LOH#85 -CRITICISM; YAY!! Or NAY!!?

This weeks #ladiesofhive community question one

How do you handle corrections or criticisms from other people?

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There are a whole bunch of different types of criticisms;

• Constructive criticism
• Destructive criticism
• factual criticisms
• Negative and positive criticisms etc.

Everyone has an opinion, that is one thing I have learnt in this life.
No matter what you do, someone somewhere has a contrary opinion, someone somewhere feels he or she knows better, someone somewhere feels it’s his or her duty to correct you or caution you.

With the use of internet these days, it is most rampant. Opinions and criticism flying left right and center. Most which are usually unsolicited.

Let’s know what criticism is first of all

criticism is the appproval or disapproval of an action or a person based off on personal perceived faults or mistake, it is a judgmental view one has concerning another persons actions or inactions.

I am one who fancies the idea of constructive criticism, personally I feel it is a means to grow and better oneself and craft. I recall when I just started selling banana bread, I made a few samples and gave some to my friend and my husband to taste, their opinions helped me because i used them as my market audience and their feed back helped me know what and what I needed to correct in my recipe. The next batch I did, I also gave them and they told me where and where in the taste and consistency I had improved and I took notes and knew what to adjust in my recipe.

That is an example of constructive criticism. Now I won’t take what they say bad about my product too seriously because they politely told me, ohh it’s not moist enough, it’s too sweet m, am not feeling the banana in it, I think it’s to salty etc, they were actually helping me because I sort their opinion and I needed them to criticize it like they were actual buyers of my product.

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Nowadays bullies are all over the internet dropping unsolicited destructive criticism. I saw a mother of four kids cry and disable her social media account because other mothers kept coming for her, telling her how and what to do with her kids. It was overwhelming the amount of criticism this mother got in a daily basis about her parenting style. Her comments section was always a sore sight, other women imposing and criticizing her efforts as a mother, there were also persons who dropped their opinions respectfully and with regards for her but some other people were so hateful and destructive with their words and she couldn’t take it anymore she disabled her account.
She isn’t the first nor will she be the last person to be met by such fate on the internet. The world seem to have lost the ability to mind their business or respect boundaries with other peoples life and so a lot of destructive criticism will continue to fly around the internet.

My mother would say there is a way you can tell someone to go and burn themselves they will take it to heart and actually go and burn themselves and there is a way you can see someone walking into fire and you can use words to draw that person back.

If your true intent is to correct a persons action or inaction, then do it respectfully with love. Take my niece for example, if you correct her in disdain or shout at her, she would do the same thing again and again, she doesn’t regard your shout or scold, but I notice when you sit her down and explain to her why whatever you are correcting her about isn’t right and why she shouldn’t do it again, she heeds faster and more to pleasant advice then shout. To me thats how criticism is, when you make use of harsh, wicked or hurtful words in a bid to correct someone or pass your opinion, you are doing more harm than good.

Personally I do not like destructive or negative criticism, and if you pass it to me, I will give you back harshly and disrespectfully, I will come for you so hard, you would regret ever dropping your opinion in the first place. I don’t keep Silent to destructive criticism because some of them can be born out of jealousy or hatred so when you bring it to be I will oblige you and remind you that I am not the type of person to mess with.

Everyone makes mistakes, but we should all learn to give our opinions or advice where it is sort and even if we feel the need to drop an opinion or advise or criticism it should be constructive and done with respect for the persons feelings and on love.

Yes invite @atyourservice @joydukeson to participate in this weeks contents in the #ladiesofhive community.

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