Meeting online friends is great, but...

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Would you meet up with your online friends? Why or why not?

How will you be feeling?

What advice would you give to someone who is considering meeting their online friends for the first time?

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To be honest, meeting a virtual friend is really not an option for me. I have so many reasons why I don't want to do that, But, even if that's the case, that doesn't mean I never imagine meeting all of my virtual friends from here and there.

The truth is, I feel like just imagining meeting them is enough for me already, I'm already happy with that. Although I really want to meet up with them all, like for the first time, as in all of us, ahhh, it's making me feel excited to the core just thinking about it.

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But, in the end, I still have this doubt or uncertainty that will result in my backing down from doing so. I am thinking twice—no, actually not just twice, more like I'm thinking about it the whole day, and I have this bunch of questions running wild in my head.

"Should I go?" "Is it really okay for me to do that?" "Will they like me too, or how should I even act in front of them?" Something like this: I am really different in a face-to-face situation, but talking with them virtually is just as easy as pie for me.

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And, if we do it face to face, I feel like I have to pretend, like I'm a good person, just so as not to embarrass myself. I don't know; that's just how I do things. I'm used to it already. I may act like a fool if I face everyone. This kind of thing is really hard for me.

I know there's really nothing to overthink, but I can't really convince myself not to do that. Me and my mind are like two different people with such a huge difference in personality. Aigooooo. But letting myself meet with everyone is still possible for me.

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And I need to prepare myself more to allow myself to do that. I need a lot of courage. I'm sure introverted people will understand me the most here. It's not an exaggeration; fears about facing other people are just too much, no matter how close you are to them.

But once these fears were gone, I had no problem meeting them. I just have to put on a facemask for me to feel secured, lol. If I hide myself using a facemask, it is not that difficult to do. So to the question of whether I would meet online friends, it depends.

But I'll definitely do it once everything is settled in my head. Because I know that it will definitely make me happy once I meet them. Although there are a lot of uncertainties, I know I will still enjoy it despite those negative thoughts in my head.

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And what advice would I give to someone who is considering meeting their online friends for the first time? Hmmmm, bring a pepper spray and a lot of stunts for self-defense? Lol. But seriously, not every online friend we met are good people.

Some hide behind a mask like they are the kindest people that exist. But deep inside, you don't know they are already mincing you to pieces. So better be ready than sorry later. And aside from that, just bring yourself and enjoy meeting a new friend.

But never let your guard down...

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Ako, walang problema makipag meet basta nasa malapit lang. hehehe!

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Aww ruff.. I have the same overthinking, pero fuck it.. Imma take courage and go parin..

I'm also thinking of buying pepper spray tho.. 🤔

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Gogogo Judeeeee, masaya talaga sana to ee kaso huhu haha.

Magaling kana din namam sa self defense no, and pepper spray maganda yan pampabulag saglit haha

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Dalhin mo ba sa meetup ang pepperspray? Nakakatakot naman. Di na lang ako pupunta. 😅 LOL.

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Hmmmm, bring a pepper spray and a lot of stunts for self-defense? Lol.

Haha too funny. I hope if you ever meet virtual friends for the first time your humar is intact.

Personally I'd rather meet a group of virtual friends. That one on one stuff might be a little awkward, lol

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Hahahahahah, I'm not sure about that, lol.

Me too, at least if in group everything will be easy if.you have that one friend who's good at communicating

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You are a star and everyone would like you I know that!
Many of you filipinos meet up na, so all good.
I did meet three online Hivians in January and it was fantastic!

!LUV

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Ehehehe, that's awesome. For sure soon you'll met more in th4 future. I'm so jealous (。ŏ﹏ŏ)

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Yes, it's a lot of work for me too. It's so hard to decide when my thoughts keep changing from time to time. 😂😂

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Hahaha, ikr, thanks to our non-stop overthinking everything end up that way ┐( ˘_˘)┌ haha

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But seriously, not every online friend we met are good people.

I remember a story sa facebook I read few years ago, ung girl is meron siyang nakilala online tapos akala niya girl tapos nung nag meet sila boy pala and then ni-maniac daw siya... Aigooo, i could also bring a pepper spray if ever may imeet ako online friend hahaha.

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Yan isa pa yan, okay lang siguro if he did for personal reason, pero yong mang manyak, yan ang di katanggap tamggal. Naalala ko yong mga clan clan b4 kapag may eyeball, never din ako naka attend sa mga ganito ee

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Be patient and kind to yourself: Building friendships takes time, and not all interactions will lead to deep connections. Don't be too hard on yourself if things don't happen overnight. Be patient and kind to yourself throughout the process.

Some hide behind a mask like they are the kindest people that exist. But deep inside, you don't know they are already mincing you to pieces. So better be ready than sorry later. And aside from that, just bring yourself and enjoy meeting a new friend.

I completely Agree, we will never know someone truly well.

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I'm really kind to myself but there is a time too that I am very harsh haha can't help it, sometimes doing that helps me too but the Drawbacks is it's making me feel more insecure. Ahhh, I dont know anymore. I'll jusv leave it like that.

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It will be a pleasure for me if I will meet you in person ate ♥️🤗
Lalo na kasi ako, kahit virtual friends lang, there is something in me that I get attached to everyone, kaya I will be the happiest kapag nakita ko kayo lahat ♥️

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Me too, I hope magka chance and my anxiety wont be on the way para maisakatuparan huhu

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Hmmmm, bring a pepper spray and a lot of stunts for self-defense?

why not?

just bring yourself and enjoy meeting a new friend.

pero dito ako. Bet!

!PIZZA

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bring a pepper spray and a lot of stunts for self-defense

Dahil protective din ako sa self ko, baka dapat may vidcalls before the meet-up para alam mo tunay na itsura niya. Always share location to your most trusted friends. Emergency contacts are ready. Meron akong app Life360 which helps my family know kung nasaan ako via gps 😆

Saka lang ako makakapag-enjoy kapag alam ko safe na kamiii

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Ay oo nga no, video call just to make sure uwu. Magkikita din naman dapat wala ng shy shy if ever ehe.

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It really depends on the type of community/online friends that you are meeting with. In the first place, how did you connect with them online? I'm guessing through a common hobby/interest and nothing close to shady. For example, a group of online moms is safer as compared to a generic online group (higher chances of creeps).

Might as well, bring a friend, most especially if they're also part of the same group. Worst case scenario, think of an exit strategy as well. Let's say the group you are meeting is safe, but maybe not your cup of tea, then at least you can politely exit as needed. :)

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can relate to the hesitations and urge to go at the same time haha, heellooo ruffa chan am still alive, and you're always be one of those virtual friends whom I would like to meet waahhh

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