Ladies of Hive Contest #85 - Handling corrections or criticisms from other people.

Greeting Ladies of Hive Community!
Nothing more better than having a day off and doing what I want. Today I come back with LOH contest #85 hosted by @ifarmgirl by answering the first question: How do you handle corrections or criticisms from other people?

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To live in life, surely we have received more criticisms from other people inlcuding our relatives, friends, co-workers and even from strangers. There are right, wrong corrections from them to us. The priority part of me need to do is about knowing myself exactly as who I am.

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Why?

If I do not understand yourself in detail, how do i know exactly what they criticisms are appropriate to me or not? Each person has their own perception and their own thinking, so do I. Criticisms always have two sides, it depends on the way we perceive it.
Most of the corrections I got in my life are about my lifestyle. I am a person who always want to get rid of the order of social. Therefore, 80% of my lifestyle is against them. For example, in my country, after graduating, youngsters always have a burden of finding out a good job, earning more money, then getting married, having kids and enjoying life. My mom sometimes asked me to get married and try to have a stable life. Whenever I travelled or went somewhere in a long time, she felt tired and gave me some advices, criticisms about my decisions. She was scared that I will not be happy if I continue doing this alone.

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So what will I do after receiving corrections or criticisms from other?

First of all, I always give a big thank and appreciation to them when they have a consideration to me like that.

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Secondly, I will not put any judgment or reaction to their words at that moment because inside us because we may not be concious to give out any decision in a very short time. And the “me” always operate with our mind, sometime our determine or our consideration are affected a lot by the “me” and our emotion.

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Thirdly,I will reflect myself with those corrections: I just spend more time to think about me and about what they said, analyse which is appropriate to me and which is not at that moment. To put any judgment without observing myself clearly is as place my head in a noose by myself.

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Finally, I will absolutely accept my mistakes and learn how to change or fix myself or actions if that criticisms is right about me at that moment. If it is not, I will give it far away from my mind lightly without any hesitance or confusion.

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Well, from what I said, it sounds mechanically but it is quite useful for me to handle such a problem like above. I would love to invite @jelenaa join with me in this contest #85 ^^. I cannot wait to listen your thought about this issue.
Have a good day @jelenaa, @ifarmgirl and all Ladies in LOH ^^
Give a big hugs to all of yaaaaa ^^



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Your mom must be worried she won't be seeing any grand children from you soon, hehe :) Kidding!

Your approach to corrections or criticisms is amazing, you don't react on impulse, and you thank those who give them to you, reflect upon what they say and work on those you think will benefit you and let go of those that don't :) I must congratulation you on that. Not many can really face corrections the way you do, especially thanking the person who gave you the critic :)

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Good morning @ifarmgirl .
You always support and encourage me in any circumstance, I am very appreciated and grateful about that ^_^

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Good morning too and you are very welcome❤ Always a pleasure to build each other🤗 Thank you and cheers to a wonderful Wednesday

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I love your approach to corrections and criticisms, by firstly saying thank you when corrected.
Reflecting and zeroing out what you don't feel right about is a brave one indeed.
I enjoyed the read.
Have a best day.

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Good morning @jmis101 ^^
Well, I am so so moved when reading your meaningful words. You and other Ladies here made my day, you know? ^
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Thank you for always supporting me emotionally ^_^
Have a nice day, sister...!

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This is usually the social standard and it is fixed in so many girls who end up frustrated if at a certain age they don't make it, and life is more than studying, getting married and having children, it doesn't work the same for all of them.

I got married and ended up divorced and alone with my daughters, outside of the social standard and singled out for it.

So your method is completely logical, know ourselves, don't react and reflect.

Greetings my dear, keep living your life your way.

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Good morning @isgledysduarte
Thank you so much for sharing your story me to. You are so so brave to do these things, sister. Though I am still single, I am quite scared to go through the matrimonial period. You are a great mom, at least I know it ^^ You certainly devote all of your love to your daughter, cheers! Keep it up and I love to listen to you all the time ^^. Have a nice day, sister.

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Finally, I will absolutely accept my mistakes and learn how to change myself

Learning to change is key to our evolution.

!LADY

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Your words made my day, @tibaire!
And to find out the key, human needs to observate clearly themselves, I guess ^^
By the way, good morning sister!

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They always want to pigeonhole us in social schemes. The most important thing is how you feel happy.
If you feel happy with those schemes, that's fine, stick to them. Otherwise, fly to where you feel better and do everything you like. By being happy yourself, that happiness will be transmitted to all around you. It doesn't matter that for now they don't understand you. Just accept them as they are even if they criticize the way you are.....

Be happy!!!!

LADY

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Much appreciated @katleya for what you said ^^
You are right, the most important thing is how I feel happy and how I can accept them as they are, it is the key to reach the balance in inner-self.
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^ Have a nice day, @katleya .

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