Happiness Begins With Difficulty, That's Life.
Happiness Begins With Difficulty, That's Life.
A happy life does not come from easy choices, but from the difficult choices we make every day.
Hello everyone, this time I will discuss how to dare to take big decisions in life, sometimes difficult choices are things we need to do for a better life.
We often choose to do nothing because we are afraid of change, we don't dare ask for a promotion for fear of being considered a bad employee, all of these fears can actually prevent us from achieving big things in life.
Whether you dare to take big life decisions or choose life to flow, sometimes the philosophy of flowing life can mean two things, we accept what happens in life or we don't dare to make decisions, for fear that these decisions will make our lives worse.
In life we are often faced with a choice, sometimes we choose to change but maybe we often choose to be in a state of fixed and unchanging conditions.
Let's say we've been working in our current position for almost two to three years, but there doesn't seem to be any sign of promotion or career advancement. Do we dare to convey this to our superiors, or do we remain silent for fear of being considered a bad employee.
Our choices will determine how our lives will be, but we need to realize that not choosing is not always good, not choosing means that we may lose the opportunity to change our lives for the better.
Some people they need a moment that finally makes them change, the team told their own experience that in 2004 there were two events that changed their lives.
First, his close friend, who was young, had died from an unexpected cancer, the two girlfriends who he thought would become his wife, actually decided to leave, his girlfriend couldn't stand the lifestyle.
When he broke up his girlfriend gave him a memento to remind him to stop working after 05.00, this was a form of his affection for him, at that time he was practically a workaholic, he worked 14 hours a day, seven days a week he worked desperately to build a business first.
Until one day he became more and more tired and he found a style to change his life, he started doing an exercise called premeditation malorum in simple language which is an exercise in visualizing the worst scenario in detail.
This scenario contains anything that you are afraid of, so you don't dare to step up and write everything down on three sheets of paper, he calls this exercise the first setting, similar to goal-setting but the focus. Even though that is the biggest fear in life, maybe you can also try this.
On the first page you write always active, what if blablabla write down all the things you make, you are afraid of things that make you anxious and so on. It could be a matter of asking other people out on a date, asking for a promotion, resigning and so on, for him this is a matter of planning a vacation after four years of working without a day off.
This holiday will be used to get off the bus for a month to go to London. In the first column is the Defi column, write down all the bad things that might happen if you make that decision.
Maybe you can write 10 to 20 things for example for him to write what if he goes to London but the weather is bad, it rains all the time, this makes him angry and all these things go to waste.
In the second column is the private column, in that column write all the answers, what can you do to prevent what you wrote in the Defi column from becoming a reality or at least reduce the possibility of it becoming a reality.
Going back to the London example earlier, the team could have used a portable blue light to make themselves better, so that the last depression was a repair column. If your worst case scenario materializes, what can you do to minimize the impact of the loss or not, you can ask for help to solve the problem.
in the case of London being able to go to another city or other area with better weather, that is the first page. on the second page write down all the advantages if you dare to try or not what you want to work.
Finally on this third page, the most important thing is the price, if you do nothing, many people think that doing nothing is better than doing something and failing, but sometimes you miss doing nothing. .
For example, you don't try new things, you don't dare ask for a promotion, you don't try to find job opportunities in universities four other. How will your life be in the next year, the next three years, try to write in detail in terms of emotional, financial and physical when doing this.
When they fail, many experience stress, many whose businesses are also on the brink, many love relationships fail. If we do nothing is not a wise choice, those 3 pages help to solidify the choice of taking a long vacation.
We often suffer in our own imagination than in reality, we often like to imagine about the bad things that happen in this life. Maybe it's the way we survive, but if we do this continuously, it will make us not dare to make decisions.
We choose to be silent and let life flow but we are afraid that it might not happen, if it did happen, maybe I already have a way of minimizing the risk or even solving the problem.
We suffer more in the imagination than in the real world, all great things in life can only come true when you dare to make decisions and fight fear.
Take an easy life then your life will be difficult, on the contrary make a difficult choice then your life will be easy this quote really hit me. Difficult choices such as eating, being healthy every day, exercising regularly, deciding on a toxic workplace Christmas, etc. are not easy.
Most people choose to just go with the flow without daring to take those decisions, but when you dare to take difficult decisions then you will live life so much easier.
For example, healthy living due to regular exercise and healthy eating, low stress and high work motivation after leaving a toxic work environment and so on.
What is the conclusion..?
First, not making a decision is not a wise choice, we are often afraid to make big decisions because we choose to look for safety. But we need to realize that not choosing is not always good, not choosing means that we may lose the opportunity to change our lives for the better.
Both choices are difficult even your life will be easy, a happy life does not come from easy choices but from difficult choices. If you want to have a lot of money, a healthy body, a smart brain, all of this comes from easy choices but from difficult choices that you make every day.
Third, we often suffer in our own imagination rather than the actual reality, we often like to imagine about bad things that happen in life. Maybe this is our way to survive, but if we do this continuously, it will make us not dare to make a decision.
We choose to remain silent and let life flow, but what we fear may not happen, if it does happen we may already have a way of minimizing the risk or even solving the problem, as a result we suffer more in the imagination than in the real world.
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