WHY DO YOU KEEP RELATIONSHIPS? WHAT ARE YOUR CIRCLE OF FRIENDS BASED ON?
I know it has been a while I had published in this community, but in order not be so far away, I chose to use this community to pour out my thoughts. For today, I share my thoughts on the topic; Why do we keep relationships with people? What really is the essence of our circle of friends..
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I know that many relationships or friendships doesn't last because it is not based on a factor that is important to both individuals. Some only try to make friends with you because it is beneficial to them for being your friend but really, do they really care about you or how you do? do they even really ask or just ask casually?
This is why when we allow people close to us, they would only be around us for the main being because they are yet to see what they want from us and surely, after they get what they want, then they vanish. You would not even sight their break light.
What inspired this topic was due to a discussion with a friend of mine who was telling me a scenario of people only caring to be close just because they want something from them and not just because they even care at all. True, I agree you make friends with people that can impact your life but as yourself, what can I do to help this person vice versa.
From my definition of friendship, this is when people are there to support each other, give advices that help each other out and not be focused on monetary reward alone or let's say, personal gain.
I really appreciate the circle of friends I have developed. Although, I have many friends but I am little friends. In this world today, people who you may have met quite often may be called termed friends. I see it as just a name that I know this person, but believe me if you are my friend, it is not only based on just knowing you alone.
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Most of the time you need to define the circle of friends of people you have around. There is a saying that; WE ATTRACT WHAT WE ARE. If we are the kind of person who support a friend most likely we may get the same response back. Although, in the kind of world we are in, people may be unpredictable, they may just vanish at the point when you need them the most.
I appreciate @josediccus and @k-banti because these two guys have been awesome in my life. Hive made me know @josediccus and we grew to not just become online friends but get to meet in the physically and hangout often as well. While for @k-banti, I have known him for years; about 5 years now if not more. They are the type of guys in which I can tell almost everything, in fact everything because we are supportive to each other. We share ideas, we share thoughts and feelings.
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Definitely, my circle is not restricted to this two alone, I have many other friends that I can relate this to both Hive and physical, but I believe we have the test of time to see how far our relationships can go and how strong it can be.
Just note, if you notice your circle is not an healthy relationship, friendship is not by force; move on. Don't stay in a relationship that is not focused on helping each other grow but only focused to the benefit of one person alone. If you are that person, also you should learn to be of help to your friend and not be so selfish (if that's the best word to use).
WHO IS STARSTRINGS01
Starstrings01 AKA Giftedhands is a Hive lover, a Nigeria musician (Guitarist) and also a student who studies Mechatronics Engineering in the Federal University of Agriculture, Abeokuta.
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There is need to define our relationship and know the kind of people to be included in our circles. There are basically different kinds of friends who may teach you lessons along the way and we must be careful not to be entangled to the extent of not moving away from an unhealthy relationship. Thanks for sharing this in the community.
In life, you'll always come in contact with people who will get close to you just for the sake of what they stand to gain. That isn't exactly a nice thing.
But what we should be careful about are friends who are only gaining from you without having anything to give back.
Friendship should be symbiotic not parasitic. I expect that I should be able to gain from my friends and also give back to them.
yeah man, a symbiotic friendship aids at building each other and not a one way side of a thing. Man good to see you engaging around, when you go write post na, abi na school work still dey hold you ni?
You're mocking me. 😭😂😂😂
No be so boss, I'm not busy or anything, I've just been trying to get my activities in place.
I'll be dropping something soon boss. Insha Allah!
I totally agree with you on this. There are parasitic friends and there are bad influencers friends also and it's important we understand our personality and goals in life while making friends.
Those friends that are just after what they gain from me and don't add value in my life not even motivational words, I drop them with wisdom, my circle of friends matters a lot to me and am "in" in searching for those quality friends that I can work together with to achieve success in life.
the choice of friends we make go on to affect our lives on a long run...
Am glad to have made u a friend and a family.
Aww brother.. thanks very much. I really do appreciate your words. I am glad to have you too, our memories together can never be forgotten.
You're one of the realest people that this chain has made me to know, its been years of always hanging out and learning and growing. You and Kay has been very great people and I applaud you both for the selflessness. You guys are the real MVP in a cycle where friendships are formed on monetary conditions.
Yeah exactly, our discussions goes far above the monetary conditions attached to it. I love it when we gist about our relationship lives 😅😂. I almost forgot, we didn't complete our discussion on our next meeting. We cannot miss this easter.
Awesome post @starstrings01. I totally agree with your thought. Friendship is expected to be mutual in terms of life and support. It should be reciprocal and not an avenue to get what you'd wanted and leave. Thanks for your this awesome contributions bro.
thanks brother... I really appreciate your your comments.
Exactly 💯💯💯, Any form of relationship that look parasitic in nature is bad because it will be draining to the other person. Relationship ought to be for mutual benefit and not one sided.
yeah exactly... you get the whole point.
Relationship is something we all cannot dodge. But it's difficult to go on with the type that is not healthy. However, my father do say something and I quote...
Meaning no matter the situation, someone you've kept as a friend 15 years ago can come back to be of help to you today even if such person is useless to you in the past. You never can tell. Keeping this principle, I've personally seen it work for me a few times. And for that reason I try as much to keep every relationship I belong to because if I don't need it now I may need later in the future.
yeah true, it is an asset. I see it as a connection. We don't know where who we know now would get to tomorrow. So we should keep the relationship healthy.
I agree with you 💯 on trying as much to keep relationship as an healthy one.
Nice reflection, thank you.
I think that we have friends and we brothers (or sisters), you know?
I consider that each relationship should exist if it expands each of those involved.
Sometimes, when you are making New friends its like, this conection makes us grow? Be better person?
And in other cases, that grows so much like simply nothing can separate those people from your side; it is unconditional love beyond time, space, and any other factor... Its forever.
hmmm. at that level the form of friendship is very strong. I can relate, thanks for your input...
Personally, I always love to keep my circle very small because I have no strength to entertain the drama that comes especially with the ladies. I'm not really a "one man squad" but I keep the smallest circle and I'm okay with that.
And yes, define the friendship or relationship is very very important always
smiles, I know that ladies have lots of drama compared to guys, it is not always easy for you guys. Defining relationships is something that I have learned over the years.