PARENT REJECTION OF YOUR PARTNER, WHAT NEXT?

You met the man or woman you love so much. You're making plans for living the rest of your life together as a couple but that would not be possible without one thing - your parent's approval. You must introduce your partner to your parents, seek their approval and blessings before taking a step further. However, all your plans may be disrupted when you take your partner home to meet your parents and you realize that they don't like your partner.

Photo by Shapecharge from ISTOCKPHOTO
It may be hard to accept or come to terms with your parent's opinion as an adult. As a teenager, it is their parental responsibility to guide you and ensure that you make the right decisions in all aspects of your life but their rejection of your partner would be painful to accept as a grown-up man or woman. It is expected that your parents should respect your your choice and be convinced that you have made the right decisions.

It is an exhausting process to attempt to convince parents who do not support their children's choice of life partner most especially when they have reasons such as culture, religion and so on that they do not conform with. In order to deal with your parents not accepting your choice of partner it may be crucial to establish boundaries with your parents. This means that you must create standards for yourself so that your parents will see you in this light as well. Most children have an history of crazy lifestyles with their parents which make it difficult for the parents to beat their chest and say that their child have made a good decision. The more you respect yourself and live a healthy lifestyle that is worthy of emulation, the more you your parents will respect your choice and decisions in life.

Also, you need to be quick to set limits to what you share with you family when it gets to the point where they have to directly insult your partner. You should not put your partner in the middle of all the filth that may come with the rejection from your parents. You must ensure that you take charge of the situation and protect your lover by all means. He or she will notice all the efforts you make in saving the relationship and how you contend with your parents not to insult her personality despite their rejection.

Parental disapproval of relationships can last for so many years if not handled properly by all the parties involved. The affected party may be affected for the rest of their lives when such issues come up because usually it is when lovers have got to the point when they want to settle that they introduce themselves to parents. It can be very difficult to start from the scratch.

In cases when parents disapprove of your relationship, they may try to make you feel guilty for not obeying them but on the other hand you must know that they are your parents because they have married themselves and gone through the phase you are about to start, it is time for you to build your own family and life. In my opinion I feel it may be better to leave your parents unhappy than hurting your spouse. This means that you may have to distance yourself from the family for some time and set a boundary that must be strictly adhered to even if it has to do with avoiding family events and so on.

The right to choose your life partner is reserved for you and every external influence may not be too welcomed. You're the architect of your life and you decide what you want and what you don't want. It is not always a pleasant experience for your parents to reject your future partner - it can be very difficult to deal with.