DON'T MAKE THE MISTAKE OF JUDGING PEOPLE BASED ON THE OPINIONS OF OTHERS

I have heard false information about people from other people and it affected the way that I see them and when I get closer to these people I got to know that all I have heard about them is nothing but far from the truth. It is a wrong thing to do to pass judgment on anyone based on the opinions of Mr A or Mrs C. You never can tell maybe they had a messy experience with these person due to one or more reason, so they will make it a point of duty to condemn and destroy the character of such person.

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Perhaps, it happens to everyone or it's only me. If I'm going to be meeting someone for the first time and I have gotten some clue to how the person behaves, I will meet up with the person with the impression I have about them. It may be quite difficult to impress me but with time if I realize that what I was told about the person is not totally true, I will feel bad for being a bad person myself. I had to put an end to judging someone based on what someone else told me when I have realized overtime that people do have different experiences with different people and it is based on their own experience that they draw a conclusion whether a person is good or not.

In one of the places that I have worked sometimes ago, I made friends with a girl, she was one of the first person I met in the company. In less than three days that I started working, she was already telling me how bad the Administrative Manager (female) was and how much she gives staff unnecessary pressure at work. She fed me with so much false information about this woman that even though we haven't had too many one on one encounters she was already pissing me off. I experesed my detest for her by greeting her casually or not even greeting her at times. But, thankully she didn't notice all these before I noticed that she was a nice person.

I observed the way she relate with other staff with respect even though she's older in age and in status. She's a cool, calm and friendly woman. But, she does not tolerate laziness or truancy. This is the issue that my friend is having with her. She is the opposite of what the woman likes. So, she doesn't treat her with a soft hand but a iron hand that she deserves. I had to beg the woman for forgiveness in my mind (I didn't tell her tho). This was an eye opener that it is bad to judge people based on the opinions of others.

There are many relationships and marriages that have ended because of what a third-party said about their partner. Most times we fail to ask questions and verify if all that was said was true or false. We act based on the anger that your significant other have done something crazy to you especially when it is about infidelity. We are always quick to draw conclusions. You never can tell maybe the person is jealous of your relationship and is looking for ways to make you both go your seperate ways. Humans can be filled with a lot of evil thoughts, you know? And on the other hand, it may be true, so it is better you verify before taking action.

It is crucial to make it an habit to never make the mistake of taking a crucial decision based on the opinions of a third-party without taking time to weigh your options well. Most people base their judgment about someone in a way that suits them.