean taking her belongings and using them sometimes even without her permission. Most times she didn't mind but other times, we fought so much about it😂

I don't mean to be a coward but I intentionally shift responsibilities to my elder sister with the mindset that she is the first child and should do more. I usually whine a lot whenever my parents shift responsibilities or duties to me, more than I can handle. I will scream, murmur and complain about being the younger child and should be treated as one.

But when it comes to food and goodies, I always wanted to take the greater share, isn't that selfishness? Well yes, I was just being myself with no apologies 😂 my sister though she is wild and crazy sometimes, she is also one of the kindest and sweetest souls they can ever be and she has always allowed me to get away with all those childish acts.

But guess what? Karma Knocked!
Boom! My elder sister started a tertiary institution and she had to migrate to her school and guess who became the first daughter at age 16years? I. By default, I started doing the things I dreaded, and with my sister far away from home, she only comes to visit doing holidays, and sometimes during Christmas and new year seasons. I was now left to look after my younger one and sometimes the family too.
The responsibility was too much for me and I still did whine most times asking my parents to call my elder sister to come be of help too, how childish I was though 😂😅



Slowly I started getting used to the fact that she wasn't around or close anymore and so I should just live up to that responsibility sitting and looking me in the face. I stood my ground and rolled up my sleeves. It wouldn't be that bad to step up the game I guessed and so I did. Yes, I grew up, from the little stubborn girl that whined a lot about almost everything for just being the second daughter. When I turn around and no one was there, I was forced to face what was placed before me head-on, and this time, there was no one to shift them to, so I learned to do them myself.
There was no more point in trying to prove I was the second child and should do less.
It was more like letting me walk through the door, seeing, feeling, and knowing what it means to be a first child or daughter and how much responsibility is placed on their shoulders, though literally, yet it felt so real.

It's not easy being a first child, so applaud and always celebrate your first seed, love, and encourage them as much as you can. Trust their decisions and make them feel worth the 9 months you housed them in your womb. Those beings are rare gems, and they deserve all our love and care. And to others, don't be as selfish and self-centered as I was back then, help out when necessary, and never shift all the burdens to your elderly ones, they need and deserve a break too. They wear more than the visible crown we see.



Life happened! And I saw through it all. Still, I appreciate the fact that I came second and until the end of the world, that will never change. I have already learned a lot just from playing both positions in the family and I will always choose my original and birth position.
Yes, I will choose the wild, stubborn and crazy second girl child I am even if it might be a misconception. I choose Me and I know I will do much more just being me.

This is my response to the question by the #LadiesOfHive Community;

1️⃣ What was your position (in terms of birth) in the family? How did that experience help you become, or hinder you from becoming, a successful adult?

And to meet all demands, I invite @princessbusayo to participate as well 🙂 Here is the Link to the contest blog page.
And thanks @didiee for the invite



PS: Sorry about the scary photo up there😶😅 and photo is mine by the way unless stated otherwise

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I am Waky, multi-talented, and an optimist. I am zealous about life and all it has to either offer me or throw at me. I believe my existence is by grace so I am a product of grace, perfectly portraying my birth name "Abundant Grace". I am the last of my kind because I am unique and special in a dynamic way. HIVE has become my social HOME and SPACE.

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I always hear that speech about the second child being the untamed. It's so cute that you guys switched places... I can imagine how off it would come to some people how she's forward and you're reserved....😂

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Very off my dear😅😅😂
But I think I have a little of that trait too but it takes people I am very close to seeing those traits lol😂🤣

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It's interesting that there are certain stereotyping (can I even call it that way?) to positions in a family hehe. I guess we all have that one in our society. My first time though to hear about the second born being wild and stuff but you proved it wrong so I guess it's a misconception, lol! My sister who is a second born is also reserved and quiet, so she's another proof, haha!

It's nice though that you stepped up when your sister left for college.

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Sure! I believe it's just a misconception, especially in this part of Africa.
But those misconceptions have made some people to naturally tilt or become those things they say about the second girl child.

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That's the danger of it, some tilting towards it when they aren't originally that way.

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Yes, it is. But can you really blame them?
As generations keep coming up, they naturally find themselves this way but few though not all.

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I refuse to believe that second daughters are wild and stubborn. The reason first born are good is because most times it's because they are pressured to be of good example to the rest of the siblings.
Our second daughter is the most beautiful outspoken. She likes flex sha😃. It's a good mixture 😊

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It's the flexing part lol.
Second girl child of these days eh, I fear them😅😅😂
Too outspoken, bold, and lousy for some 😅😅🤣

But about being the most beautiful? I can take that part 😊☺ (on a lighter note though)

Yeah sure your daughter is a good mixture.

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Hello @zellypearl. Lovely story of being the second child. I'd heard that the youngest was supposed to be the wild and crazy one because of being spoiled. Anyway, you handled yourself beautifully after your older sister went off to school. Like you said, you just stopped whining, rolled up your sleeves, and did it.

The truth is that it made a stronger personality for you to know the responsibility and that you were capable of handling it. Sometimes we are forced to stand up and be responsible. Then we realized it builds character and fortitude if in the right circumstances.

Thanks for sharing your story. Have a good rest of your week.

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Indeed!
I am glad for that stepping stone and courage
Today I am blessed for it.
Thank you for your kind words

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You're welcome crazy girl. 😏

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But when it comes to food and goodies, I always wanted to take the greater share, isn't that selfishness?

This is me too 😂😂 but when it comes to doing tasks, i won't claim seniority again. Lol

I am also proud to be the second child and also the second girl😜 but I took the role of the first born when she wasn't around. I should make a post about this soon. Thank you for the mention 🤗🤗

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Lol, this seems very much alike then🤣😂

Alright dear, you should!

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