RED FLAG? KEEPING SECRETS IN MARRIAGE

There is a woman who have different properties she put on rent in different locations in a big city such as plazas with shops and residential apartments. But, she kept it all secrets from her husband until the truth came to light. One of the husband's friend wanted to rent a shop for his business and he needed to merge two spaces together so as to get one large space. The agent ín charge of the properties let the man know that it is only the owner of the property that could approve such request.

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The agent arranged a meeting with the owner and the man so that they could talk about the terms and conditions. The man was shocked when he got to the place and he saw his friend's wife as the owner of the property. The moment the woman also saw him she hid her face and started begging him not to tell her husband. To cut the long story short, the man told her husband and they discovered all other properties that she's has been hiding for a long time. The shocking one is that the house the couple are living is owned by the wife and the husband didn't know he has been paying rent to his wife for years through the agency. These series of revelations marked the end of their union.

This is a real life story and it is being argued by different people in different ways. Some people strongly condemn the woman's behavior while some are indifferent until they hear from both parties. Some people are of the opinion that the woman may have her reasons from hiding her properties from the husband. Therefore, it may be difficult to come to a conclusion without hearing from both parties. It has been argued that being honest in marriage does not necessarily mean that you should share all your thoughts with your partner. A major skill that couples must learn in their marriage is to know what information to share and when to share it as well as what not to share. However, it must not get to the point where your husband (indirectly) pay rent to you.

Of course, there are genuine reasons for keeping some aspects of your life secrets from your husband or your wife. There are some embarrassing parts of your life or even painful experiences that once you talk about it will bring back so much hurtful memories. In some other cases the person involved in the secrets may have confided in you not to mention it to anyone so you may be breaking their trust if you tell your spouse.

But the question remains, is the woman in question in the story above right to have hid so much from her husband?