Playing out life's' cards

This past weekend was filled with a lot of emotions for me and my siblings. I knew it would come to a sad end but I never expected it to hurt that much. Turns out I’m a lot more emotionally connected to my brothers than I expected.

Image source
In 2010, my only sister left for the UK. Since then I’ve only seen her 3 times and so far I’ve lost all communication with her. This wasn’t something I wanted, however, I decided to live with it and not fight her decision to cut off from us. The break from her wasn’t half as painful as my recent separation from my brothers.

My older brother Belemo is scheduled to leave for the UK this Friday so he came for a final visit. It felt emotional from the start as my partner and I picked him and his wife up from the airport and brought them home. It was my chance to introduce him to my (possible) future husband because he may not get the chance to attend my wedding if all things work out as they should.

Over the past weekend, Ebingo came around so all four of us got to bond and talk about a lot. We dissected our past, our present and made plans for our future. It felt amazing and it brought back memories of similar conversations we’d had as kids except this time, our plans felt a lot more real.

Belemo finally got to talk Ebingo into applying for a Master's program in the UK as well so he can meet up with them next year. While I make my plans to move to Canada the year after that. It’s a long while but I’m willing to wait and work it out.

Life has been somewhat kind to me and my brothers and I never imagined a time would come when we’d have to see ourselves move to different countries and make plans to change the lives of our parents in the next 5 years.

I felt blessed in those moments. While I have 5 other siblings whom I have no actual relationship with, these 2 have managed to keep our bond strong, active and consistent for many years.

I have my fears for the future but right now, I’m working and that’s the best I can do.