Weekend Engagement Topic: Recognition
Weekend engagement
Although I really don't have any issues creating content since we left for Spain, I have more than enough to cover content weeks ahead to be completely honest, but sometimes one would like to get input about a different topic to write about, and that's how I felt today. Therefore I checked the weekend engagement community just now and found a freshly posted blog with a few prompts to choose from.
My prompt of choice
Private or public recognition
On the occasions you help others, or do positive things for them, do you like or expect public recognition or do you prefer private thanks or gratitude. Explain why in either case and give an example.
Why this one? Well, I think helping should not be done because of the reward or recognition that comes from it but because you wanted to help without having expectations.
Willingness to help
I've always been someone willing to help others and I don't expect to get recognition for it honestly. I don't even think about that when I'm helping someone with something, helping someone comes from the heart, not from a place where I think the other one should do something back for me in return. If you are expecting something back for your help, I think it's not genuinely helping because you should make that clear to the other person so they can make up their own mind if they even want your help on your terms. If you aren't clear about them to it, it will most likely end up in a huge miscommunication or worse, a fight about this in the future. Some emotions will keep brewing as you feel you should get something in return for the help while the other person thought you helped them without expectations. This is a recipe for disaster IMO.
No need for public gratitude
I thought about this part of the question and wondered what would be a situation where someone would love to find public recognition? I'm certainly not the person that wants to be the center of attention, so personally, I can't think of a situation where I would have liked public recognition for something. I think that when you are seeking public recognition, you are mostly "helping" for the feeling it gives you rather than the good thing you're doing for the other person. I think it's safe to say that you're just looking for a way to grow your ego even, but that may be a bit too much to state in some cases as clearly, I can now overlook situations where people would seek this simply because I'm not that person.
Kindness comes from within
I have often done small random acts of kindness out of the blue just because I felt like doing them at that exact moment. I truly believe that just a smile, even without any words says a thousand times more than words. Of course even without expecting something in return, helping someone will give you a good feeling inside, but that's totally different than expecting to be thanked in public. It will be interesting to see if others agree on this matter, and I will make sure to read some other entries this weekend.
After all, we're all unique and have our own thoughts and opinions, which is fine, this was mine at least.
Thanks for reading and I hope you have a lovely weekend!
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I have a similar view to you. I've been around people that do it for their ego and it's never sat quite right with me. It always came across as disingenuous.
If I help someone or do something for someone, I don't even do it with an expectation of thanks, I do it because I wanted to help out. I don't personally like it when people keep scorecards of "Ten years ago I did xyz for you, you owe me" either because then everything is transactional and is not coming from the right place.
Thanks for your post. I wish I had week's worth of content to write about lol.
Exactly my thoughts, but looking back, I did encounter plenty of situations like that myself or with close friends and their friends/family. It's honestly shameful in most cases.
I didn't have that when we didn't move from Budapest to Spain yet, last week we did with just a few suitcases and everything here has been inspiring so far. Every food moment, every walk we go on and from tonight there will probably be some extra inspiration thanks to exploring the environment with a rental van.
I just pick some stuff every day and save the rest for later when I'm out of inspiration, great help to have some folders with pictures to write about.
Have a great weekend and thanks for your comment, I appreciate it!
Ah! A fantastic topic meant to be discussed because nowadays Hahah people don't offer help anyone without expecting gratitude or something in return, rather they ask what is in it for me. People that still offer help unconditionally are rare and hardly will one come by them. I say they are special beings.
I for one do things and forget about it and then later I hear "remember what you did for me?". I can't remember would be my answer 😅.
Can we share your weeks of content together 😂(just kidding). I am glad you are you have settled in Spain successfully. Have a wonderful weekend ahead 😊
Absolutely agree, that is the essence of my view of karma as well, whereas some people seem to see it from the opposite direction lol Like karma is a way to gauge who owes who what, or what 'the universe' owes them. That way disaster looms, as expectations rarely live up to reality. But if, as you rightly point out, you go into these things without expectation then all is a gift 🙂
I love doing raok just because it is the right thing to do. Seeing someone smile without knowing who did something for them is blessing for me.
Thanks for sharing and have a wonderful weekend!
I agree! I have done stuff like that too on several occasions and it's so worth it! :)
You have a wonderful weekend yourself!
Absolutely so worth it:)
Thank you for that!
I agree with all of you! Gratuitous help brings a lot of positive energy if it is done from the heart. That's enough, if you ask me. Not everyone can do that. Not everyone understands that...
Have a great weekend!
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I share your idea, @thisismylife public recognition is not needed for actions, whether they are generosity or kindness, because when it is truly given, it is an act of absolute freedom and detachment
This exactly! Thank you for stopping by!