REJECTION AND REFUSAL

Rejection is one of those unpleasant experiences that we encounter in life that make us feel bad about ourselves, and make us lose our self confidence. It usually an experience that we may not be able to escape from at one point or another in our life. It is often portrayed in form of disapproval, refusal or negation of one's idea, or person.

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I have been rejected several times in life but I didn't let it get to me to the extent of losing my focus in life. The first set of rejections I experienced in life almost took a toll on my general well-being but through the support of my parents, and siblings, I was able to handle it. It took me three years before I got admission into the University after I graduated from College.

I applied three different times and my name was not on the admissions list after I had waited eagerly to join my colleagues in school. I started feeling bad that I may not be able to catch up with my mates or the feeling of staying in class with people that we were not in the same "class". The feeling of being stagnant made me very sad but at last I got admitted to study my dream course.

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Furthermore, rejection while in search of work could be frustrating and discouraging as well. The way some employers address and talk to you as if you are not human makes it even worse. It is the beauty of life to get a well-paying job after school to make life easy and fun but it becomes a cause for concern when you get rejected in companies you've applied to for a position. The most annoying part is when you are offered the job on the premise of trading it with your body. Really? With all my qualifications, you didn't see me worthy of a job until I give you my body? These kinds of offer gives so many people, especially women, sleepless nights.

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We are all prone to rejection but the only thing that differs is that some people handle it better than others. Rejection is something we must learn to handle effectively, be it in the workplace, among your friends, family etc. It may be hard to accept rejection but sometimes it is important. If for instance, you went for a job interview and you weren't hired because you don't have enough qualifications, you must admit it, because most times, it is true. Instead of feeling bad about the rejection, take it as a point of duty to take up professional courses in your field that will boost your CV. This is one of the benefits of accepting and agreeing to being rejected.

Apart from work-related rejection, or educational rejection, there are other forms of rejection such as relationship rejection, be it romantic relationship or friendship.