RE: Adult Friendships
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I think one of the biggest things missing from all societies, and definitely some more than others, are places to connect with people without any obligation or expectation. There are always people trying to get something from others at a club or bar, and there are often subtle or not so subtle power struggles, gossip and politics in most communities.
This is why I fell in love with the local concert scene when I was in high school and local cafe culture in Tokyo after graduating (although it’s slowly dying now). These were places where people had a reason to gather but didn’t really need anything from you because they came for something else.
It always gets more difficult to find after graduation, but in that kind of environment, friendships can grow organically and don’t easily become something we are stuck with.
Someone told me that after graduation it would be near impossible to make new friends and I didn't believe him but now I see the reality.
I successfully made a friend from Instagram and while I love hanging out with her, I'm not the easiest person to link up with physically. I can only stand the outdoors for a few days a month.
I understand that feeling now. I used to be so desperate for social interactions but since I got more focused and since so much became touristy and overcrowded in Tokyo, I hardly want to go out.