Debt sharks

For the longest while, I’ve done my best to remove finances from a lot of my relationships with people. I realised that involving money in platonic relationships tends to show a side of a person that you never expected, a certain greedy side that makes you question the person’s sanity.

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I’ve experienced this severally with people. They start off being really good friends but the moment a monetary request comes in and is granted, they immediately forget that we were once friends and put up the worst possible behaviours.

Last December, a person who I considered a friend came with a small money request at a time when I didn’t have a lot of money and I told her what I was giving her was all I had at the moment but she promised not to disappoint so I gave it to her. She eventually deleted my phone number after refusing to pay back. The debt was less than $15.

I found her behaviour to be insane because as much as that was all I had at the moment, it wasn’t so much that I couldn’t live without it. Eventually, another friend of mine contacted her, collected the money and sent it to me. She lied about everything she did just because she noticed I had made her terrible attitude public.

I found that even with romantic relationships, their attitude towards a debt they owe you tells you a lot about the kind of person they are. A partner I had for 4 years was so toxic that he would get mad at me for having money and giving it to someone else who wasn’t him.

For a person like me who has very few needs and sometimes little regard for money, I tend to fall into this trap of being owed and neglected quite often. For one thing, I feel shy about asking for my money back because I don’t feel like I should have to ask. I’ve owed people so I know that courtesy demands that I reach out to the person and let them know when I won’t be able to pay up in time.

In the end, getting money involved in your relationships can’t always be avoided but you can only hope that when it does happen, you don’t find yourself in the hands of a bad person who doesn’t regard your finances enough to give back what belongs to you.

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